In the 1980s, the economy was backward and people's quality of life was generally very low. Almost all rural family members have to make ends meet and fill their stomachs, and have to bear heavy farm work. The remaining energy is already quite limited. Because I have devoted unlimited physical labor in a limited time, I worry about the whole family having enough food and clothing. Therefore, trivial matters are often suppressed by the pressure of life. At this time, marriage has become an important process of starting a family, providing labor, or serving labor, thus becoming simple and simple, and more often considering physical strength and family burden.
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Therefore, a marriage built in suffering is mainly based on suffering and living, relying on each other, and helping each other. In this way, strange couples have become relatives who must support from having no feelings to working together, and their feelings have gradually stabilized. At that time, I didn’t have the energy to contact and consider the messy cheating and greenness of modern society. . . . . . And a series of factors that affect family and marriage stability, so marriages during this period are simple and pure, closely combined due to suffering, and become a companion for mutual support.
Until now, the economy has developed rapidly and material life is becoming increasingly rich. People have begun to get idle. While pursuing material life, they are not satisfied with the status quo and begin to pursue higher spiritual enjoyment. All entertainment and external entertainment methods are coming one after another, and the purpose is to relax, relax, and then relax. In order to relieve the anger and reluctance of daily life. . . . . Constantly brushing the content deliberately produced by others that comfort you, constantly seeing all kinds of content you want, and big data accurately pushes what you desire!
The result of this is that you have endless choices, and you will never be satisfied if you have them, and you will always see better. Gradually, gradually, I raise myself up and cannot get down. This is one of the reasons why highs and lows are not enough. This is also one of the reasons why some people can't find a partner.
When you get married, you can almost always leave your phone after get off work, go to work, and go home. You can enjoy yourself in the world you are interested in. Without the heavy hard work of my parents and the pressure of worrying about starving to death, I can barely get through it. It’s enough to be better than the best! Therefore, this lot of time is spent on entertainment. If there are conflicts and different opinions, I cannot get the understanding and communication from my partner, and I am even more reluctant to communicate with each other. Instead, I go to strangers to call me: Tell me! As we talked, it changed and became a pity that we met too late. At this time, a family crisis arises, and marriage becomes a painful shackle that binds the other party.
The divorce rate remained high during this period.
Therefore, I have been thinking for a long time, why is life better, material richer, and better life unhappy?
What exactly has marriage brought to us? Can a marriage based on suffering be stable and happy like a parent?
I think that in today's era, marriage is more important for two people to communicate, tolerate each other, and understand each other. Material conditions can be obtained through joint support and joint efforts of both husband and wife. Just like our fathers, from nothing to a house full of children and grandchildren. Why can't we? If you have to get stuck, how much money the other party can give you, how many cars and how many rooms it is. Little did they know that from the moment they started asking for it, there were already a crack in their relationship. How many couples broke up because of the dowry when they were talking about marriage? Therefore, true feelings should not be cracked because of material things, because it is not easy to meet each other, so cherish each other.
What he has doesn’t matter, but more importantly, whether he can truly care about you and is willing to accompany you to pursue the future he wants. Tomorrow created together is the sweetest.
