Why do people like to say " filial piety is the first "?
In fact, the word "filial piety" appeared as early as the 11th century BC, and this is why it is often said that the Chinese people have a culture of filial piety flowing in their bones.
A part of Henan Province, a woman complained: "It's not that she is unfilial, but that her mother-in-law is stubborn and sensitive." Why did the woman say such words?
it turns out that the woman's mother-in-law is older, and her legs are not as good as before. Since her father-in-law passed away, she has been living with her son and daughter-in-law's family. Maybe it's because she doesn't want to be a so-called burden, or to prove that although she is older, she can still help her son and daughter-in-law.
So, the mother-in-law, who has difficulty in legs and feet, especially likes to go to the fields to help, but because her legs and feet are really not good, she thought of just lying on the ground to do farm work. Seeing this, her daughter-in-law dissuaded her many times. After all, living in the countryside, a bubble nail may drown someone.
The woman said to her mother-in-law anxiously, "I told you not to do farm work, why do you have to do it? If you do this, what do the villagers in the village think of me?"
In fact, there is another very important reason why a woman says this. Her husband basically ignores the family affairs. In the eyes of outsiders, she, the daughter-in-law, is the main person in charge of housework. At present, the mother-in-law with inconvenient legs and feet is difficult to do farm work on the fields. I believe that the person who is not clear about the inside story can only say angrily: "Maybe this daughter-in-law treats the elderly harshly."
is a person with a sharp mouth and a heart-warming heart. She has always been very careless, but the mother-in-law is a delicate person. Sometimes, a woman can break up a few words inadvertently, and her mother-in-law can understand it in several meanings.
The woman said, "Sometimes, my mother-in-law is angry with me, and I don't know what I did wrong or hurt her heart."
The woman's mother-in-law was also a strong person when she was young. The woman was "educated" by her mother-in-law many times, but now, seeing her mother-in-law's lonely appearance and for the sake of family harmony, the woman still let go of her former grudges.
But perhaps, the mother-in-law still felt a little uncomfortable or guilty. After all, she was not good to her daughter-in-law in the past, but now her daughter-in-law treats her very well. Therefore, the woman's mother-in-law wants to make herself feel at ease by doing more work.
Although the woman kept scolding her mother-in-law and told her not to do farm work and to enjoy a peaceful life at home, her mother-in-law was never able to enjoy the care of her daughter-in-law with peace of mind. In addition, she is a sensitive person and believes that she will rely on her daughter-in-law to take care of her in the second half of her life. Therefore, she should do her best to do something to avoid being disgusted and becoming a burden.
To be honest, whether from the perspective of the daughter-in-law or from the mother-in-law's perspective, both parties have their own reasons. The former does not want to be a charge of abuse of the mother-in-law and is poked by the villagers at the backbone, while the latter does not want to be a person who eats nothing and wants to prove that he is not a burden by doing farm work.
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