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01, Volume Beginning
Years urge people to grow old, time is like a wild horse that has run away, galloping away and never looking back. The seemingly long days are actually just a blink of an eye, and they reach the twilight years of life.
Birth, old age, sickness and death are eternal natural laws. people have been busy with ups and downs in their lives. There are surprises and regrets.
After half of his life, the thing I hope most in my heart is to have a happy old age.
The thinking of "raising children to prevent old age" is deeply rooted in people's hearts, but in real life, there are many heart-wrenching things about "raising children to prevent old age". Because not all children will be filial to their parents.
The relationship between parents and children is sometimes not as harmonious as imagined, nor as beautiful as imagined.
People have no future plans and will have immediate worries. No one can tell the truth about the future. Smart people will not place their expectations for the rest of their lives on their children.
If the children are unfilial to their old age, make three preparations in advance.
02. Save a lot of money for yourself and don’t let yourself have nothing
. The competition in society is fierce, making money is difficult, and saving money is also difficult, especially when people reach old age.
Perhaps, a small savings cannot be seen in a short period of time, but when you lose your social labor position, your greatest reliance in your later years is the money you save.
The misfortune in life is that children are unfilial. If a person is old and has no money in his hands, he will be disliked by his children, and his neighbors will be gossiped about it. He will be troubled by the trivial matters of life in his later years and live without dignity.
No money, and the unfilial children's old age is like losing all their support and leaving only loneliness.
Save some money for yourself while you are not old. No matter how much you love your children, please don’t spend all your money on your children and leave yourself with nothing.
Children are not filial to you, and they have no money in their later years, and their lives will be very hard.
Rousseau said: "The money in our hands is a tool to maintain freedom."
When facing children "living their parents", you must learn to refuse. Don’t let your children be overly dependent and let them learn to rely on themselves. At the same time, keep your money and live a more quality life in your later years.
03. Manage the relationship between family affection and neighbors well, rely on
in his later years on life. No matter how powerful a person is, it will always face difficulties and fragility.
In this world, any kind of relationship needs to be managed. Even if it is family affection, it requires careful watering and treating relatives with sincerity so that true love exists.
Deep blood relationship, don’t let the passage of time make family affection become weaker and weaker.
When people are old, they all need to rely on. Maintaining family affection will help them gain more warmth and love in their old age. There are always times in need of help in life. With relatives around you, you will become confident no matter what happens.
: It is one aspect that good family affection is also important to manage neighbor relationships well.
As the saying goes, "Distant relatives are not as good as close neighbors." Especially for elderly people living alone, if they really encounter urgent matters, the neighbors who can ask for help in time are still nearby.
Treating your neighbors well means treating yourself well and leaving a way out for yourself. A neighbor who treats you with confidence can not only give you company in your later years, but also lend a helping hand when you need help.
When children are unfilial, they should pay more attention to managing the relationship between family affection and neighbors. Perhaps when they are in trouble, they can truly become your support.
04. Take good care of yourself and have a healthy body
In my later years, if my children are unfilial, you will understand one truth: people, the one who can truly rely on, is actually the only oneself.
Plato said: "Nothing is happier than health, although they didn't think that was the greatest happiness before they got sick."
As they grow older, their bodies begin to gradually decline, and the minor illnesses and pains follow. Although it is not enough to affect lifespan, it is a double harm to both the mind and the body.
A healthy body is the prerequisite for a better life.
Only when you are healthy can you take good care of yourself and not become a burden to anyone. Only by having a healthy body can you be motivated by what you like. Only by living a happy and lively life.
Moreover, let yourself have a healthy body, be able to wash clothes and cook by yourself in your later years, take care of yourself, and take care of your life well, and live a comfortable life.
has no healthy body and is unfilial to children, and may eventually suffer in their later years.
The happy life in my later years cannot be separated from a healthy body. Love yourself well and treat yourself well is more important than anything else.
05, conclusion
Haruki Murakami said: "The things that can be saved and irreversible in the world, and time passes is an irreversible thing."
When I was young, I always felt that the years were long and I had already gone through half my life without realizing it.
People are old and don’t come back again. How to live the rest of their lives, you still have to make more plans for yourself. After all, life changes are always unpredictable, and it is wise to leave a good way out for yourself.
Parents and children exist relatively independently, and filial piety is the duty. If you meet unfilial children, you can only take it lightly. When you don’t have support, you are the biggest support.
people in their old age should prepare for themselves and plan for their future.
In the old age, save more money for emergencies, manage interpersonal relationships carefully, exercise more when you have nothing to do, and don’t wait until the regrets cannot be saved before starting to regret your past choices.
More than a lifetime has not lasted, and you should have hope and live every day well.
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Author: Xia Mo, a new emotional tutor, psychology scholar, a popular emotional writer on the entire network of over 1 billion, a happy woman manager, focusing on emotions, gender, mother-in-law and daughter-in-law for more than ten years.
