Oral description: Gao Caiping Compiled by: Qingmei Brewing
My husband and I have been married for nearly twenty years. Because of his domestic violence and infidelity, our marriage has reached the brink of breaking down. It is just to reduce the harm to our son. We are still maintaining it on the surface, but I have already made up my mind to end this painful marriage immediately when my child’s college entrance examination is over.
Unexpectedly, before my son could take the college entrance examination, my husband was in a car accident and was still unconscious. It was May 20 this year. After work, several female colleagues around me chattered about their gains today. Some said that their husbands sent her a red envelope of 520 yuan, and some said that their husbands would take her out for a big meal tonight.
Seeing me silent, Xiaoli asked me, "Sister Gao, what has my brother-in-law prepared for you?" Based on the principle that family scandals should not be made public, I have never disclosed the situation in my family to my colleagues, so they do not know the tension in our husband and wife's relationship. I smiled and said, "I am an old husband and wife, I don't care so much." I brought this topic over.
As noon approached, I suddenly received a call from a stranger who used my husband's cell phone to call me. On the phone, he told me that he was a policeman and that my husband had just had a car accident and had been sent to the hospital for emergency treatment. Although my relationship was weak, I was still his wife after all. After putting down the phone, I hurried to the hospital.
The two sisters of my husband also arrived after hearing the news. From the traffic police, I learned that my husband was traveling against the road near the "Xuefu Mingyuan" community and collided with an oncoming truck. Although he was seriously injured, he was fully responsible. When I heard about the accident, I understood that my husband's mistress lived in "Xuefu Mingyuan". On this special day, he must have been anxious to spend a good time with his mistress before the accident broke out.
My name is Gao Caiping. I was born in a rural area in northern Shandong. I happened to catch my mother after failing the college entrance examination at the age of 18. On the one hand, my mother needs care, and on the other hand, the family’s financial conditions do not allow it, so I did not repeat the school. After my mother was discharged from the hospital, she went to a factory in the county to work.
During the process of working, we met my current husband through someone else's introduction. After six months of contact, we confirmed the relationship. My husband's home is also in the countryside. His parents are farmers who face the loess and are facing the sky. During the slack season, they do odd jobs in the village factory and their economic conditions are also very average. There are three sisters in the family, and he is the only son in the family. A year later, with the help of several of his sisters, we entered the marriage.
When we first got married, because neither family could provide us with financial help, we rented two houses in the shanty town of the county. Because the drainage was not smooth, when it rained slightly harder, the rain would flow backwards. There were several sandbags at the door of every household, which was simply a scene in the shanty town.
The house we rented has been disrepaired for many years and will leak whenever it rains. And it is hard to guard against leaks. The leaks have just been repaired, and there will always be new leaks when the second heavy rain comes. I remember one time there were too many places that leaked, and my basins were almost insufficient.
My husband and I were busy picking up the rain. My husband still recited Du Fu 's "The hut was broken by the autumn wind" in pain. "How can I get thousands of houses to shelter all the poor people in the world to be happy, and my hut was broken and frozen to death." It was a painful but happy day.
A few years later, the son was born. A relative of her husband's family had a stall in the vegetable market. Because the family had other businesses, he didn't want to continue running, so the husband took down their stall and started a vegetable business. Selling vegetables is a hard job, but the income is much higher than working.
When my son was ten years old, we finally owned our own house in the county town. Although we had to pay more than 1,000 loans a month, we were still very excited. My son's academic performance is very good and he has always ranked among the top in the grade, which makes us feel that life is more exciting. My husband said, "It seems that our family's ancestral grave will be smoked, and our family will also have a college student.
In the following years, our lives were smooth sailing. We paid off the bank's loan in advance and bought a car for transportation. Once, I was lying in bed. I said to my husband, "Think about renting a house that was leaking in the past. Look at it now, it's like a dream. I never thought we could live a life of having a house and a car." He shaved my nose and said, "Silly girl, good days are still coming. Maybe there are so many things you can't imagine!"
In the following days, his words were really fulfilled. I didn't wait for a better day, but he did something I couldn't imagine. Maybe it was because of "fullness and lust". After having a little money in his hand, his heart became restless, and he actually got along with a widow who was close to his stall.
The woman is 35 years old this year. Her husband died of cancer and left her and a ten-year-old son. Her husband spent a lot of money on treatment, so her life was very difficult.
Because the stall is close, my husband often provides her with some help.
There is a saying on the Internet that men help women, and there is no purpose for them. Although this is absolutely true, there are indeed not many "Lei Feng" among men. After the two of them had been in contact for a long time, her husband's shoulders became her support, because I had quarreled with him about them.
Every time I was abused by him, he also told me clearly: "If you can't go on, you can get a divorce, he won't leave her!" I don't want our marriage to have a negative impact on the child, because my son still had excellent grades after going to junior high school. I chose to endure for his son. In the past two or three years, we have been separated. I have ignored him, and he rarely takes money to go home. He said that the money exists with the widow.
After my husband was hospitalized, the tens of thousands of yuan in his card was quickly spent. My husband's elder sister came to me and said, "The hospital has notified the renewal!" My husband's illness is a bottomless pit. After I paid 20,000 yuan in medical expenses, I received a notice from the hospital a few days later.
My husband's sisters were very dissatisfied with me and said, "He works in the market all day long, and your family only has such a small amount of money. Don't you want to wait for him to die to take over your property!" I said to them angrily, "You know your brother's situation better than me. Have he gotten back the money for the family in the past few years? His money is in the "Xuefu Mingyuan"!"
His elder sister said in a decisive way: "I have asked her, but people say that it is not that true at all. It is you who are slandering people based on your own imagination! ”
His sisters came to my house all day because of medical expenses. His third sister said, “He is our only brother, and he will save him even if he loses money. Are you not rich? This house has half of the property rights of my younger brother. I sold him to save my younger brother. If he can’t cure him, we will accept his fate!”
During the time of my husband’s hospitalization, his mistress never appeared. His sister forced me to sell the house to save people. Maybe my legal approach was my only choice at this time.
