Picture from the Internet 01 Once I had a midnight snack with my friend. I have known this friend for ten years. That night, he was a little drunk and suddenly asked me, if we had gone to bed ten years ago, what would we have to do now? Without thinking, I blurted out: "Maybe it'

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Once I had a midnight snack with a friend. I have known this friend for ten years. He was a little drunk that night and suddenly asked me, if we had gone to bed ten years ago, what would we have to do now?

I didn't even think about it and blurted out: "Maybe it's just a stranger who went to bed once."

I know what he meant, but the most basic thing about getting along with people is trust and sincerity.

His question?

This is how I analyzed it.

If you go to bed when you first met, it must be a one-time friend relationship.

If you have known each other for ten years and haven’t had sex, this is a good friend relationship for the rest of your life.

Don’t sigh why you didn’t get on the bus and then buy tickets ten years ago. Even if you make up for the tickets later, you are not sure you can get off together.

The relationship between men and women is the most subtle.

However, the most fortunate thing is that ten years later, we can still sit together and have dinner and chat.

is not like some people. From then on, they are passers-by and they don’t know each other when they meet each other.

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Because of work reasons, I met a sister in 1994. She was 18 years old and was playing games with a boy in the next town. A few months later, she got pregnant unexpectedly and got married. Now she has two sons of the same age, which are very cute, but her marriage is not that cute.

When she first got married, she didn't find any problems with her husband. She happened to be pregnant, and she asked her husband to go to County Hospital for prenatal examination in just a few days. Because the first child is a son, her parents-in-law and in-laws are like offering sacrifices to Buddha and treat her very well. She is immersed in happiness and does not find anything bad about this family.

days long to see people's hearts, and time can recognize people's character.

The children are growing up, buying school district houses, attending cram schools, and tutoring homework, and her husband never cares about it.

only cares about playing mobile phones and playing games every day, that is, they don’t go out to make money, and they don’t help taking care of their children. She is lazy and addicted to gambling. She lost 190,000 yuan overnight and was in debt. She still never repents. Her parents-in-law secretly helped to pay off her gambling debts and was too doting, which led to her losing 210,000 yuan this year during the Spring Festival, all of which were borrowed loans. Now she is being collected every day, so she can't repay her debts and can only go out to find a job.

I said, you are still young and you can afford to lose, why don’t you choose to divorce? This is the situation now. Do you and your husband still have feelings? In the eyes of children, are you still loving couples?

She said that when his husband lost 190,000 yuan the previous year, she also had a divorce. In the end, her mother-in-law knelt down and begged her to give her son another chance to correct her.

She thought he would change, but she didn't. All year last year, a big man who needed to support his family only went out to work for two months, and then went home to sit and eat and wait for death.

She no longer had hope for him. No matter how she enlightened and quarreled, he still had no idea or growth. Later, she felt that life was a day, and she felt that the children were still young and did not want them to grow up in a single-parent family.

In the variety show " My daughter ", when chatting with papi Jiang and Jiao Junyan , the most important order of independent women's life is given: yourself > partner > children > parents.

You must first learn to love yourself in order to have the better ability to love your children.

You think you are holding back your anger to maintain this family for the sake of the children's good. In fact, this is not the case. Compared with the lack of love in single-parent families after divorce, those parents who shout at home all day but do not divorce will bring the psychological shadow and childhood trauma to their children.

Disappointment is not shameful, because we did not choose the right person and rescue ourselves from the pain as soon as possible. Everything is for a better life.

I advise you not to get married too early, nor to divorce too late.

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Before, Ng Junru talked about the topic of marriage in an interview. I thought it made sense after reading it. She said:

When I heard that someone got married at the age of 25,

I would be shocked and my heart would be cold. Does

need that early?

has made a lifelong promise so early,

Wow, it's very passionate, it won't work without you!

But after a few years, that promise will soon torture everyone,

Mental, physically, life...

So I often advise everyone, it is better to get married later,

Like us, we will give up the whole forest until we are 40 years old.

So I often advise everyone that it is better to get married a little later.

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I saw a comment before, saying: "Marriage has nothing to do with age. If you meet the right person, you can have a lifetime of marriage. If you meet the wrong person, you will be the same as unhappy even if you get married after the age of 30. Whether the shoes fits the shoes, you need to put them on and walk around to know. People who are married early have the opportunity to start over and get married late. People who are close to middle-aged and elderly people will have to settle down.

I dare not guarantee you that you will be happy after getting married late, but logically, we can draw a conclusion: "As people grow older, they will be more judged, their mentality will be more calm, and their economic prosperity will be more abundant. At this time, you will know more clearly what kind of person you are, and you will also know whether the other person is really suitable for you. "

For example, I don't like living with my parents-in-law. I want to have a child at the age of 33-35. I hope to share the housework after marriage. If the other party cannot accept it, it is not suitable.

Then, you may also ask yourself carefully, the other party is almost 30 years old and can only earn 5,000 yuan a month. Will it affect your future quality of life!

If you can't make these judgments, can we get married later?

If we can't make these judgments, can we get married later?

Wait for you, or wait for me, and when all of them are better, it is also a choice to talk about marriage.