Meet you, I am the drizzle of early spring; stare at you, I am the shade of midsummer; approach you, I am the stars of late autumn; with you, I am the scorching sun of midwinter.
In this era of rapid development of high-end data information, she and I met on the Internet. A woman who longed to experience a passionate relationship and a man who longed to get love ignited that sincere first love process that belonged to us through the Internet.
Because of work and life, we have come to this city that is not our hometown, become a new generation of immigrants, and contribute our own strength to the construction and development of the city.
"Hi!" "Hi!" "Can you chat?" "Cha!" Starting from these simplest conversations, we began to embark on our love path.
First time, I chatted until the second half of the night, everything was fine, from personal preferences to every bit of life. After that, the two communicated online every day. She said she had been looking for this feeling for a long time, and I felt that we were looking for a feeling that we had been losing for a long time. And more directly, we want to experience a truly prosperous love. This happened to open the real core in the shy shell of the two of them.
In the following days, we all gave each other full respect. I know that even if we are husband and wife, our lives will affect each other, but we will not deny our needs and ideas in order to satisfy our expectations for intimacy, and will only sacrifice ourselves to please each other, or undertake issues that should not be responsible for. Everyone has their own ideas and intentions, and don’t force their values on the other person; understand the other person’s emotions, and learn to handle their own emotions by themselves. It’s not enough to think that the partner has the responsibility to make me happy, or it’s enough to always treat the other person’s emotions as your own, so that each other can have time to digest their emotions well. I think only by first stabilizing your heart can you have the ability to become the other party’s safety fortress.
The long-term stability of intimate relationships is actually respect, and the manifestation of respect is to know that everyone is different, willing to understand the other person’s feelings, willing to accept each other’s differences, and willing to accept each other’s different decisions. But it is easy for us to ignore respect for each other because we have been together for a long time or have a close relationship with each other.
So, it is very likely that we will unconsciously restrict, force, and ask the other party to listen to their own things in the name of "love" and "I am for your own good", or take it for granted that the other party will follow their own thoughts and be by their side. Therefore, we become only concerned about our own feelings and opinions, and ignore the other party's thoughts.
For us, when respect fades, it means that the other party’s “individuality” in their hearts has disappeared, and the other party becomes an extension of “me” and is no longer an individual different from me. Therefore, the joint care and cherishment also fades, which will gradually cause harm to the relationship.
For example, when the other party is eager to share important things, but you show disapproval, this attitude of contemptuousness of the other party's feelings can easily hurt people. You may not understand that there is anything worth being happy about in that matter, but you can treat the other party's happiness with the same thing. What can make the other party happy is a good thing.
For example, if you are always interrupting, when the other party is talking about a certain topic, you suddenly interrupt or change the topic, which will also make the other party feel uncomfortable and shocked. This shows that you are not interested in his topic, as if what he says is not important, and you don’t want to hear it at all, so you don’t think he needs to continue. These are just simple examples.
respect the other person, it is me that she can be different from my preferences. I will not insist on arguing whether it is good or bad. Living together is like this. Sometimes it is not a question of who is right or wrong, it is just "different". Just find another way and continue walking.
Respect means understanding that the other party is an "independent individual different from me". Seeing the differences between the two parties, he is willing to accept the inevitable difference, and not forgetting to respect one's own value and the decision to value oneself. Respect is not about pleasing the other person or making yourself wrong. Instead, both of them can consider each other's position and express themselves well.Only when both parties maintain respect for each other and respect for themselves can they get along better.
Having a beautiful love is a must-have in life. People always say, "How to harvest, let's take it that way first." The relationship is not gained without effort. You must give your love to have the opportunity to achieve the right result. Even if you have a partner around you and don't work hard to manage it, happiness may still slip away from you.
