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No one can accompany anyone to the end of his life, except yourself.
We never know when the person we love will leave. The only thing we can do is to cherish and love each other when the other person is still there.
If one day, you are unfortunately widowed and your wife takes the lead, then the smartest way of living in the rest of your life is to refuse the following three things. This is your greatest wisdom and your greatest responsibility to yourself.
1: Refusal to remarry casually, this is irresponsible to yourself
There are some people in life who think about remarrying shortly after their wife leaves. Some of them are afraid of loneliness and feel panic and helpless about the unknown life, so they want to find someone to accompany them to eliminate loneliness and emptiness. Some people blindly follow the crowd, thinking that this is a trend and a proof of their own charm.
No matter what your original intention is, you must understand that remarrying is risky, especially in the second half of your life, remarrying casually is not fashion, but irresponsible to yourself.
There are many middle-aged and elderly people who get married or live together. In fact, they have no feelings, they only need and use each other.
Instead of putting yourself in many uncertainties, it is better to manage yourself carefully. Even if you are alone, you can live a good life. As long as you put your mentality right, as long as you know how to live for yourself.
2: Refusing to despise life, hurting the body, don't lose to a momentary emotion
People stay in a habitual environment for a long time and suddenly withdraw from it will be uncomfortable and even feel panic. This is extremely normal and understandable.
In the past, when your wife was there, you were well taken care of. Although there would be quarrels between you, you would support each other, accompany each other, and snuggle together, and you could feel the sense of security and the warmth of home at all times.
But one day, your wife is gone, your life and spiritual comfort zone will no longer exist, and the balance rod you rely on for years will be broken.
So you are afraid, you are helpless, you wish you could end your life and follow the other person.
But calm down and think about it carefully. If the person who left first was you, don’t you hope that your wife can live a good life without you? By the same token, your wife also hopes that you can cheer up, muster up the courage to spend the rest of your time.
It is unwise to hurt yourself. Don’t lose to temporary emotions, as this will only make the departing wife and the children around you worry.
3: Refusing to rely too much on children and letting yourself be a self-reliant and self-reliant and live a clear life
Some people completely lose confidence in life after their spouses leave, feel that their future is no guarantee and full of unknown risks and uncertainties, so they become anxious and discouraged.
can actually be unnecessary.
If you make a big fuss with your children because you are too worried about what has not happened yet, the whole family will not be able to live in peace. If you lose your partner, will your children also lose their father or mother? They are as uncomfortable as you.
Don’t lose your own opinions, calm thinking, and even more so because of major changes in life.
The more you rely on your children, the more you cannot be an independent person.
But the rest of your life is still a long way, and people have to rely on themselves after all. Children can be filial to you and support you in old age, but most of the time, you are still with you.
Do not rely too much on them when you can take care of yourself in life.Find the focus of life, cultivate interests and hobbies, communicate with friends, organize your emotions and calm down your mood...
Slowly you will find that life is not that difficult. If you look at everything a little more open, you can live a little easier.
After being widowed, no matter how old you are, I hope you can be a strong person and a sober person. Taking life and death lightly is a pattern. Although it is difficult, this is our practice and a necessary path for us in this life.
Facing things that cannot be changed, instead of being depressed and unable to recover from now on, it is better to face them with a different attitude. Then you will find that there is another village with dark willows and flowers, and there is no scenery in life.
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