As the saying goes, family harmony is prosperous. Only when a family lives in harmony can life feel happy and fulfilled, and everyone will enjoy it. If you are always full of complaints and quarrels, then even if you are from a wealthy family and don’t have to worry about food and clothing, you will still feel extremely depressed.
When we were young, we might not be deeply involved in the world and lack breadth and depth of the problem. After a long time, when we truly grow up and mature, we realize that these "internal friction" in our home are brought by our parents or from our original family. This confirms the truth of the "causal cycle".
1. The relationship between husband and wife is not harmonious. The quality of a husband-wife relationship directly affects whether a family is harmonious and happy. Husbands and wife should be tolerant, considerate and take care of each other, and maintain appropriate distances to respect each other. This is the best state. If you are too close, you will definitely find that the other person is full of countless shortcomings and gradually complain and dislike.
If you are too distant, have cold emotions, and use cold violence between each other, such a family environment will definitely make everyone feel stressed and the atmosphere is extremely tense. In fact, just keep each other in mind and care more about each other's words, it will make each other feel extremely warm and full of endless motivation. More praise and less complaints can naturally reduce many conflicts.
2. Disrespect and unfilial to elders. The quality of a family environment is very important for a person's growth. When we were young, our parents taught us by example and deeds was the best education. If in the original family, our parents are not very respectful to their grandparents, and they are not filial, and are often full of dislike and dissatisfaction, and even quarrels often, as children, we will also be impatient, become impatient, and lack politeness and respect for others.
When we grow up, it is easy for us to bring this bad personality to a new family. When our children are also influenced by it, similar personality traits will be formed. This has been passed down from generation to generation, forming a vicious cycle. We must reflect deeply on ourselves and change our wrong behavior bit by bit to make our descendants better and better.
3. Pampering or being too strict with children. The same is true for children's education. Putting aside the differences in IQ, memory, comprehension, acceptance, etc., the way children's education will still be passed on to the next generation. When our parents were young, we were gentle and patient, and we were disciplined peacefully when we encountered things, and we were moved by reason and emotion. We would also educate our children in the same way.
And once we are scolded, roared, criticized, and doubted by adults since childhood, we may also use the same method to "hurt" our children. Too spoiled and too strict will lead to a lack. Only when parents constantly improve, learn and set an example can they teach their children the best education.
