has a lesson that is worth our "cultivation" for the rest of our lives - dealing with people and the world.
How to be a person and how to get along with others not only tests our ability, but also tests our wisdom. Less emotional intelligence and less carefulness can easily offend others.
What attitude should we maintain when we get along with our relatives? When we get along with friends and colleagues, what are the principles of being a person? The way different people get along is different.
Relatives live under the same roof as us, and see each other in the morning and at night. Since this is the case, it is particularly important for both parties to grasp a "degree".
For outsiders, since we keep a certain distance from us, we don’t need to accommodate them. We just need to keep our duties and not easily offend others. That’s all.
Many people will say, why is it so troublesome to get along with people? Because human nature is complex. There are so many different characteristics of people in this world.
For us who are in the world, should have such a principle of being a human being - to have a meal when you see the food. We will hold the attitude of the other party.
When getting along with people, you should avoid "overstepping the line" in these aspects and easily become enemies.
1. Never conflict with "money".
When you get along with people, you must not talk about money if you can talk about money. The so-called "talking about money hurts feelings" is the reason.
You are generous and open-minded, and you feel that it doesn’t matter if you talk to others about money. What you don’t know is whether others are open-minded and whether they accept the topic of “money”.
What's more, in today's materialistic life, everyone urgently needs money and regards interests as the primary goal. Then, wouldn't you establish an enemy when you talk about interests with them?
Rich people, don’t show off their money, so as not to be entangled by jealous people. People who have benefited by chance should not tell others about their achievements, and avoid making others feel "envious, jealous and hatred".
There is a saying that is very realistic: your money will only attract aggressive ungrateful wolves.
Don’t feel that you have no harm to others, as others will treat you with kindness. Sometimes, people have no intention of hurting the tiger, and tigers are harmful to the hearts of people . This is the cruel truth.
2. Don’t worry about other people’s “housework”.
As the saying goes, "Don't worry about idle people, don't care about other people's affairs."
We don't care too much about people who have nothing to do with us. We should not listen to other people’s family or private affairs. Even if you hear it, don’t say it out loud, but pretend to be unaware of it.
Lao Li and Lao Chen are good friends. One day, Lao Li confides his feelings to Lao Chen, saying that his wife is not good and that his children do not understand him, and that he really can't stay in this family anymore.
Lao Chen also analyzed the relationship between his family with him and made some suggestions to Lao Li. Who knew that Lao Li's face changed on the spot and the party ended in a bad mood.
Lao Chen was also very confused about this. I just said a few truths about Lao Li’s experience. Why is he so angry?
You should know that no matter how close a friend is, you cannot talk about the other party’s “housework”. How others get along with each other and what family conflicts are there, that is someone else’s business. Once we participate in it and say too much, the other party will think that we are meddling in other people's business and have bad intentions.
3. Don’t gossip too much and ask about other people’s secrets.
Everyone has this characteristic, that is gossip. When you meet a friend, you hope to know his life situation from his friends, without regard to what others thought at the time.
The interaction between brothers, fortunately, at least men will not have too many scheming. But the relationship between best friends is different. If you say more words and gossip more, others will think you have a problem.
Xiaomei and Xiaoli are both Summer friends who go to and from bed. The relationship has always been very good. Both parties talk and laugh, and often go shopping together.
Once, Xiaomei had a quarrel with her boyfriend and was very sad. Xiaoli didn't know what happened, so she went to inquire. Xiaomei's first reaction was whether Xiaoli wanted to pry a corner or not, whether she wanted to read my joke.
people's hearts, that is very complicated. A good friend yesterday, and today he may become an enemy. I had a deep relationship yesterday, but today I may have a breakdown of the relationship due to some "suspicion".
interact with others, inquire about other people's private affairs, and gossip about other people's experiences. If others want to say it, they will naturally say it. We are too curious and will only "kill cats".
4. Don’t meet and chat too much.
has a good relationship with this brother, so I meet every day. I have a good relationship with this sister, so I go shopping every day. A relationship like this will not last more than a month.
The two parties have close relationships, so they get along with each other frequently. Why does it cause the relationship to break down?
This is related to the " hedgehog effect " in psychology. Two hedgehogs hugged each other and for a very long time, so won’t they only hurt each other?
Only by "keeping a distance" can we reduce damage. This is the so-called "distance produces beauty".
Just imagine, if couples spend a long time together and meet more frequently, they will have conflicts, so how can they talk about other people?
No matter how good a friend is, don’t chat every day, and don’t meet from time to time. Maybe, others hate you, but you just don’t know it yet.
No matter when, the relationship with "distance" can last forever. Otherwise, there will be many contradictions.
text/Shushan Youlu
