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I am Ye Feifei yff, a non-famous emotional instructor, who writes heart-wrenching emotional texts, hoping to bring you some spiritual comfort with warm words.
"We Are Not Angels" writes: "A mature person often finds that fewer and fewer people can blame, and everyone has his own difficulties."
When you have this kind of perception, it means that you are mature. This state of mind cannot be felt without a certain degree of life experience.
When we reach middle age, we will find that many people or things will no longer care about them, but will accept them and learn to let go.
Forty years old has always been a hurdle in life. Whether you can walk through it smoothly depends on whether you have the mentality of facing difficulties calmly.
Everyone will usher in forty years old. At this important stage, it is difficult to have a smooth sailing without a positive attitude, a strong heart, and the courage to face everything calmly.
So, at the age of 40, there are "three hurdles" in life, and you will be happy after you pass it.
1. The pressure of life doubles, which is a hurdle that middle-aged people cannot escape
When middle-aged people reach middle-aged people, the pressure of life is getting bigger and bigger, and the burden on them is getting heavier. Everything needs to be carried by yourself.
At this time, if you are not strong, not optimistic, and not actively work hard, you will easily be tripped.
You can’t escape every pressure and you must do your best to make life smoother.
You need to bear all the expenses in life. There are old people above and young people below. You cannot be slacking off, and there is no way out.
Every middle-aged man, who is not holding on, they have no way to say anything, only swallows all the pressure in his stomach, and then fights silently.
So, in order to successfully overcome the hurdle of 40, you cannot be unemployed, you cannot have no income, no matter how hard or tired you are, you must work hard to hold on.
I read a sentence: "For middle-aged people, sending away the people I raise and raising the people I raise, as for themselves, there is no way to take care of it."
Every middle-aged person silently carried everything, silently speaking, not disturbing. All the sadness can only be swallowed by oneself, and all the difficulties can only be carried by oneself.
They dare not rest, get sick, and don’t have any deposits. In order to create a better life, they can only work hard with a more positive attitude. This is the hurdle that must be overcome at the age of forty.
2. The aging of parents is an unreliable pain
When people reach middle age, they will not be tripped after experiencing all the hardships of life, but they cannot bear the aging of parents.
Every middle-aged man has to face this cruel reality. When he grows up and becomes the pillar of his family, he finds that his parents who gave birth to me and raised me have become old.
, and even, many people will watch their parents grow old in middle age. Although they pretend to be strong on the surface, they have already collapsed inside.
However, middle-aged people cannot fall down. Even if they are hurt, they must work hard to support their families, because behind them, there are children, and they are the strongest support for their children.
When your parents are still there, middle-aged people can rely on their parents to seek some comfort and care, but once their parents are gone, the burden of the entire family will completely fall on themselves.
No matter how fragile they are, they will learn to be strong, because this family will rely on themselves in the future and cannot be defeated.
Therefore, Every middle-aged person needs to face this hurdle. No matter how many wind and rain you experience, you must work hard to live .
As it is written in "The Wind Rises": "Even if the wind blows, you must live well!"
3. Children's incomprehension is the pain in the hearts of middle-aged people
In reality, many middle-aged people choose to work outside when they are young and run around. In order to make their lives better, they have to separate from their children.
However, when they reach middle age, they suddenly find that the children they have been thinking about are very unfamiliar with them.
is not close to children, and it is difficult to coordinate when speaking and doing things. Many middle-aged people are not understood by children and are becoming more and more difficult to communicate. The relationship has long gone apart.
So, middle-aged people can only blame themselves. They did not accompany their children at the beginning, but now they are not understood. It is entirely caused by themselves.
But who can understand the sadness behind this? It’s not that they are cruel or that they are irresponsible, but that they are too helpless for life.
It’s like there is a saying: “Stay behind, I can’t give you a stable life. Leaving you, you can’t give you the company you want. The choice of life is really too difficult.”
For every middle-aged person, they are not afraid of hardship or fatigue, but what they are afraid of is watching their children gradually become distant from themselves.
When you personally feel the alienation from your children, your heart is already broken, and all your grievances can only be swallowed into your stomach.
Therefore, middle-aged people can only work harder to create a better life for their children, hoping that one day they can let their children understand that their parents' love has never left.
Ye Feifei yff emotional message:
Summary, at the age of 40, there are these "three hurdles" in life, I hope you can get through it.
Double the pressure of life is a hurdle that middle-aged people cannot escape; the aging of parents is a pain that cannot be relieved; the incomprehension of children is a pain that middle-aged people are.
No matter what kind of middle-aged people are, they will experience these three hurdles. Only by facing them with a strong face and working hard can we make our lives better and happier.
When people reach middle age, there will always be many difficulties and crises. However, as long as you maintain a positive attitude and work hard, you will eventually usher in a better life.
When you work hard, you can stand in front of your family and say with confidence: "I have given you, everything I can give, the best of everything I can."
This is the best decency for middle-aged people!
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