I regret it.
A girl, when she fell in love with a man with average conditions, she didn't think there was anything wrong with this.
She thought that the other party’s family was not well off and that her parents could not give him any help. Her salary was relatively low and she owed a lot of foreign debts. That was not a problem. As long as the other party was nice to her, she would like it.
With this thought, she took out all her savings, held a simple wedding with the other party, and started a family in the rental house.
When she got married, she thought that as long as the two of them were together in the future, their lives would definitely get better and better.
But after getting married, my days were very difficult and I always filled in the pits for her husband. It was difficult for her parents-in-law to communicate. Her husband was not motivated at all. She was just getting worse and worse for her and she couldn't see the future at all. After all, she still regretted her.
Many people seem to have an idea before getting married, thinking that money is not important at all. However, in the adult world, money has always been very important, especially in marriage, which is even more so.
has an economic foundation to ensure daily needs.
When you are alone, everyone needs to solve their own housing problems and be responsible for their own three meals a day, food, clothing, housing and transportation.
Get married to a person. At that time, you must not only be responsible for yourself, but also be responsible for the other party. A family's expenses will never be small, but will only be much more than when two people are single.
At that time, every month's mortgage, if you have a car, you have to keep a car, every day's food, furniture and appliances of all sizes at home, and various human relationships would really require a lot of money.
Everything will never fall from the sky, and will not be drawn directly or transformed. It requires each other to really have a certain amount of savings, a certain ability to make money, and to be able to always have income.
At present, even if you don’t do anything big every month, you just eat and have fun occasionally. After a month, you will still cost thousands of yuan, which won’t be a small amount.
These needs are very realistic and do not exist. If you love someone and the other party loves you, there is no need for you to face these things, you can skip these problems directly.
Don’t be stupid. Although money is not so omnipotent, there are many things that cannot be done, but without money, it will be really hard to live. Life will only be particularly difficult. It will be very sad when you are alone, and the difficulty will be doubled when you are two.
Only when the material is guaranteed can the relationship be better.
You may think that as long as you love each other, it doesn’t matter if you are poorer and harder.
You think love is magical and can withstand many problems. You are just happy with the person you like, even if you just drink water or eat steamed buns. Then you really overestimate love and overestimate yourself.
When you like someone and the other person is pursuing you and has never married you, he will naturally treat you better, and you will naturally think that he is very good and very worth it, but after marriage, this relationship will change.
will fade, or even deteriorate. As you realize more and more the pain of having no money, you dare not buy this or that. It is hard every day, the days in front of you are not good at all, and the future is also bleak. You can't stand such years at all.
When survival is not guaranteed, you will not be able to pursue quality. When life is just a sad person, you will have no time to care about love.
Two people are together, and then they need feelings as the foundation, and at the same time, they also need money as the foundation.
Only when you can eat whatever you want and go wherever you want. Don’t worry about money, you will have more minds to care about emotions, don’t always quarrel over money, and you can pay more attention to the spiritual level.
You may not be very happy if you have money, but if you don’t have money, happiness will only appear more luxurious.
can better face parents and be responsible for their children.
In many families, it has never been so easy to get along with two generations.
Especially after the younger generation enters marriage, the relationship between the daughter-in-law and her parents-in-law is a world problem.
Think about it, if young couples can only rely on their parents and have no ability to be independent at all, they will inevitably be suppressed in all kinds of ways and will only be very unhappy with each other, but if they have money, everything will be different.
will have the ability to not live together, and will have more confidence to decide many things on your own without being controlled by your parents. This will really save a lot of conflicts and a lot of trouble.
Only when the parents of both parties have an emergency situation, they are able to bear it and do not seem helpless.
In addition, after getting married, we must also consider giving birth. Whether it is giving birth or raising a child in the later stage, it is not that simple. After having a child, we will face various examinations, and giving birth will also be a considerable expense.
Children come to this world, milk powder, clothes, diapers, toys, and it takes a lot of money. As the child grows up, he goes to various interest classes, takes the child to various amusement parks, accompany the child to see the world, and let him go to a good school, which requires a lot of money.
Even if you grow up later, you still have to worry about your child’s house and your child’s marriage. Without a certain financial ability, you can’t do this at all, and you don’t even dare to have a child.
In marriage, money is much more important than imagined.
Because many people understand this principle, they don’t even dare to get married when their conditions are very average.
When it is hard to raise yourself, you will really feel that you are not capable and be responsible for a marriage.
money is very important. If you live a marriage, you need money. If you find a partner, you should indeed consider this factor. But it doesn’t mean it just depends on material things, not on feelings, not on anything else.
You should find someone you like, you can also be less materialistic and work hard with the other party. However, the other party may not be so rich, but you must be very down-to-earth and motivated, can guarantee your life, and can be responsible for your family.
It is necessary to look at people, character, no money, not very good, have bad habits, and will really not be able to survive after getting married.
people are good. Even if the conditions are a little worse, as long as he can make money well and knows to be responsible for his family, even if his life is a little embarrassed for the time being, it will not be much worse, and everything will get better and better.
text/Tan Meng
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