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In this life, it is very rare to meet a close person, but not everything is rare. The precious things will be eternal, but instead will gradually disappear with the passage of time.
No matter how good a friend is, there will be a day that is getting farther and farther away.
It is understandable that you can't calm down in the face of such an ending, but you must know that this is just the norm in life.
Someone said that they were the best friend. The two of them once said everything and regarded each other as confidants, but I don’t know when it started. It seemed that they had nothing to say between them.
She doesn’t understand what she is doing wrong? Can't figure out why the other party should hide from him?
In fact, many people have similar experiences.
The gears of life are always rotating. As long as people move forward, they will meet different people, different circles, and different pursuits. If they are in harmony, they will come. If they are not in harmony, they will go. If they are not in harmony, they will go.
The reason why you are unable to calm down is because the other party does not follow the direction you expect.
You are lost, you feel that the other party has let you down and your sincerity.
But in fact the ending was destined from the beginning.
You met one another, just to accompany each other for a while, bringing short happiness to each other.
You think the circle between you is unchanging, but in fact the other party has already integrated into a new circle without realizing it. Only you are standing still, the two of them no longer belong to the same circle, and they cannot integrate into each other's world, and it is inevitable to part ways.
Whether it is love or friendship, it needs to grow to become better.
The reason why people can establish close relationships is often based on specific conditions, environment and the mood of people at that time, etc.
But both the environment and the human mood are constantly changing, so it is not surprising that the relationship between people changes.
Some people are unable to accept the other person's distantness once they get used to the other person's company. When facing the gradually drifting away from their friends, they are always upset and unable to let go of it for a long time. They even suspect that it is their own problem and feel that they are very failures in interpersonal relationships.
But in fact, facing the friends' drift away, you will win if you do these three things well:
The first thing: accept loneliness
Life is a lonely journey, and everyone has their own life path. .
Most of the moments in life are actually a person’s cultivation.
No matter how people understand you, they cannot truly empathize with you. You are the one who will eventually overcome the trough.
Therefore, in the face of friends getting farther and farther away, we must learn to accept loneliness.
We just returned to the original track, that's it.
Whether it is friendship or love, there will be a day that is getting farther and farther away.
When you feel that the other party is alienated from you, it means that the other party has been with you.
does not need to worry about the reasons, because everyone has limited time to accompany others.
In real life, many people are afraid of loneliness. Once they are alone, they will be at a loss and feel that they are out of touch with the world. Only by placing themselves in the noisy and bustle can they feel their existence and relieve their anxiety.
Once someone is with you, it will be easy to become psychologically dependent on the other party and regard the other party as a spiritual sustenance.
so once the other party is alienated from him, it will be unacceptable.
However, loneliness is the norm in life. Learning to accept loneliness is a necessary lesson in life. Only by accepting loneliness can you face loneliness more easily, improve yourself, understand and enrich your life in loneliness.
When you do this, you will no longer be afraid of loneliness, and will also be able to face the gradual drift of others calmly.
2: Accepting the loss of
Acquaintance is fate, breaking up with friendship is just the end of fate, no one is sorry for anyone
You think you have had the other party, but in fact you have just had some intersections and have been with each other for a period of time, and you have become dependent on this period of time, so you take it for granted, but the other party will sooner or later return to your own life path, and you also need to continue moving forward.
In fact, many people understand this truth. What they cannot accept is that the other party is alienating themselves without saying anything.
Generally speaking, people think that important people and things should have a sense of ritual.
Otherwise, it means that this person is not that important to the other party.
But in fact, adults often get farther and farther away.
You think you are just busy. When you think about contacting each other, the other person is also busy. When you are all free, you have already walked far away on your own life path.
The world of adults is very busy, and I don’t have time to pay attention to what I have lost.
Some people cannot accept loss because they subconsciously accept that the other party will always belong to them, but in fact, the other party has never really belonged to you, and losing is just a matter of time.
The alienation between adults does not require a sense of ritual.
is the greatest respect for each other because of the tacit ending.
cannot go hand in hand to the end of life, and there is no need to destroy the past time of knowing each other.
Learning to accept loss is a sign of maturity. When you learn, your future life will be much easier.
The third item: Thank you for meeting
Someone asked a question like this: Do you think you have never met the other party or met him but in the end you were unable to be together? Which one is more regretful?
Most people choose the latter, which is understandable, but there is no need.
Because the person who appears in your life does not belong to you, it is just to add icing on the cake of your life, teach you some truths, enrich your life, and whether you can be together in the end depends on whether you can spend more time with your company.
Some people, when they meet, they sign up.
You have already gotten it in the days when you know each other, but it doesn't necessarily mean what you want.
But no matter whether it is good or bad, we should be grateful for meeting.
naturally feel grateful for the good results.
. When faced with bad results, some people will be upset and unwilling to accept it, thus trapping themselves in obsession.
And some people regard this as a lesson, learn from it, alert themselves, and avoid repeated mistakes in their future life and avoid detours.
The former will become a stumbling block to your life, while the latter will promote your life to go smoother.
The difference is whether it is a complaint or accusation or a gratitude to meet.
As long as you meet your friends’ distantness, just be grateful for meeting them.
Summary:
If one day, my friend inexplicably alienates you, I hope you can do the above three things well.
famous anime master Miyazaki Hayao said, "Life is a train to the grave. There are many stations on the road, and it is difficult for someone to accompany you from beginning to end. When the person who accompany you is about to get off the train, even if he is reluctant to leave, he should be grateful and wave goodbye."
So, if someone wants to get off the train in your life, you just need to say to him: "All the way is good ".
