There is a hot search on the Internet: "Will high-frequency chats bring good feelings?"
Many netizens have told their experiences.
Someone said: Chatting with each other every day will soon become a habit, and then fall in love with each other without realizing it.
Some people also say: Only by liking the other person first can you continue to chat; if you don’t like it, you are unwilling to chat at all.
So, in close relationships, will high-frequency chats produce love? Is love like
reliable? Is love produced by
chatting arises over time?
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Why do high-frequency chats produce love?
1, "Exposure Effect"
There is a concept in psychology called "Exposure Effect".
refers to: people often have a good impression of familiar people or things.
The more times a person appears in front of you, the less your guardianship will be.
You didn't like food, but if you tried it more, you won't be that annoying.
It’s like some people don’t like to eat durian, but their family members love to eat durian; over time, under the influence of this environment, he doesn’t hate durian so much.
High frequency chat is actually the "exposure effect" at work.
You chat with the same opposite sex every day, and the impression you leave on each other becomes deeper and deeper.
Psychologists conducted an experiment:
Display some photos in front of the experimenters, and then each photo is displayed differently.
results show that the experimenters are more impressed and have more favorable feelings for those who appear more photos.
2. Habits will change people's "emotional changes"
Chat with the same opposite sex every day. Over time, this will become your habit.
Just like you are used to eating midnight snacks every day, if you don’t eat one day, and at that time, you will feel very hungry. The same is true for
Chatting with the other party.
You chat every day, from morning to night; suddenly one day, the other party does not send you a message, nor does it respond to your message; at this time, you will feel a strong sense of "lost".
You start to think randomly and feel sad, just like a "feeling of a broken heart".
When a habit arises, your emotions will unconsciously depend on them;
When this habit is interrupted in the middle, your emotions will be mobilized again.
3. Online chat will amplify people's "favorites"
If you are just chatting with the other party online, you have never met in reality.
The good impression you have when you chat at this time is ultimately a "illusion".
Because the favor you have for him is more of the over-beautified feelings you imagined in your subconscious mind. Love like
is illusory and not so real.
Even if you chat 100 sentences online, it is not as profound as your experience of meeting you offline.
What you love is not the other person, but the company that the other person brings you and the love you imagined.
Even if you change someone and keep communicating at the same frequency, you will also have a good impression of him.
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The love produced by high-frequency chat is not the love that takes place over time
It takes place over time, and these factors must be met:
proximity, similarity, emotional value, and sense of dependence.
There are only the last two factors that produce love from high-frequency chat.
What is proximity?
Here mainly refers to the physical distance proximity. You can meet at any time and have more opportunities to get along with offline dates.
Similarity means that in the other party, you can feel many similarities with you; whether it is the three views, personality, or conditions, you feel that the similarity is very high.
Emotional value is to communicate with the other party. When getting along, the other party can mobilize and satisfy your emotions.
Dependence means treating the other person as a habit in life.
Let’s talk about the conclusion first:
“online love-style” chat that has never been met before, and the love generated in this way is unreliable.
maintains high-frequency chats and usually has many face-to-face contacts. This kind of love is called "love over time".
people's emotional cycle often lasts for 28 days.
That is to say:
The passion between you and the other party will usually change around 28 days of chatting.
If you only rely on online chat to maintain your relationship, but you don’t have the warmth of getting along offline, then this kind of favorable feeling will soon disappear.
Even if there are more topics, it will become uninnovative if you continue to talk about it every day.
So, if you are currently trapped in this "love illusion caused by chatting", you must keep yourself rational.
If you want to determine whether the other party has a good impression of you, you can try to "reduce the frequency of chats".
If he takes the initiative to find you without getting tired of it and wants to further explore your life, then he can try to get along offline.
Chat is a tool to determine a relationship, not a pattern of love.
Today's topic:
Have you ever fall in love with someone because of chatting?
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