Some people who look very good are just good at packaging themselves | Zizhi Tongjian
Sometimes, we will see some people, dressed in bright clothes, famous brand watches, brand bags, and look like they are accomplished by those who have accomplished great things. Generally speaking, we will be shocked by such momentum, which will lead to psychological high and low self.
However, we need to understand that seeing may not be true. The appearance of some people may be nothing more than just a look. In other words, it is just carefully dressed up and carefully packaged.
For example, during an interview, some people will package their resumes, exaggerate their abilities, and carefully prepare the interview rhetoric. However, when such a person joins the job, he will find that his abilities do not match his resume and he will be able to end up being persuaded to withdraw.
I have seen some WeChat businesses before, and I like to post some exaggerated things on my Moments, take photos with famous cars, sign contracts with celebrities, and make big orders every day.
These are just their self-packages.
In fact, self-packaging is not a bad thing.
For example, the outer packaging of a product is beautiful and elegant, which will naturally attract customers to buy it. However, purchasing is only the first step. In order to develop for a long time, the product needs to be truly useful and practical. The same is true for people.
will only wrap your own exterior and cannot enrich your inner self. Sooner or later, it will be exposed. At that time, the higher you climb, the worse you will fall.
[Tongjian Analysis]
1. Meng Tuo Layout and Packaging of
In 170 AD, there was a man named Meng Tuo. Meng Tuo is rich and ambitious.
In previous articles, we have said that after some people's wealth has developed to a certain level, they will think about gaining power.
In the chaotic times of the late Eastern Han Dynasty, how could you use money to obtain power? That's right, that's bribery. Who are you bribed? Of course, it is the eunuch power that controls the dynasty.
Meng Tuo reconnaissed for a long time and finally found the entry point on the butler of . Who is the
? One of the regular attendants. The Zhongchangshi is a group of people who control the power of the state and control the emperor. Therefore, as long as you get close to the Zhongchangshi or get the support of the Zhongchangshi, you can gain a lot of benefits.
So, how did Meng Tuo do it? He first became friends with Zhang Rang’s housekeeper, and at the same time he kept giving money and things to him and the housekeeper’s subordinates, making these slaves happy. The slaves took too many benefits and couldn't get over it, so they took the initiative to ask Meng Tuo what kind of repaid they needed.
When Meng Tuo heard this, he knew that the time for "harvest" was coming. So, a seemingly simple request was made. Meng Tuo invited his slaves to be outside and salute him respectfully.
makes this person powerful, so many people will see him every day. According to historical records, there are hundreds of cars and horses to go to Zhangrang's official residence every day. With so many cars and horses, it is easy to cause traffic jams. Meng Tuo came specially when he was in a traffic jam and was still in the back of the line.
At this time, Meng Tuo hinted that the servants brought people over to fulfill the agreement they had reached before, and saluted Meng Tuo respectfully.
Seeing this, everyone should be able to understand why Meng Tuo did this. That's right, it's what we mentioned above, self-packaging.
Those officials who came to pay homage to Zhang Rang and rich people who saw Zhang Rang's slaves all knelt down to Meng Tuo, and they were all shocked. They couldn't help but wonder, Who is Meng Tuo? He actually has such a good relationship with Zhang Rang.
So, many people began to give Meng Tuo something, flatter her, and asked Meng Tuo to give them a few good words in front of Zhang Rang.
Meng Tuo received so many gifts, turned around and presented them to Zhang Rang, and Zhang Rang was also very happy to get the things. After pleasing Zhang Rang, Meng Tuo became the governor of Liangzhou under Zhang Rang's arrangement.
In this story, we can find that Meng Tuo did not become the governor of Liangzhou through normal channels, but achieved his goal through self-packaging and self-design.
2. Self-packaging is not a simple thing
There is also such a story in the book " Warring States Policy ".
It is said that there is someone selling horses and it can't be sold for several days. So he went to ask Bole and asked Bole to take a few glances when passing by the horse. Bole agreed.
After Bole arrived at the market, he really looked at the horse a few times and walked around the horse. That day, the horse was sold at a high price.
, the horse seller, is like Meng Tuo, who achieves his own goals through self-packaging.
But is there any problem with this approach? Of course there are, and there are big problems.
That is, external packaging must be combined with internal strength. It has external packaging and no internal strength, and cannot guarantee long-term. Have internal strength and no external packaging, it cannot be appreciated.
Just like many people like to find celebrities to advertise themselves.
Some people are dressed in bright clothes and have famous cars and watches, but their mouths are dirty and full of dirty words. The words they say are illogical and nutritious. Do you think about making friends with such people?
Some people carefully package their resumes and write all kinds of skills on their resumes. As a result, during the interview, he hesitated and couldn't answer. Do you think about hiring such a person?
I once bought a box of strawberry online. The outer packaging is very beautiful, and the actual photos are also beautiful. The strawberries on it are big and red. As a result, they are sent over. They are all small and look like they have no appetite. After complaining about the one who sold strawberries, he blocked and deleted it. Such a business is a one-time business and cannot last forever.
Before, many people liked to say the word "personal brand". It’s not that building a personal brand is not good, but that you need to understand that a personal brand is the result, not the beginning. What does
mean? We must first make ourselves capable, connotation and technology, and then build our personal brand so that more people know themselves and learn from them. First, promote yourself, label it, and build your personal brand, then let yourself learn knowledge and abilities. This is putting the cart before the horse.
3. Learn to be calm and learn more about
When we see some people or things with bright appearance in life, we must maintain our concentration and be calm and calm.
At the same time, you must learn more about this person or this thing.
If you are a human being, then find an opportunity to communicate with him in depth and carefully observe the other party's words, behavior and expression.
If you have the conditions, you must also observe how this person does things in the face of difficulties and setbacks, and whether he can be orderly and calm.
For example, some young friends are easily attracted by the other party’s appearance during blind dates. At this time, you must remain calm and find ways to understand the other person’s inner self and not make decisions blindly.
If it is something, you must understand it from multiple sources and consider it in detail and in all aspects through the Internet, other users and other channels.
Just as Chairman Mao said, "Without investigation, there is no right to speak."
Similarly, it is easy to be blind without understanding something carefully. Once blind, it is easy to make wrong decisions.
[Tongjian original text]
At the beginning, Zhang Rang, the Central Officer, had a prison slave, and was responsible for family affairs, and his power was noisy. Meng Tuo had a wealth of wealth, and had a relationship with his friends, and he gave him all his questions and left nothing to love. The slaves respected him and asked him what he wanted.Tuo said, "I hope you will pay my respects to me!" At that time, the guests asked for a visit to the mail, and the carriage was always hundreds of thousands of taels. Tuo went to the mail, but later he arrived, but he was not allowed to enter. The prison slave led the warehouse to greet him on the road, and then drove the carriages into the entrance. The guests were all shocked and said that Tuo was good at giving in, and they all fought to bribe him with treasures. Tuo was divided into the resignation and was very happy, so Tuo was appointed as the governor of Liangzhou.
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