Introduction
Two years ago, the people held a discussion on "What is the true meaning of marriage?"
A marriage expert pointed out that according to the results of folk discussion, the true meaning of marriage can be summarized as:
First, the true meaning of marriage is to accompany you to watch the wind and flowers, and to survive the ups and downs together
As the saying goes, a hundred years of cultivation can make you cross the same boat, and a thousand years of cultivation can make you sleep together. Although this saying contains a lot of water, it also takes fate for a man and a woman to get together to become a husband and wife.
We all know that there are thousands of people in the world, but why did a certain couple come together? In fact, the relationship is due to fate when this couple gets together. So, since fate "promotes" the couple together, the couple should be in harmony with each other, share blessings with each other, and suffer difficulties.
Second, the true meaning of marriage is that you know that you may meet a better person in the future, but you still think that you are the best one, an irreplaceable person for anyone.
A man and a woman come together and form a family, and you need to assume the responsibilities and obligations of the family. One of the couple needs to accept all the advantages and disadvantages of the other party. After all, there is no gold or a perfect person, and no one is perfect. Any couple should regard the other party as a "baby" and do it in fact: From now on, I will only laugh for you, I will only be sad for you, I will only be you, I will only be in my eyes, and I will no longer tolerate other people. Both husband and wife should know that life is not a poem, time is not a song, and marriage is not enjoyment and demand, but tolerant and understand each other, and assume responsibilities and obligations. Even though you are full of shortcomings, I am also as loving as ever to you.
The marriage expert went on to point out that whether a marriage is beautiful does not depend on whether the appearance of the marriage is gorgeous, but on whether the person who lives with you takes you to heart. A truly happy marriage is: even if you don’t give him a rich and luxurious lifestyle, he is still willing to work with you. Even if you don’t have a vow of friendship with him, he is still unyielding to you. Even if you don’t have any great strategies, he will still worship you as an idol.
The marriage expert continued to point out that there is no standard for a happy marriage, as long as both people in the marriage think that life is quite happy, that's fine.
The marriage expert finally pointed out that a happy marriage has a basic requirement, that is, both husband and wife must abide by moral norms, be loyal to each other, and not cross the bottom line of marriage. Otherwise, the marriage will not be happy.
However, in real society, some couples regard the bottom line of marriage as a joke, and they will easily cross the bottom line of marriage.
This happened late at night on October 25th, something like this happened in Baoji, Shaanxi -
incident
30 years old this year is a technician in a machinery factory. Gong's main job is to go all over the country to install the mechanical products produced by our factory for customers. Generally speaking, Gong needs to travel around the country for at least 8 months a year.
Gong's wife is Zhou Mouchun, she is 29 years old this year. The two met and got married through a matchmaker. Because Gong's income is high, since Zhou Mouchun married Gong, she has been a housewife at home and has not gone out to work.
Although Gong and his wife Zhou Mouchun were introduced by matchmakers and had no love experience, the union between the two was quite happy. The two of them never blushed in the three years since their marriage, and in the eyes of many, they were standard loving couples.
However, even such a loving couple has become less loving. On October 26, Gong actually proposed to divorce his wife Zhou Mouchun!
So, why did Gong file for divorce from his wife Zhou Mouchun?
It turns out that this is the thing-----
On October 25, Gong received a task to install mechanical products in a certain place in Ningxia. When Gong received the task, he quickly returned home to pack his bags and prepare to go to Ningxia.But who knew that when he arrived at Zhongwei by car in the factory, the other party informed that the circuit in the factory had a malfunction and that the repair time would take two or three days. So Gong returned home with the car in the factory. When he arrived at home, it was almost 12 o'clock at night.
Gong opened the door and entered the room. Not only did he find that the lights in the bedroom were still on, but he was surprised to find that the floor of the bedroom was full of tissues. At this time, his wife Zhou Mouchun looked quite nervous. Before he could ask questions, his wife Zhou Mouchun stammered, "My brother just left, don't be suspicious, I haven't had time to clean up yet!"
, even if Gong is a fool, he would not believe his wife Zhou Mouchun's words. However, his wife Zhou Mouchun insisted on his words, and Gong Mou had no choice.
That night, Gong thought a lot. He always thinks: his wife Zhou Mouchun didn't tell him the truth. From this point of view, his wife Zhou is a very dishonest person. If she lives with her for a long time, she will definitely suffer. So, he decided to divorce his wife Zhou Mouchun.
Gong introduced: "On October 26, I formally filed for divorce with Zhou Mouchun. I originally thought that she would not agree, but who knew that she agreed readily. Next, we will go through the divorce procedures after we finalize the child's raising issue." What is said above in
is a general process of this incident.
When Gong posted this matter on the Internet through a short video platform, netizens started a heated discussion.
Netizen voice
Netizens do not understand the darkness of the night during the day: Zhou Mouchun's words don't say that her husband Gong Mou doesn't believe it, even I won't believe it. My brother is here, are you playing with tissues? Why would you throw a piece of tissue? Zhou was clearly "funny" at the Spring Equinox!
netizen Jiji rejoices Jiji: Haha, doesn’t Zhou Mouchun feel that his words are untenable? Where did your brother come and play with tissues? Besides, there are other things thrown on the ground! How does Zhou Mouchun explain?
Netizen Fenghua Xueyue: Instead of hiding it, it is better to admit it generously. Now that things have come to this, I don’t know why Zhou Mouchun is still lying. Does she want to try out her husband Gong Mou’s intelligence? I'm drunk too.
In short, netizens have a lot of discussions.
Lao Hu's opinion
Song · " Zhu Zi language " written by Li Jingde has this idiom - deceiving oneself.
The so-called "self-deception" is refers to deceiving both oneself and others; it is often used to refuse to face the facts and deliberately use lies to cover up some kind of concealment.
A sociologist once pointed out that self-deception is not only a manifestation of ignorance, but also a negative attitude towards life. People must firmly abandon this absurd idea. Instead of deceiving themselves and others, it is better to face reality and use their own efforts to find solutions to the problem.
Anyone who deceives themselves will mistakenly think that others are fools, and their intelligence is not as good as their intelligence, and they can completely cover up everything with lies. In fact, their understanding is wrong. You must know that there are not many real fools in the world, and it is difficult to cover up everything by relying on lies.
Lao Hu believes that no matter who it is, , no matter when or when facing anything, he should always keep a clear mind, be cautious in his words and actions, know what can be done and what cannot be done, and must not be smart enough to do it, and think of ways to deceive others. However, he does not know that if he wants to deceive others, he is actually deceiving himself!
Lao Hu felt that Zhou Mouchun was doing self-deception in this incident. She said that her husband Gong Mou would not believe it, even she herself might not believe it. Based on this, I hope Zhou Mouchun can learn from the lessons of this incident and know how to think twice before doing anything in the future, and must not just escape, otherwise, his life may not be happy!
What do you think?
