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saw a post titled: "After I reached forty, I realized that the difference between a family with children and a family without children is really big."
For the person involved, he has entered the age of forty, and his life has basically stabilized. Suddenly he began to regret it.
regretted his choice of ‘dink ’, and even when he was with his wife, he would look through other people’s circle of friends.
Looking at the photos of children shared by friends, I suddenly felt a different feeling in my heart.
1. Once upon a time, I thought the freedom
In fact, in this era, many young people are shouting: 'I don't want to get married, getting married means pushing myself into the fire pit. '
And with these slogans and declarations, are gradually decreasing marriage and fertility rates, and gradually increasing aging base.
Those who are now middle-aged, in fact, have they ever regretted their thoughts for a moment?
Perhaps, the man who posted the post is the best example. Now he has a certain financial strength and a wife.
However, there is always a missing figure in front of you who should have appeared, and this figure may become a regret for your life.
When he was young, neither he nor his wife thought of giving birth to a new life. The reason was nothing more than that, neither of them liked children very much at the beginning.
They think that marriage should bring them a dull life, especially after seeing the chaos and busyness in their circle of friends.
From their friends, they saw the kind of life they didn’t want to live, so they decided to become ’ DINK Family . ‘
But now they are really free, but they are starting to regret it again. Or maybe the freedom they expect shouldn't have looked like this now.
2. Why should a life be nurtured?
Someone said: "Why do we want to give birth to a new life? It's not to pass on the family line, but because this is a process of our experience."
For any newlywed couple, they have to go through two identity changes, one is to become someone's lover and the other is to become someone's parents.
Getting married is actually a new family, just like when we were young, our parents supported our home for us.
But this time, we want to support my home for another little life surrounded by love. It's not just an identity change.
" Sanyue has a new job ", Luo Damiao once said to Sanyue:
" My parents told me that we gave birth to you just to experience a brand new process, so we will not ask you to become what kind of person you must become. "
In the eyes of parents, children should not be the continuation of their unfinished dreams. They are actually just a continuation of life and the result of love.
One day, they will wave goodbye to their parents, embrace a person they have never met before, and start a new life, and this is the value of life.
3. Be careful in any decision
At any stage, someone will definitely tell you what kind of person you should become and what kind of things you should do.
You can choose to do it or not, because this is the right you should have as an ordinary person with your own independent personality.
But, since you have made this decision, you must be responsible for this decision. Especially when you have no choice.
Looking back on the past, you will definitely regret why you didn’t take another path at the beginning, but it is difficult to guarantee that you will not have the same idea in parallel time and space.
So, don’t live a life of following the crowd, but in the same way, don’t give up what you should have just for the happiness in front of you.
In the process of obtaining anything, there may be variables, hardships, blows, and setbacks. This is normal.
Just like before a heavy rain, even if the strong wind can blow off the trees and take away some things, the rainbow after the rain is as beautiful as it is.
Same thing, whether it is childbirth or marriage, these are all experiences in your life. Whether you want to choose depends on yourself.
4. People cannot just enjoy happiness
When you see other people's children grow up healthily, there must be some children who are experiencing the hardships of life.
Many times, the world we see is the world that others want us to see, and only our own experience is our own.
In other words, don’t bind yourself with other people’s lives, do whatever you want, and don’t always think about the worst results.
The worst plan is to keep it in your heart, not to say it on your mouth, nor to put it at your feet.
People cannot just enjoy happiness, nor can they only have pain in life. This is the most real life.
or above, I wish you a good dream and good night.
