all say that the elderly cannot remarry, just like the old man in our family thought he would be happy after remarrying, but he was hurt by this matter. Who can you blame for the ending now? If you want to blame yourself. I hope this case can remind all the elderly that they must think seriously when facing remarriage. Do you think you will be happy in the future if you care?
is likely to be a pit, and it is too late to regret it at that time. Why do you say that? Let’s take a look at this matter together, and you will know what’s going on after reading it. I will not be allowed to enter the room at night when I remarried and my husband was not allowed to enter the room. The aunt said: There are five requirements, otherwise I will be exempted from entering. The uncle said: Get out.
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61-year-old Mr. Li:
I regret it, now I am in a dilemma, I want to divorce but can’t divorce. If I don’t divorce, I don’t know how to live. The more I get bigger and bigger, I wanted to tell my children about this when I was happy, but now all my children know and come to ask me what’s going on.
and then remarried me. Xiao Zhang ran to my child and asked me for money. Now I can’t live this life. I want to divorce, but I can’t get married. More importantly, my child has lost his reputation just like I am now. My son called me and my son told me if you got married secretly, and what happened to that woman? Didn’t he say he wouldn’t marry you?
Why did you marry that woman? Now that woman is here, that woman is here. I still want to say something and want to refute it, but what I say now is useless. If I am wrong, I shouldn’t get married. If I don’t get married, it will not be the ending now.
I told my son that I didn’t think about it either, but now there is no way, and then my son told me, what does it mean to be helpless? Didn’t we say it at the beginning? If you don’t marry you, just tell us if you need any help. Why don’t you listen now? How can the woman who is prone to sending her to God to divorce you?
I told my son that I didn’t know either, but the woman seemed to need money. He told me that I would give 200,000 yuan, otherwise I wouldn’t have divorced. When I heard that 200,000 yuan, my son hung up the phone directly. My son was more than 10,000 yuan a month, but the more than 10,000 yuan was just enough to spend. It was impossible for my son to take out 200,000 yuan. Moreover, the woman said 200,000 yuan was just a talk. In the real situation, I regretted that I married Xiao Zhang.
I thought there would be a happy marriage that night Xiao Zhang regretted thinking about this. I got married with Xiao Dan and I thought there would be a happy one. On the night of the wedding, Xiao Zhang talked and laughed at me and even drank with me. After drinking, he told me that you can't go into the room to sleep. If you want to go in, you must agree to my five requirements. My request is entirely for your own good.
The first requirement is that you must transfer your property to me.
Although we are just neighbors or couples, we are also husband and wife. We have obtained the certificate and are protected by law. Yours is my car and transferred to me. Even if this is the case, then you give me your property and transfer your body to me. Even if you are responsible to me, if you are not responsible to me, who is responsible to me? Don’t think that one day your child will be responsible to me. What I want to tell you is that young people are very ruthless now. Even if your child is not ruthless, your child does not have the ability to be responsible to me.
so you don’t think about letting your child be responsible for you. This is impossible and unrealistic. What's more, I'm with you, not with your children, so I don't want your children to be responsible for me, I just want to make you complicated by me. Since that's the case, then you will give me everything you have and transfer your property to me, which is also considered responsible for me. After I gave the property to me, I would do whatever I wanted.To put it bluntly, even if you leave this world, I don’t care. After all, I can live my life with your property. It can be regarded as your last love for me. If you don’t give me your property, what will I do in the future? For my own good, I must transfer the property to me.
The second requirement, if my son needs help in the future, you must help.
You also know that I only have three sons. If my children need help one day, you must help. Don’t think that my children have nothing to do with you, and then you can not help. What I want to say is why it doesn’t matter. My children are your children because I have married you. Since I have said that I have married you, then you are the father of the child. Since you say that you are the father of the child, you should be responsible for taking care of the child. Isn’t it?
If you are not responsible for my children, whoever is responsible for my children, you are the father of the child and must be responsible for the child. But don’t worry, they won’t cause any trouble for you, unless they really can’t survive, or there is really nothing they can do, otherwise they won’t talk about you. They are all married and have children, and they won’t let you buy a house.
won’t let you introduce women, so don’t think so much, just agree to this. For my children, it can be considered as finding them responsible for something, not to mention that the one who is with me is the child’s father. Shouldn’t you be responsible for them?
The third requirement is that your son will give me 20,000 yuan of pocket money every month.
Although you have more than 8,000 yuan in retirement every month, this pension is different from what your son gives me. Your son gives me my pocket money. The money your son gives me, I do whatever I want, and give me 20,000 yuan a month, not a penny can be lost. Although I know that it is indeed quite a lot to ask your son to take out 20,000 yuan, you have two sons and one daughter, just ask each of them to give a few thousand yuan a month. If you have more abilities, you can give more, and if you have less abilities, you can get less.
anyway, they just give me more than 20,000 yuan in total, 20,000 yuan a month. 20,000 yuan a month is not much. Some women give their husbands hundreds of thousands a month after getting married, and some even millions a month. My request is not as excessive as others. After all, I know that your life is not easy, and your children's life is not easy, so it is impossible for them to give out hundreds of millions.
so just give me 20,000 yuan a month, but only 240,000 yuan a year is not much, right? What's more, I'm with you. If you don't give me pocket money, whoever gives me pocket money? I'm your wife, you have to give me pocket money. The monthly pocket money of 20,000 yuan cannot be reduced. It's not Vietnamese Dong but RMB, nor US dollars.
The fourth requirement, if one day I need you to give the house to my son, then you must agree.
You also know that the house my son lives in is relatively small, and my son still has no son and has three daughters. If he wants children in the future, he must change to a larger house. If that is the case, this is the same, then let me tell you in advance. One day my son really wants a child, and then we will give him the house we live in now.
If this is the case, let’s tell you in advance. If one day my son really wants a child, then we will give him the house we live in now. This house is relatively large. Although I also know that this house was bought by you and your wife, now I am your wife and I am with you. Then this house has nothing to do with your ex-wife. Isn’t it enough for you to be with me? Isn’t it a blessing to be with me? There is no need to care who this house is given to.
More importantly, I am your wife, and then he is your son again. What's wrong with giving him the house? They are all family members. Since they are said to be family members, there is no need to care about so much. If you are responsible for my son, you are responsible for me. Shouldn’t you be responsible for me? You have to be responsible for me, right?
The fifth requirement is that your child cannot care about our affairs.
I am marrying you, not your son and others, so your son doesn’t care about our affairs, no matter whether we live well or not, no matter how I treat you, don’t care about your children, my children won’t care about my affairs, no matter how we live, no matter whether we live well or not, my children won’t interfere with our affairs. But one thing you can rest assured is that as long as you agree with my request.
Then I can guarantee that we will definitely live a happy life. As long as we live a happy life, it is enough. Is it together for happiness? For our happiness, you must listen to me, so there is no need for your children to care about us anymore. Just be as good as we live. As long as your children don’t care about our affairs, we will definitely live a happy life.
You also know that the old people are sad and happy together nowadays. The biggest reason is that they take care of too much children. You don’t want to let us live a bad life because they take care of too much children. So for our happiness, you should not let your children take care of our affairs. They do whatever they want, and we don’t care about their affairs.
These 5 requirements If you agree, I can get you into the room, but if you disagree, don’t blame me. If you disagree, don’t think about entering the room. Also, I am your wife’s house. If you disagree, I will drive you out. Don’t blame me for being ruthless. If you want to blame me, blame yourself, because you don’t really love me, and don’t really want to live with me. If you really want to live with me, then agree with my five requirements.
This is not for my own good, it is entirely for his own good. On the surface, Xiao Zhang said this for my good, but in fact it is not for his own good? I couldn't bear it anymore. I told Xiao Zhang that we couldn't live anymore. On the wedding night, you treated me like this. How can you live in the future?
Xiao Zhang slapped me in the face. I never thought that he would hit me in this matter. Xiao Zhang said, don’t blame me for hitting you, if you want to blame yourself, I just said, “Get out of here, let’s get divorced. This house belongs to me, I will not give you the house, let alone listen to you… This matter is getting bigger and bigger. At this time, I am really scared. I shouldn’t marry Xiao Zhang. Now I can’t divorce, and I want to leave but can’t. I’m wrong.
Conclusion:
Who can blame for the ending now? If it weren't for you to marry someone else, would this happen? You think you will be happy after marriage, but in fact, you will be hurt after marriage. In real life, how many elderly people can live happily after marriage will become more and more miserable after marriage. Some elderly people even jump into the fire pit like the old man in the article.
So the elderly should not remarry. It is a good life for one person. The whole family will not be hungry if you don’t think about yourself. Even if you don’t think about yourself, you should consider your children. If the child is affected by your marriage, it will be more than worth the loss. So I hope this case can remind all elderly people that you must think twice about remarriage.
