When we were young, we were carefree and were not afraid of the long time. Only after adulthood did I realize that life is a one-way train, and those who have passed and missed will never come back; those who have lost and lost will no longer have them.
A person's maturity begins with accepting these impermanences.
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html When I was 119 years old, I had a car accident one weekend on the eve of graduation.
It was raining heavily that day. I waited at home for a long time but didn't see my father selling fish in the vegetable market back, so I decided to give him a raincoat. Unexpectedly, halfway through the way, I was hit by a truck that broke into the sidewalk.
I fell into a severe coma and transferred from the town hospital to the city hospital. I once issued a critical illness notice . Fortunately, I was in danger and finally saved my life. But I missed my graduation assignment and was forced to stay at home for more than half a year before I could walk normally.
thought that the wound healed and everything would be restored to its original state. Who knew that life did not stop making things difficult for me.
After I recovered, I followed my aunt to Wuhan and worked as a waiter in a star-rated hotel. After working for half a year, I always felt overwhelmed.
Many times in the morning regular meetings, I didn’t hear my name standing in the back row, and I always hurriedly replied “arrival” with the reminder of my colleagues.
At first I didn't care much until one time I made a big mistake in the private room service. That time, 10 guests came to the private room. They wanted to order abalone, so I wrote 10 copies according to the number of people. I only realized when the food was served, and the customer only ordered 5 servings, but I didn’t hear it clearly.
This accident not only caused me to pay nearly a month's salary, but also was tactfully persuaded. At the same time, it also forced me to face up to the fact that the car accident caused the sequelae of intermittent hearing loss.
This series of blows made me fall into despair, feeling that life is a burden.
I locked myself in the room and ignored anyone knocking on the door. Three days passed, and my father could no longer hold it back. He kicked open the door and cursed at me: "The family can't sleep and eat for you. You can't see it. You only have yourself in your heart. Who can you deserve if you do this?"
I was sobered by my father's scolding.
How can life be without twists and turns? If you encounter small things, you will magnify them infinitely. Aren’t you denying everything else?
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I regrouped and began to find new ways out.
At first, I learned to make clothes in a garment factory in town. I don’t have to deal with people too much, but the work is too simple and boring, which makes me unable to get interested.
Later I had an opportunity to go to elementary school to substitute classes, which was a small difficult job. Because I like it, and it is rare, I cherish it very much and deliver it with care every day. The school is also very satisfied with me. After the former teacher returned to school, the principal enthusiastically invited me to teach the pre-class. But early childhood education is not a field I am good at, so I still reluctantly left.
Then, while my enthusiasm was not diminished, I found another substitute job, taught fifth grade mathematics, and happily signed a one-year contract.
just didn't expect that the same job, different environment, and encounters were completely different.
The teacher who works with me has a strong personality and often points fingers at me, which makes me feel uncomfortable. I endured it many times but still lost control and confronted her for a while.
Then, I was summoned by the principal and persuaded me to leave on the grounds that hearing impairment affects work. After half a year of class, our contract was terminated. Although
still cannot escape discrimination, I opened it this time. I know there are many things I can do, and one or two falls will not affect my continued running. In the days that followed, I worked in education and training tutoring, and changed my career to study and writing. I became more and more confident in my life direction and never doubted my own value again. Life is a process of constantly facing problems and solving problems. If you calmly bear the pain of facing and solving problems, and bravely break out of the wind and rain, you will meet your even more amazing self. 03
I think, A mature person should dare to draw his sword in difficulties!
All the way, growing alone all the way. The biggest lesson life taught me is to accept its impermanence.
I have experienced many difficulties alone. I am no longer the coward who troubles my family whenever there is a problem, talks harshly whenever I get angry, and hides whenever I don’t like it. I have learned to actively embrace every change in life. No matter how difficult the days are, I will slowly get through and calmly embrace the next journey.
From another perspective, the impermanence of fate is not all a problem. Its arrival provides us with opportunities for growth, forcing us to tap the potential to get out of the trough of life alone.
A person who has experienced ups and downs but still loves life must have many treasures extracted from pain in his heart, which is an endless wealth to enjoy. Don’t be easily defeated by life. You should know that even if you taste all the flavors of life, you will still be happy for the rest of your life.
Things in the world are impermanent and as small as ants, we cannot control our destiny, but can only control our attitude towards destiny. Therefore, learning to accept, learn to cherish, and learn to enrich our souls in all challenges is the wisest way to face the trough.
