In the life of the talented man Xu Zhimo , there are two women who are the deepest ties with him.
An one is called Zhang Youyi .
Zhang Youyi is Xu Zhimo's first wife. She loves Xu Zhimo deeply, but she is heartbroken by Xu Zhimo.
Another one is called "Lin Huiyin ".
When I first met Lin Huiyin, Xu Zhimo was impressed by Lin Huiyin's temperament and talent, and fell in love with this woman deeply.
In order to pursue Lin Huiyin, he did not hide his desires and feelings at all.
However, Lin Huiyin later married someone, which became the pain in Xu Zhimo's life.
For this reason, Xu Zhimo wrote a poem: "I am lucky to get it, and I am lucky to lose it." What you get is my luck; what you can't get is my destiny.
In an intimate relationship, secret love is such a feeling.
secret love is the luck of adults and the misfortune of adults.
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Performance of a person's crush on you
How to judge whether the other person has crush on you during the process of getting along with the opposite sex?
When getting along, you will be obviously shown through the other person's words and deeds and attitudes of getting along with you.
First: Those who have a crush on you will pay more attention to you
For example: He always observes your social platform and your circle of friends.
If you work together, study together, and are in the same circle, then their attention to you will be far more than others.
2: People who have secretly fall in love with you will take the initiative to find you
People who actively find you may not like you; but people who don’t take the initiative to find you will definitely not care much about you. There is a subtle gap between secret love and liking.
People who like you will take the initiative to look for you, and will not be stingy with praise and flattery to you;
People who have secretly love you will only take the initiative to look for you, but will still restrain their feelings for you.
3: Deliberately expressing, wanting to attract the other party's attention
This reminds me of my secret love when I was a student.
When the other person likes you, he will deliberately do some "childish things" to attract your attention.
When a boy is playing basketball, he will be extremely hard when he sees the girl he likes passing by;
When a girl is doing things, she will also speak loudly when she sees the boy she likes coming towards him.
Only when you are secretly in love with you will want to attract your attention.
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Why does the other party have a crush on you but doesn’t confess?
First: During the observation stage, the other party is the "compassion with a higher probability"
Secret love for someone must be accompanied by certain motivations.
Most people often express their feelings when they fall in love with someone, rather than leaving regrets.
But for those who have secret crushes, they are not not wanting to confess their love, they are just waiting for a suitable opportunity and a certain mentality.
He thinks you are a potential partner, but he is not sure whether your feelings are enough for you.
So he is waiting, testing, and observing you.
There is another situation:
Although he likes you very much, he realizes that there is a big gap with you.
After all, when a person faces the person he likes, he often shows a strong sense of inferiority .
The inferiority complex made them hesitate and stop.
So, he only dares to hide in the corner and like you secretly, but he dares not put the matter of liking you on the surface.
Second: Secret love is a behavior of "strengthening consciousness"
Simply put, it is:
The other party likes you but can't get you, so this aggravates his favorability for you.
What kind of feelings are the most unreliable?
The answer is: love that cannot be obtained.
Because in people's subconscious mind, they will always beautify people they cannot get and strengthen this relationship;
In this mentality, they will fall into obsession and pain, and will sway left and right.
There is a voice in his brain telling him: "Since you like it, just confess your love."
Another voice said: "Forget it, you can't deserve him."
There is a hot search on the Internet: Do you still need to continue with a secret love without results?
One of the netizens said this:
"Compared to secretly liking someone but being unable to be together, I am more afraid of leaving regrets for myself."
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The likes of adults should be generous and brave
I thought of a story.
Boy and girls are classmates, and boys have been secretly in love with this girl for a long time.
When I graduated from high school, the boy finally mustered up the courage to send an email to the girl to express his love and pursuit of the girl. The email
has been silent for 8 years.
It was not until 8 years later that the girl had just gotten married that she saw this email.
In fact, girls at that time also liked this boy very much. If they had seen this email at the beginning, the two might have come together.
Rather than saying "fate is a mess", it is better to say that both of them lack courage and miss such a relationship.
Since you like someone, then express your favor and mood to the other party generously. Why should you hide it?
You must understand:
Likes are achieved by yourself. If you don’t even have the courage to take a step forward, how could the other party discover the shining points on you?
Sometimes, people cannot be too rational, because overly rational people are always suppressing their feelings.
Today’s topic:
Have you ever had a crush on someone?
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