Marriage never guarantees love will change, it guarantees the common interests of both husband and wife.
When we entered marriage, many women thought that their love had finally come true, and they should live a happy life like a prince and a princess in a fairy tale, but they ignored that the curtain of marriage was just opened, and the road ahead was still long.
thinks marriage is a shared hardship and mutual support, but the difference in family division of labor determines whether each other is valuable in the eyes of each other.
Generally, in families, they get along with each other in the "male leads to the outside, and female leads to the inside". Women choose to be a housewife for the sake of their family. They are actually an important support for the family.
However, these housework and efforts are "unpaid" jobs, and they cannot be reflected in family income just like men's salary.
After a long time, many men are used to it and are not grateful for their wife's efforts. Instead, they think they are raising their wife and giving their wife a look.
Slowly, the wife will be disappointed with the man, disappointed with the marriage, no longer asks for emotional value from the man, regrets getting married or complains about the world.
Middle-aged woman, behind the marriage saying that she does not need love, there are 3 disappointments hidden.
The first disappointment: discovering that love does not equal marriage.
Many women who get married because of love have longing for marriage stay in the fairy tale stage, thinking that they are full of love, but ignore the triviality and dullness of life.
After marriage, pregnancy and childbirth, the transformation of one's own role forces women to devote their energy to deal with the troubles that follow, and also have to face various contradictions, such as conflicts between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, conflicts between husband and wife, etc., which makes people run away.
If a man is responsible and returns home after work and knows that he feels sorry for his wife, then the woman will think that everything he has given is worth it.
However, in marriage, women who say they don’t need love are just a stubborn mouth after saving enough disappointment.
Women cannot get the love and nourishment of men, and believe that love has faded with time, and they have responsibilities and obligations between each other, and love or not is no longer important.
Love can be separated from the sky of real life, but marriage must be implemented in dressing, eating, and sleeping.
The second disappointment: I found that the man couldn't give what he wanted.
No matter how men and women go into marriage, they are greedy.
Some women enter marriage for love. When they find that marriage makes both of them unrecognizable, they will be disappointed with the man in front of them and find that men cannot give the happiness they want, the love and security they want.
Of course, some women also have a certain mentality of entrustment, believing that there will be a safe haven in the future, and a man will shelter him from the wind and rain, and finally found that all the wind and rain were brought by men.
Some men do nothing in marriage, and let women take on everything, live a hand-off owner, squeeze out women's value, and throw away women when they have no value.
After experiencing being hurt by a man, women will wake up and realize that it is better to rely on themselves than to rely on men. Instead of achieving men, they are better to achieve themselves.
hopes that men can give them all women, live in the ivory tower, without experiencing the beatings of life, and when they find that only they can decide how wide their road is, they have no fantasies about love.
The third disappointment: After understanding the nature of marriage, you will no longer talk about love.
Haven't experienced a marriage life, and will imagine marriage as beautiful. In fact, marriage is a cruel practice field. You have to continue to grow and deserve the happiness you want to improve your chances of happiness.
If your partner does not cooperate with you, the marriage relationship cannot be maintained. After all, the destruction of a relationship can be achieved by just one person.
See too many marriages and understand that the essence of marriage is like starting a company. There are only two people's deep bondage of interests. Even if they are not satisfied with each other, they will choose to compromise for the sake of the benefit, and in the end they can live a loving look that others envy.
In fact, between two people, it just seems loving in front of others, but there is no love after others. All they have is responsibility and family affection. But if you really want to separate, it will be a headache, but it has nothing to do with love, but it has nothing to do with habits and values.
knows the common interests of marriage protection, so what you pursue is reward. Both of you will calculate your own rate of return and have some thoughts. However, if you are unable to divorce or do not want to go through the marriage process again, you simply choose to make do with it. As long as the rate of return is high, you can compromise without resentment.
Middle-aged women are becoming more and more transparent. They no longer only have love in their eyes, but also have a deeper understanding of marriage. They no longer pursue perfection stupidly. They slowly learn to accept something they originally refused to accept, and try to give themselves more choices and pursuits.
Even if you say that love is not needed, your inner disappointment will not be easily revealed to others. If you no longer desire love, your heart will slowly die.
Smart women will examine this relationship, find out the problem, resist providing what men need in marriage, and transfer their energy to themselves and pursue more possibilities.
Marriage is not a joke. When a woman says in marriage, she says that love is not needed, a man should understand that it is a woman’s disappointment in marriage. If she doesn’t want to divorce, she must learn to love her wife, understand each other, and communicate effectively in order to manage her marriage and feelings.
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