text｜Zhuyuan Xiaozhan
It is not easy to get together in the vast sea of people, especially to set up a new family.
"Teen and tongue are so in love" will inevitably lead to accidental injury, let alone two people. Since we are together, what we should think about is how to better maintain the relationship.
In life, there will inevitably be bumps and bumps. After all, each of us has different growth environments and different abilities to accept things. In this way, we will inevitably have differences in life, but such differences are not a reason to hurt each other.
Many times, if we are more patient, the result may be completely different. Nothing is absolute, and the relationship is the same. After all, we are not getting married for divorce, but for each other to get married for a longer time.
Since we are together, no matter how we quarrel, don’t say these three things at any time, it’s really hurtful.
1. Everyone knows the story of "divorce" every time you keep talking
"Wolf is here " everyone knows.
No matter three things, I may not take it seriously the first one or two times, but once it becomes a catchphrase, one day it will really become a reality.
There is a conflict or a problem with two people. More things should be solved, rather than just choosing to escape. It is said that "it is better to demolish a temple than to break a marriage." Unless you really do something unforgivable, there is a solution.
The first vow to get married was really liked, so that you would hold hands and make promises. When you are angry, you will inevitably say something excessive. Maybe you just want the other party to admit your mistake first, but a momentary impulse can easily cause an irreversible situation.
2. Don’t always ask friends of "opposite sex" to complain about
The so-called "same sex repulses each other, and the opposite sex attracts each other".
There are not so many pure friendships between the "opposite sex". Even if there are, some complaints should be avoided. After all, the one who can really talk to you should be your husband, who is your closest person.
Some husband and wife relationships will really end with other friends. After all, no man is willing to keep an excessively close relationship with men other than himself.
When dealing with adults, be sure to be sober and don’t do things that are confused. The relationship cannot withstand betrayal. Once there is no trust between each other and if you want to save it, there will be no room for you.
If you want a long-term relationship between husband and wife, some relationships will be broken if they are broken.
3. Don’t go back to "My Mother’s Home" anytime,
In fact, it’s really naive to go back to "My Mother’s Home" when you quarrel.
Adults are not that fragile. Two people are inevitably quarreling together. They are close to their parents' home. It is easy to go back, but if they are thousands of miles apart, maybe before they get home, your anger will be gone.
Besides, when you go back to your parents' home once or twice, you may coax you in his eyes. Once this happens for a long time, others will seize your weaknesses and know that you will come back sooner or later, and you may not coax again. Then your "going home" will become meaningless, and it will not be good if you fall into the eyes of your in-laws.
Women, be smart, don’t do things that hurt two people’s feelings for trivial matters. How can two people live so smoothly?
