After an extramarital affair is discovered, some men will choose to return to their families on their own initiative.
Because compared to extramarital affairs with third parties, it is obvious that family is more important to them.
They are afraid that their original wife will make a divorce because the cost of divorce is too high, so they will decisively break up with the mistress.
But among these men, there will be many who have to insist on being friends with the mistress even if they break up with the mistress.
Why do men cheat on this? All for these three purposes.
The first purpose is to prepare for the rekindling of old love.
Many cheating men are not willing to return to their families, but are forced by the situation.
They were afraid of divorce, so they broke up with their mistress to comfort their original wife and let them not divorce.
The reality is that as long as the cheating man and the mistress break up, he will take the initiative to return to his family.
90% of the original wife will choose to forgive and continue to live with the cheating man.
Because the original wife doesn’t want to divorce either, it’s better for the sake of the children or financially unreliable.
The reasons why the original wives don’t want to divorce are actually more than the reasons for divorce.
The cheating men also understand this, so when they are found out that they have an extramarital affair, they will take the initiative to return and be able to keep their marriage.
But they are not really returning, they still miss the happy time of extramarital affairs.
Compared with the trivial matters of food, food, oil, salt, sauce, vinegar, and children's parents need money and care.
Talk about love with the mistress, have some romance, and enjoy life with extramarital affair, which makes people yearn for even more.
Once a man cheats, it will be difficult for him to return completely because the extramarital affair is so beautiful.
Especially when the extramarital affair just started, the mistress would be busy pleasing the cheating man.
The two people will not have conflicts during the passionate love period, and the freshness and stimulation have not disappeared.
Extramarital affair and mistresses have a fatal attraction to cheating men, and he doesn't want to end it at all.
Even if you are more clear-headed and know that marriage is more important, you will be reluctant to end it.
So many cheating men will be friends with mistresses and prepare for the rekindling of old love.
told the mistress that he had no choice but to go home, and he also loved the mistress, so he had to be friends.
tells the original wife that she has completely broken up with the mistress and will become a stranger in the future.
coaxes both sides to deceive the mistress, making the mistress not resentful, and making the original wife continue to marry.
A cheating man will reveal his true purpose and start to rekindle his old love with his mistress.
The second purpose is to be possessive and don’t want the mistress to find others.
A man may not love mistresses, nor does he love his original wife, but only himself.
But he has a strong possessive desire for his original wife and mistress.
So this situation will happen, the cheating man and mistress break up and return to the family.
But I don’t want the mistress to find other men and continue to be friends just to facilitate monitoring the mistress.
possessiveness is a psychological phenomenon. You will cherish what you like and only allow yourself to touch it. Even if others get close, they will be unhappy.
Their logic is: since I have already obtained something, I will never let it go.
This makes it impossible for the other party to leave you even if you don’t love each other anymore.
For them, as long as they get one thing and a person, it means that it belongs to them alone.
So a cheating man may not love mistresses anymore, and he will decisively abandon the mistress for his own benefit.
But they do not allow mistresses to find other men, and think mistresses should keep their moral integrity for them.
Compared with the original wife, we change the psychology or thinking logic of cheating men.
Let the cheating man completely break off the relationship with the mistress, so it is better to let the mistress see clearly the cheating man.
After all, no one wants to be someone else's property, and he will be punished if he is abandoned.
As long as the mistress knows that a man cheats on him is this kind of mentality, let alone being friends, he will only avoid the man cheating on him.
The third purpose is to threaten the original wife, so that the original wife dare not punish him too much.
There are also many cheating men and mistresses who continue to be friends and keep in touch with each other.
is not planning to mistresses, but is calculating the original wives.
As long as the mistress is still in contact with the cheating man, many original wives will worry that the two of them will rekindle their old love.
I feel that a cheating man may cheat again at any time, so he will not be too ruthless against a cheating man.
is afraid that the man who cheats is angry and embarrassed, so he runs to find the mistress, so he dare not over-punish the man who cheats.
and many original wives will also try to ensure that the man will no longer look for mistresses and please the cheating man.
The most important thing in solving extramarital affair is the attitude of the original wives.
Since a cheating man is afraid of divorce, he will abandon his mistress because of saving his marriage.
Then the original partner should seize this and make good use of this.
allows the cheating man to continue to retreat and accept punishment.
instead of being tricked by some tricks from a cheating man, he forced him to make a concession.
Let the cheating man do whatever he wants and take the dominance.
Marriage has always been a battle for power. If you catch the handle and don’t attack, just wait for others to take control.
So here I would like to remind all wives who have been cheated.
If a man truly returns, he will not be friends with the mistress.
If he insists on keeping contact with the mistress, it proves that he still has some bad intentions.
Pleasing a cheating man cannot solve this problem. He is directly and firm, and he is afraid of what he is doing.
It will not be over until the cheating man takes the initiative to break up with the mistress completely, which is more conducive to solving the problem.
In fact, no matter what the purpose of cheating on a man is, he is unwilling to break up with his mistress.
is a very unfavorable situation for the original wife. If they keep cleaning up, your marriage will be in danger.
The return of a man does not mean that the extramarital affair is over. He and his mistress are constantly clean, and the old love may rekindle at any time.
So the original wives either let the cheating man break up with the mistress completely.
If he keeps going, you have to have an attitude, you will divorce the cheating man.
hugs left and right, and if you want to please both sides, you must not give the opportunity to cheat on a man.
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