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There is a question on the Internet: "Why did you delete the person you have liked for a long time?"
In fact, there are only two reasons: either, the other party has found his own happiness, or, you have found his own happiness.
is not all likes, and you will get the desired result in the end. For those who are destined to have no results, letting go is the best result.
1. Like it, it can be just a process
A colleague I once met. I had someone I liked for a long time before, but recently she has never mentioned the other party again.
asked later and found out that the other party already had a partner and had recently started planning related matters about getting married with his partner.
out of concern, she would comfort her colleagues. Unexpectedly, she said, "Actually, everything is no big deal, I can learn to let go." When
is by the other party, the other party is not unaware of his own feelings, but just repeatedly and repeatedly distances himself from him.
He doesn't want to lose this friend who grew up with him, but at the same time, he is also very clear that he can't give the other party the result he wants.
So, since there is no result, then not starting is the best result, and this is the responsibility to both parties.
Of course, the process of letting go of someone is not as easy as imagined, but you can't stay where you are and wait for the other person to turn back.
Life is not an idol drama. There is no moving background music and ups and downs and graceful plot waiting to enter, life requires down-to-earth.
2. Marriage is not the result of life
Qian Zhongshu said: "Love is mostly unsuccessful, either because of the boredom of finally getting married, or because of the sorrow of not being able to finally get married."
Will people together have an ending? Or, with the result, can those who have obtained the certificates be able to live their lives safely?
From the various cases around us, they have actually given us many of the most realistic answers.
Indeed, at the beginning, they had fantasized about the future and announced to the world that they would accompany each other for the rest of their lives.
However, after marriage, how many people quarrel endlessly because of the pressure of life, the burden of raising offspring, and even some trivial matters.
Today's society, we have a divorced cooling-off period , the purpose is to make those who are impulsive face love again.
However, divorce actually does not essentially require a cooling-off period, because what needs to be calm is the marriage they are experiencing.
When you are in a marriage, you can only see your own efforts. When a family, only one party is struggling to support it, then it is not far from being broken.
Marriage has never been the result of love. Similarly, if there is no seed planted, isn’t it a way to let the other party go.
3. You always have to continue living
In the movie "Hong Kong Kar-wai , there is a classic line: "Love is a matter of time, and it is impossible to know too early or too late."
Why do we let go of some people, miss some people, and understand some people, in fact, in essence, we just need to continue to live our own lives.
When a person has taught you the ups and downs of love, you may not necessarily have a result with the other party, which is the perfect ending.
Similarly, when someone lets you experience these things, it doesn’t mean that he will definitely appear in the last scene and give you the desired result.
Regarding love, the troubles in this world are divided into several categories: not to care about gaining, no result in cherishing, regret missing out, and sudden repentance.
No matter which one it is, it is a kind of love and an experience about love. Whether the story begins, it is a life experience. Letting go of
is never a thing worth being sad, because love cannot be obtained by forcing the other party, that is not love.
Perhaps, you can see the other person's happiness, maybe, you can't stand the other person's happiness, but your life must continue.
4. Regret is also a kind of experience
In fact, the same principle is still true: don’t be too hasty, don’t choose to get married just for the sake of getting married.
Otherwise, you may be holding your partner's hand when you are in your seventies or eighties, and then sigh that you have been doing things that go against your true heart in your life.
You don’t love him, but you have lived with him for the rest of your life. She doesn't love you, but she has also protected your life.
For love, this is the most sad result.
or above, I wish you a good dream, good night
