saw a passage online:
"Send a message to the person you like, if he does not respond to me, then I will choose to delete this chat dialog box; because seeing that dialog box allows me to see my flattery and humility."
Have you ever had similar experiences in an intimate relationship?
You are full of expectations and send messages to those you like with joy.
Walking on the road, I saw a stray cat, you took a photo and shared it with him;
I ate Braised pork today, you took a photo and shared it with him;
I met an interesting person and fun things, and I also shared this joy with him as soon as possible.
You are standing in front of the mobile phone screen and looking at the chat dialog box between you two over and over again.
In the end, you just wait for his "silence".
In fact, the person you like never reply to your message, there is only one reason.
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There is no one who does not reply to messages, only those who do not want to reply to messages
Do you believe that a person spends several hours looking at his phone every day, but he does not have time to reply to your message?
Do you believe that the other party plays online every day and the circle of friends is active. Didn’t you see your news?
You believe that the other party just finished chatting with your friends, but he couldn’t see the news about you?
Deliberately ignore and silence in any relationship is enough to explain the problem. What does
This feels like?
You can't wake up someone who pretends to be asleep.
As long as he wants, he can reply to your message at any time;
However, he is always silent and does not give you any response, that is, he resists you from the bottom of his heart.
saw a joke:
"I confessed to you back then and pursued you for several years, but you didn't give me any response; now my children can make soy sauce, so tell me to get married."
People need to see the "progress bar" most in their relationship.
People who pursue their favorites need a progress bar.
This progress bar is:
Whether the other party gives you positive feedback, and whether it is willing to maintain a certain frequency of interaction with you.
Only when we get a response can we have the courage and motivation to persevere.
If you take the initiative every time, it is like a rock sinking into the sea, then such persistence is meaningless and you will soon lose patience.
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If you use chat, do you know that the other party likes you?
First: Those who like you will definitely respond to you in time
When he responds to your message, he will respond to it in time.
After you send him a message, he will reply to you in seconds, and in most cases it is the case; this means that he must have a good impression of you and you have a certain weight in his heart.
On the contrary, if the frequency of replying to your message is very low, you often send 10 messages and he will reply to you 1 message.
Or, if you send him dozens of messages, he will respond to you after filtering.
This means that he doesn't like you at all, he just keeps basic politeness and politeness to you.
Second: People who like you will keep the same chat with you
Do you feel this way?
The two people who like each other have great passion when chatting.
You send him 10 sentences, and maybe he will reply to you 15 sentences.
Sometimes, you don’t need to take the initiative to find topics, and they become like a "talk" and they can’t finish chatting with you.
This is the same frequency of effort, at least it means that the other party likes you and cares about you.
And people who like you will not make you feel tired at all.
You don’t have to work too hard to get him to you.
The essence of falling in love with someone is "attraction".
Real feelings do not require you to chase them hard, just throw a brick and attract the jade, and the other party will approach you.
3 Third: People who like you have a strong desire to share in the face of you
The specific manifestation is:
Even if you don’t take the initiative to chat with him, he will take the initiative to send you a message and continue to chat with you with joy.
When chatting with him, you can feel the strong desire for sharing he shows, and you can also feel his happiness and positivity.
This is like the "emotional fluctuations" that arise.
What is the essence of falling in love with someone? It is the other party that causes you to have violent emotional fluctuations.
There is a concept in psychology called " suspension bridge effect ".
suspension bridge effect fully demonstrates:
People often regard those who make themselves emotional fluctuations as the people they like.
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When people you like don't reply messages, don't do 2 things
First: Over-entanglement
"Why don't you reply to my message?"
"Why don't you reply to my message?"
"Has I done something wrong?"
"Are you busy? Haven't you seen the message I sent you?"
"Do you don't want to pay attention to me?"
such questions, questions, and excessive entanglement will only make the other party hate you more and more.
To the end, you have only one ending: it is deleted.
The second item: worry about gains and losses, mental internal consumption
It's no big deal if you don't reply to your message.
If you take the initiative every time and the other party does not respond to you, then stop taking the initiative.
is that simple.
If you think randomly and worry about gains and losses, you will only fall into internal mental friction.
The more you think about it, the sadder you will be.
Instead of spending time on people who don’t like you, you might as well do something else.
The feelings of adults are a game.
requires competing emotions, emotional qualities, and more importantly, competing with each other's means.
Keep your mind stable, so you won’t lose too much.
Today's topic:
What would you do if the person you like did not reply to the message?
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