Most of human troubles arise from interpersonal communication.
When we were young, we thought that every favor around us was worth expending energy, material resources and financial resources to cultivate.
As you get older, the more you understand one thing, not everyone is worthy of your deep friendship.
Everyone is actually the same, and they don’t want to be always told by anyone, scolded by anyone, and suppressed by anyone in various ways.
just like to listen to some good words. If someone likes to give themselves affirmation and encouragement.
Even if you do something wrong or make a mistake, you don’t want to be blamed blindly. Instead, you hope someone can give you some comfort and tell yourself softly that it doesn’t matter. Just pay attention next time, don’t mind too much.
When you meet such a person and are treated gently by the other party, you will naturally feel particularly warm and happy inside.
On the contrary, when you don’t do anything well, even if you don’t make any mistakes at all, you are just always disliked, picky, and criticized by others. Naturally, your mood will actually be affected.
Although everyone should live for themselves and have a sense of themselves. They should not always mind other people's opinions and other people's eyes, but people eventually live in the crowd and in the same circle.
will be more or less affected by the people around you, and will still care more about how the people around you view you.
Unconsciously, the mood will fluctuate due to some other people's statements, because others always say that they are not good and become very heavy. They can't be happy at all, and often feel particularly painful.
Marshall pointed out a point in his book "Nonviolent Communication ":
"Maybe we do not think that our way of talking is violent, but our language does often cause pain to ourselves and others."
As the saying goes, "a soft knife hurts people more", the harm that language brings people is huge, and the pain it brings to people is lasting, and some people will find it difficult to get out of the shadows in their entire lives.
I can’t help but think of a sentence in " Silent Confession ":
"Our life is to get rid of other people's expectations and find our true selves."
Those who often hit you, even let depression, only emptiate your spiritual pillar bit by bit, and let you fall into endless darkness and abyss.
The only way we protect ourselves is to say goodbye to this type of people and break free from unhealthy relationships as soon as possible.
Learn to affirm yourself, stick to yourself, not be influenced by the other party, love yourself well, and live a wonderful life.
People who are good at gaming and manipulating you are the ones who know you the most.
No matter how famous people are, it is difficult for them to directly control you.
But the game masters around you can do it.
They can negate your thoughts in every detail. Long-term negation leads to you being extremely unconfident.
Every time you think, you are afraid of being denied by him.
even he will chat with you alone without any trouble, further denying you.
especially the superior, the idiomatic trick. You hope someone will promote you and be optimistic about you.
He will tell you that you are delusional.
In the name of "reality", it makes you give up your ideals.
After a long time, I lost my confidence, and was hit hard, so I followed my advice.
at the end
Three views are different and they do not plan for each other.
"Birds of a feather flock together", different from your three views. Just stay away from those who don't know how to appreciate you, there is no need to keep his words in mind.
