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Zhang Haochen once said: "Some people are joking and you feel awkward, which means that this is not a joke but a ridicule." This sentence is a sentence I like very much. The sentence
also told me that when facing some people who are joking and doing behaviors that ridicule or hurt me, I should choose to refute and express my rejection.
Today I give this sentence to you who have also been hurt by jokes and humor.
When I faced this situation before, I was more at a loss and smiled foolishly to cater to it. I insist on self-improvement and expand my cognitive landscape to slowly learn how to deal with these things and these people.
Comparing my past and now, I learned to reconcile with myself, and I learned to refuse and become more confident, more principled and independent, and finally some good changes are made from the road.
Of course, learning is endless, and growth is endless. I haven't done well yet, and I still need to continue to grow and learn.
Today I wrote 28 tips for self-improvement and shared them with all girls. I hope you can make a strong comeback and become what you yearn for in your heart.
01. Don’t treat sarcastic and meanness as humor. Humor makes each other happy, not that you are happy, but embarrass others.
02. Continuously improve yourself and don’t be self-satisfied. We can see that the excellent girls around us are always growing.
03. Learn to seize the opportunity that can broaden your horizons, because only if you have seen the world yourself can you not be deceived by others' words.
04. It is indeed difficult to eradicate the lack of self-confidence and inferiority sensitivity brought by the original family, but you must have the courage to try and make yourself better.
05. Everyone is a unique existence, and so do you! So, you have to believe that you also have your own highlights.
06. Don’t be afraid to explore the outside world, don’t be afraid to go out. Some of my friends are in my hometown from school to work. They didn’t want to go far before, but now they don’t dare to go far. It’s not that it’s not good to stay in your hometown, but when you are in your hometown, you should also let yourself go more places and meet more people.
07. Persist in improving your own pattern, cognition and thinking. As long as you continue to improve these three things, you will become more advanced and more transparent.
08. Read more books, read all kinds of books, and read books that are useful to you. Reading is a low-cost and high-reward thing.
09. Adhere to your principles and bottom line, and don’t easily break your principles by unnecessary people.
10. You can be an introverted girl, but don’t be a girl who can’t express herself. You can exercise your expressiveness in daily life so that you can finish your words when it’s time to speak.
11. Dig for yourself a skill that is suitable and interesting, such as cooking, painting, dessert, writing, etc., and add some skills to yourself.
12. Don’t deny yourself just because of other people’s denial! Others can choose not to recognize you, but you must believe in yourself.
13. Don’t be afraid of rejection, rejection will not make your essence worse. Being a bad person who is afraid of being a bad person and not rejecting everyone, will make others think you are easy to bully, without principles and no bottom line.
14. There are actually many things you can do alone. Don’t try it just because you are afraid that you can’t complete it yourself.
15. Before asking others for help, try to find the answer yourself. No one likes someone who does nothing and starts asking others to help.
16. You don’t like others to cause trouble to yourself, and others don’t like you to cause trouble. So do what you can do when you do things yourself, and don’t rely too much on others’ help, especially in the workplace.
17. You can be gentle and kind, but you can't be weak and powerless! When you should stick to your own principles, you should stick to your own principles and have your own sharpness when you should have your own sharpness.
18. You may not have a strong aura and can speak gently, but you must have your own opinions and positions.
19. Idol dramas can be watched, idols can be chased. But don't take yourself too deep, after all, there is not so much romance in real life.
20. Reject love brain! Reject love brain! Reject love brain! important things say three times, don’t have no bottom line for a boy, or even give up on yourself.
21. Learn to socialize upward and stay away from low-quality social circles. But the "low quality" social circle does not mean the circle of the poor, but a circle that cannot be integrated into and cannot bring positive energy to oneself.
22. Stay away from people who always morally kidnapped or hurt you with humorous jokes! A person who is truly worth it will care about you and consider your feelings, rather than doing things that hurt you even though you know you will be unhappy.
23. Strengthen your heart and enhance your ability to withstand stress. There are pressure everywhere in life, you must learn to comfort yourself.
24. See the world more often. Although you may have nothing but seeing the world in the end, you may have nothing.
25. Be a girl who dares to "refute"! When facing scolding, don’t be timid and refute. When facing different ideas, speak out your own ideas.
26. Be a "thick-skinned" girl! Say no when it is time to say "no". Express it boldly when it is time to express it. Don’t be afraid that others will get angry because of your rejection. Don’t be afraid that others will laugh at you if you are not expressing yourself well.
27. Be a girl who can "make money"! Financial independence will make your life more exciting, make you more confident, and give you more choices.
28. Be a "spiritually independent" girl! A girl with independent personality, thoughts and spirit will become more and more exciting and more transparent in her life.
The above are the 28 tips for self-improvement shared today. I hope I can become what I yearn for.
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