China's single population has exceeded 240 million. What does this mean?
is by your side, among every 7 people, there is a single person.
When we are talking about singleness, we have to reflect on what causes this phenomenon.
In theory:
In the environment where men are more than women, men are more than 30 million more than women; girls should have more advantages and choices in love and marriage.
However, I saw a set of data online: single girls over 25 years old are increasing year by year.
Not only has the age of first marriage increased, but now there are more and more girls who don’t want to get married.
Girls who are over 30 years old will be called "older leftover women".
In fact, if you tear open the fig leaf of older leftover women, you will find that the reason why they are single is half twisted and half unwilling.
saw a post online.
Girl, in 1993, her evaluation of herself is: all conditions are average.
Whether it is appearance, work, income or family conditions, they are very average.
She had no expectations for marriage, but due to her parents' "majesty", she had to compromise and attend blind dates again and again.
?
Either others look down on her or she looks down on the other person, and in the end her mentality is "numb".
is in the 3rd year of age or over 30 years old, and girls are facing an embarrassing situation.
stays in big cities and cannot accommodate the body;
stays in small cities and cannot accommodate the soul.
In fact, the reasons for older single women are mainly analyzed are the following.
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would rather be insignificant than to be abusive (not willing to give up)
would rather be insignificant than to be abusive. To explain in detail, it is:
When she was young, she didn't want to find someone to marry casually. She longed for love and wanted to get married for love.
But as she grows older, her ambitions become bigger and her desires become more and more.
especially those girls who go to big cities to work hard after graduation. Their horizons have been opened, and the circles around have expanded. There are more women who are married well in the circle and have a good life.
While comparing, their "requests" are also amplified in their subconscious mind.
So, they are getting further and further in the "picky" marriage and love market.
As you walk, you get older.
It is said that girls are 30 years old, and that's true.
When a girl reaches 30 years old, she found that the excuse of "not being too bad than being too bad" is no longer suitable for her.
"Older Leftover Girls" are like a pair of hands tearing apart the fig leaf and pressing them on them.
At this time, they really became: they can't go back to their hometown and cannot stay in the big city.
For example:
Almost all girls who work hard in big cities have the idea of "marrying to the indigenous people", marrying to "rich people", and marrying boys with good conditions.
You think, what is the final result of 100 girls fighting for the 20 high-quality boys in the " 28 Law "?
There are 80 girls left, they are losers in the competition; but they are not willing to give in and plan to continue looking for opportunities in the next competition.
The remaining 80 boys, who were unable to stay in big cities, decisively retreated to the second-tier or small cities in their hometowns, and lived a life of food and clothing without worries about their whole life.
Do you understand?
said, "It's better to have nothing than to be bad", but what I think is business.
In the marriage and love market, the biggest difference between men and women is:
Men can find their position well and know that they should find a girl of equal status;
"new era single women" who have high education, high income, and face-saving work cannot find their position.
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The better the girls, the longer the " window period " the longer the
relatively speaking:
The better the girls, the better the girls, the longer they will be single.
Internal factors:
Her own vision is high, because as her conditions get better and better, she has come into contact with more and more circles.
In these circles, there are many men with equally excellent conditions.
Therefore, their standards for choosing a spouse will also increase with their own vision.
External factors:
Most boys will develop "inferiority and timidity" when they encounter a girl with good conditions.
Men are very sensible because these girls are too strong in aura, giving people the feeling of "very noble, can't talk, can't afford to get married".
And what about girls with average conditions? They won't have too many "unrealistic fantasies".
In other words:
The only bargaining chips that she can take is youth and beauty; if she doesn't find a girl with similar conditions to marry sooner, and her competitiveness will decline in a few years, she may not be able to find a boy with such conditions.
Those girls with good conditions work hard step by step and have their current achievements.
She was unwilling to accept that she could not accept her return to her hometown to settle down.
native family conditions are her biggest regret.
She hopes to marry the natives of big cities through her own efforts, but she finds that she is still a "three-no person".
What is the "three no people" in the blind date corner of a big city?
answered: "No money, no house, no household registration."
Perhaps compared with women of the same age in my hometown, she is indeed very excellent;
But in the blind date corners of big cities, her conditions are still not enough.
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What is the way out for older leftover women?
First of all, you must find your positioning and clarify your mentality.
If you plan to get married and are unwilling to die alone, then develop a "more feasible" mate choice plan for yourself.
If you don’t plan to get married and are ready to be single for the rest of your life, then work hard to make money and save yourself enough money for your elderly life.
And, in terms of mentality, you must overcome several hurdles:
The obstacles of parents, the persuasion of people around you, do not care about the opinions and evaluations of the outside world, and can tolerate the loneliness and helplessness of your old age.
Secondly, love and marriage are not that complicated.
Don’t complicate simple problems, nor do you simplify complex problems.
is complicated to fall in love, but it is actually very simple to get married.
You just need to figure out what the purpose and meaning of your marriage is.
list your conditions and find people with similar conditions to yours in the same database. You are the most suitable marriage partner.
Getting married is that simple, but most people are unwilling to be so "sloppy and get married".
Down in love or get married, single or not, these are all choices in life.
As long as you are willing and have the courage to stick with it, you don’t have to worry about the outside world’s eyes.
As the sentence written by the writer Yishu :
"I want a lot of love. If there is no love, then I need a lot of money."
Today's topic:
How do you view the older single woman's "rather than having nothing"?
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