Don't joke, how can men be raped? Every time Zhang Ze tries to seek help from others, he exclaims the depression in his heart, and is regarded as a joke. No one will believe that men will also be harmed. In many people's concepts, men are often perpetrators rather than victims.
Goodbye Zhang Ze is the eighth year after graduation. I can’t believe that the person in front of me was my former academic deskmate. At that time, he took good care of me. I would ask him if I didn’t understand any questions, and he always patiently helped me answer them.
But in the last few months of graduation, Zhang Ze was like a different person. His grades dropped rapidly and he became introverted and speechless. No one knew what he had experienced. Later, he dropped out of school and left campus.
After Zhang Ze left, various rumors appeared about him in the school. Some said that Zhang Ze's parents were sick and he had to go back to take care of him. Some said that Zhang Ze found a "long-term meal ticket" and did not have to work as hard as us. Some even outrageously said that Zhang Ze was already married and had to leave the school. All kinds of rumors were not true or false.
At that time, he was a sunny boy and an athlete. There were many fans in the school. Now he has a bad beard and unkempt.
I met Zhang Ze while having barbecue with my friend. When I heard someone calling his name, I subconsciously looked back and carefully identified it for a long time before I dared to recognize him.
Zhang Ze and I sat together,
recalled some interesting things when I was in school, asked how he had been doing over the years, and why did the last few months change so much?
"You may not believe it if you say it." Zhang Ze stared into my eyes and said, "Because I was raped." I was stunned for a moment, "No wonder you changed so much later. You have suffered so much in the years, brother!" "Do you really believe it? Zhang Ze's eyes are filled with tears. I have said it like others have said it these years. They all think I am joking," then Zhang Ze told me about the unbearable past.
Zhang Ze's past
Zhang Ze's family conditions are not good, his father is in poor health, he is ill in bed, and his mother relies on selling fruit to save tuition for Zhang Ze. The sensible Zhang Ze can't bear to see his mother working so hard, and has been working part-time jobs, hoping to reduce the burden on his mother a little.
Zhang Ze, who was helping the kitchen in the restaurant kitchen that day, received a call from his mother. On the phone, his mother said anxiously, "Aze, come back quickly, your father's condition has worsened, and you must send him to the hospital as soon as possible." Zhang Ze didn't care about his work, and left the restaurant and returned home without even having sex, helping his mother to send his father to the hospital.
After the doctor's efforts, although my father rescued him, the doctor said that Zhang Ze's father must have surgery as soon as possible. I don't know if he was so lucky to be rescued this time next time, and this requires a lot of money. Looking at his father who was tortured by the pain on the hospital bed, Zhang Ze felt pressure that he had never felt before.
borrowed all my relatives and friends. I didn’t get enough money I saved with my mother over the years, and Zhang Ze was in a panic.
The house was leaking and raining all night. Because Zhang Ze was anxious for a while, he ran out of the restaurant without asking for leave, which caused the restaurant to fail to serve in time and was complained by the customer. The manager fired Zhang Ze in anger and treated Zhang Ze as a negative teaching material to let the employees take it as a warning!
Zhang Ze was depressed and couldn't cheer up his energy when playing basketball. The classmate who played basketball together called him several times but failed to call Zhang Ze to play basketball. One of them had a good friend to Zhang Ze. After learning about his situation, he introduced him to a job, a gym assistant.
Because Zhang Ze likes to play basketball, is tall and has a good figure, he easily passed the interview and took the post after a simple training.
Fitness coach assistant work is very easy. He patrols the gym every day to avoid unsafe situations, eliminate safety hazards in a timely manner, assist coaches in teaching private teachers, maintain private teachers, and urge members to come and exercise regularly.
The coach with his own surname is Wang, and everyone called him Brother Wang. Brother Wang is the coach with the most members in the gym, and the benefits he brought to the gym are very considerable. He took great care of Zhang Ze and taught Zhang Ze the use of simple equipment. He said that he wanted to make Zhang Ze a coach as powerful as him. He always asked Zhang Ze out for dinner and drinking without any trouble. Zhang Ze politely declined.
That day, as soon as Zhang Ze came to work, he received a notice from the manager that everyone had a dinner tonight, and no one was allowed to be absent, otherwise the full attendance award would be ruined. Zhang Ze had no choice but to arrive at the hotel after get off work.
only realized that it was Brother Wang who invited everyone to dinner. Although Zhang Ze felt something was wrong, he didn't think much about it. Of course everyone knew that Brother Wang's move was not about drinking, but only Zhang Ze was kept in the dark.
So he raised his glasses to Zhang Ze frequently. Zhang Ze, who was new to come, also wanted to get along well with his colleagues, so he refused everyone and soon got a little dizzy. Seeing this, everyone suggested going to KTV to sing, "requesting" Brother Wang to send Zhang Ze home. The two colleagues helped Brother Wang into Brother Wang's car and left.
It was not until the next day that Zhang Ze, who woke up in the hotel, recalled the blurry details of last night and checked his body, and confirmed that he had been violated. Zhang Ze insanely wanted to call the police, but when he saw the card on the table and Brother Wang’s information on the phone, he completely put down his phone.
Brother Wang’s message told him that he looked particularly like his first love in his school days. Because he was not brave enough at that time, he couldn’t be together. When he saw Zhang Ze, Brother Wang felt that he had returned to his school days. Brother Wang knew that Zhang Ze’s family was in trouble, so he used the 100,000 yuan in his card as a gift for Zhang Ze, hoping that he could accept it.
Zhang Ze held this bank card that could save his father's life, and finally chose to hide it. He left the gym and his father also had surgery. Later, I knew that Zhang Ze could not overcome the hurdle in his heart and no longer had the intention to study. Later, he dropped out of school early and left the city.
Zhang Ze finished speaking this and sighed, as if he had removed the big stone that had been pressed down in his heart for a long time. "Thank you for listening to me that year. I was 18 years old that year, and I can't let go. I have encountered the type I like over the years, but I dare not pursue it. I always feel that I am not worthy and I am still alone." My suggestion is to ask Zhang Ze to find a psychologist. Only a psychologist can help him open the knot. Although this incident has been a long time since then, it has left an eternal shadow in Zhang Ze's heart. I can only hope that my good brother can get out of the haze as soon as possible.
After I went back, I checked the Civil Code and found no punishment regulations for men being raped.
in the BBC documentary mentioned: In the case of re-rape, the proportion of male victims is about 1/6. Worldwide, about 8 men are raped every hour.
When we saw this data, we found that it is not that there are no male victims, but on the contrary, the probability of male being raped is even higher in theory than females, because there are not only the opposite sex, but also the same sex.
Although there are few such reports on the news, it does not mean that we are not around us. If men are abused, they will not call the police or say it out.
Men are raped to cause greater harm to them. Many people are dominated by shame, which not only affects the normal social ability of interpersonal relationships, but also becomes resistant to normal intimate relationships.
Someone has conducted a special investigation on this. It takes an average of 26 years for male victims to face the facts of being violated calmly, while some people cannot open their knots in their entire lives.
So what should I do if a man is violated in law?
In law, men are not the subject of the applicable victims of rape, and the subject of the applicable victims of rape is mainly aimed at women, protecting women's sexual autonomy.
According to Article 236 of the Criminal Law of the People's Republic of China, rape refers to the act of forcibly having sex with a woman against the will of a woman, using violence, coercion or other means, or deliberately having sex with a young girl under the age of 14.
The victims of rape are women and children, and men will not be convicted of rape if they are abused.
Legally, if a man is raped, the perpetrator commits the crime of " forcibly molesting "
According to Article 237 of the Criminal Law of the People's Republic of China, those who forcibly molest or insult others by violence, coercion or other means shall be sentenced to fixed-term imprisonment of not more than five years or detention. Those who gather or commit the crime in the preceding paragraph in public shall be sentenced to fixed-term imprisonment of not less than five years. Those who molest children shall be punished more severely in accordance with the provisions of the previous two paragraphs.
This regulation includes everyone and protects the rights and interests of men, not limited to women and children.
What should a man do if he unfortunately encounters rape?
. Call the police as soon as possible. Only by calling the police can the perpetrator be punished by law!
. Don’t take a bath afterward to retain evidence. You can retain the other person’s hair and skin tissues are relatively strong evidence.
. Be sure to go to the hospital for physical examination to avoid secondary harm, and detect and treat early.
. You must understand that this is not your fault. Don’t blindly close your heart. If necessary, the psychologist is the one who can help you the most.
My opinion
Whether it is male or female, born in New China and raised under the red flag. They should be protected by laws and regulations and enjoy the rights and interests of citizens.
If you have boys around you who have been abused, please don’t make fun of them. If you can’t empathize with , please be a quiet listener.
What do you think men should do if they are raped? If you have any opinions, please leave a message below to discuss!
