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Many people say: Marriage is the grave of love.
This is not an exaggeration. Many couples with very good relationships in love are full of conflicts after getting married, and finally get to the point of parting ways.
Marriage is not love, it is not a matter of two people, but a matter of two families.
For a woman, marriage is the process of a person integrating into a strange family.
In this process, you need to face many problems, the most difficult one is the relationship with your in-laws.
If you can properly handle these problems and relationships, then the marriage will be more than half successful.
Plus the love between you and your partner, a happy marriage is reasonable.
However, many women do not know how to deal with these problems and relationships.
Most women treat their in-laws with the most sincere attitude at the beginning, but in the end they will find it thankless. What they really get is the other party’s guard, and they seem to be unable to integrate into it forever.
Just as many women say, they start to speak "mom" at first, but in the end they can't shout it out no matter what.
In fact, the key to dealing with these problems and relationships is to start in advance, that is, to get straight to the point and prepare in advance.
discuss many problems in advance so that you won’t panic when you encounter them.
Before marriage or when you first get married, you must preset the problems that may occur and occur and take certain measures to do so.
In this way, you have a greater chance of gaining a happy married life.
After all, mother-in-law is not a real mother. The in-laws cannot tolerate and love you like your biological parents, and you cannot treat them like your biological parents.
People with different living habits and even different values come together to live together, and conflicts are normal.
But remember, if you want your mother-in-law to look up to you, before getting married, you must learn to make three rules with your mother-in-law:
establish a "small family" and keep a distance from
The first and most important point is to establish a "small family" and keep a sufficient distance from your mother-in-law.
No matter how harmonious or harmonious the relationship between you and your in-laws is, you must not be separated from each other.
The correct and wise approach is to separate from your in-laws’ family and build a small home with your partner.
Whether it is parents-in-law or relatives, you must keep a certain distance.
The small family between you should belong only to you two, and cannot be mixed with other people.
You need to know that if everyone lives together, problems and contradictions will emerge one after another.
After all, everyone’s living habits, ideas, etc. are different, and they will inevitably dislike each other’s practices.
If this continues, no matter how good the relationship is, it will collapse, and you will become more and more unhappy.
Building a small home may be difficult for many people. After all, buying a house costs a lot of money, but no matter what, it is always right to keep a distance from your in-laws. You would rather rent a house and save money to buy a house slowly, and try not to live with your in-laws.
hold economic rights, maintain independence
hold economic rights, maintain independence is another point of the "three rules".
If you want to live a happy life after marriage, then you must tell the other party before marriage that you must be responsible for the financial power of the family, and you must have your own career.
The economic power will give you the right to speak when arranging matters at home, and it will not be entirely decided and dominated by your in-laws. Keeping independence in
is to give yourself confidence and a way out.
In other words, it means letting the in-laws know that you are also capable and do not need to rely on anyone. You are equal to any of them.
You see, those women who give up their careers for the sake of their families and give up their financial power will eventually be miserable. Most of them will be despised by their in-laws' family, and their relationship with their partner will become increasingly stiff.
Respect each other and maintain empathy
A woman wants to be happy after marriage, it must be based on a reasonable and reasonable in-laws' family.
If your in-laws are the kind of unreasonable and unreasonable, then your life will usually not be much better.
Therefore, before marriage, you have to "contract three rules" with your in-laws, that is, respect each other and maintain empathy.
Before marriage, you must communicate with the other party frankly and make an agreement.
For example, if you have any opinions about each other after marriage, then speak up and communicate with each other.
For example, when you are dissatisfied with the other person's behavior, you must first learn to respect the other person and try to think from the perspective of others.
In the process of this agreement, you can feel what kind of family your in-laws’ family is.
If they are very tough in the process of this agreement, then there is no need for you to continue getting along with them.
Time and Emotional Class:
Before marriage, you should find a time to sit with your in-laws and patiently "make three rules" with them.
can avoid unnecessary conflicts after marriage, and secondly, it can test the attitude of the in-laws.
If the in-laws strongly oppose the "three rules and regulations", then this marriage will most likely not be happy.
In short, you must take this step, otherwise you will definitely be extremely unhappy after marriage.
Just like He Lin and Wang Chuanzhi in the TV series "Mother-in-law is Coming", there is a big gap between the two, and there is an insurmountable gap between the two families.
In this case, He Lin resolutely decided to marry Wang Chuanzhi and did not make any agreement.
So, after marriage, Wang Chuanzhi's brother, sister-in-law, sister-in-law, and mother all lived in the house given by He Lin's mother's house and took it for himself.
After that, there are endless struggles, such as living habits and money control.
Therefore, He Lin also regretted it very much and once reached the point of divorce with Wang Chuanzhi.
It can be seen from this that marriages without agreement will definitely be full of problems.
As the saying goes, "No rules can lead to a circle." When a family has rules, they will naturally get on the right track.
So women, don’t think that doing this will make you petty, and it will also make men and in-laws embarrassed. In fact, this is just to put the words thoroughly before marriage.
has agreed on three conditions for marriage. After marriage, you must be a filial person and try to treat your parents and in-laws the same attitude. You must not be humble or arrogant, not please or be strong, so that the family will have a harmonious relationship and you will live a happy life.
