What does it really look like if your lover is?
Someone said:
must be of equal status, and they are similar to your own personality and values.
Someone said:
You must obtain emotional value from the other party and material satisfaction.
Some people also say:
Be with each other, making you feel relaxed.
These are all right, but not comprehensive enough.
is truly suitable for your lover, and the other party can meet your "psychological needs".
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Meeting the right person will give you a "full sense of security"
If in this relationship, you are always worried about gains and losses and lack a sense of security; your confidence becomes inferiority, and your courage becomes timid.
What does this mean? It means that the other person is not the love that suits you.
Maybe you love the other person very much, but the way he treats you is not love.
True love is to be with each other and give you a sense of security.
This reminds me of a story.
Girl is a "non-marriager". She can accept love, but she doesn't look forward to marriage so much.
However, she changed her attitude after being with her boyfriend for only 3 months.
She has a strong desire to marry her boyfriend.
Everyone around her asked her: "Don't you say you don't want to get married? Why do you hate marriage so much now?"
The girl said: "I feel very at ease with him; I am a person with a poor sleep, but as long as he is by my side, I feel quiet inside."
Some people become worried about gains and losses once they fall into love.
sends dozens of messages to the other party every day, makes more than a dozen calls, and asks some:
"What are you doing, who are you with, do you miss me?"
This manifestation is a lack of security.
The way they maintain love depends entirely on "checking the post". Love like
is not true love, it will only make each other tired and eventually exhaust all patience.
The first feature you have when you meet the right person is: a sense of security.
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Meeting the right person, you can relax and be yourself
"sagging feeling". The word
can be understood as: relaxed, comfortable, safe.
You don’t have to pretend, don’t wear a mask, don’t have to show off.
Every day you are with each other makes you relax and peaceful. You don’t need to pretend to prove each other’s love.
Even if you understand your shortcomings, he will still love you as always because he can accept your shortcomings.
There is a saying on the Internet:
"When a couple can survive the embarrassment of shit, pee and fart, you can consider getting married."
This is the only way for every couple to get along.
On the contrary:
If you are with the other party, you always pretend to be yourself and dare not show any shortcomings, for fear that the other party will hate you. Love like
is not real love.
Keywords:
Relax, be accepted, understood, and cared for. People like
are your true love.
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When you are with each other, you are praised and recognized
Deep in everyone's heart, there is a psychological need: "I hope to be accepted, praised, recognized, and paid attention."
Children hope to be accepted and recognized by their parents;
Men hope to be admired and supported by women;
Women hope to be loved and paid attention to men.
These are the most real and basic psychological needs of people.
You can feel the light in your eyes when the other person looks at you, with a smile in his eyes. Pay meticulous attention.
When you are with the other person, he can discover the shining points on you at any time and give you enough praise.
And when we are praised, our emotions will become positive and our confidence will gradually grow.
Such love is a good love.
If you are with him, you cannot feel "recognition", but you are always treated The side is belittling.
After a long time, your confidence that is not enough will be defeated by the other party.
Your efforts are ridiculed by him;
Your success is belittling by him;
Your self-confidence is trampled by him.
Such people, you need to stay away as soon as possible.
1. A true suit for your lover will definitely allow you to get enough value satisfaction from the other person.
Only when he provides you with high emotional value can you give him the same emotional value.
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. Meeting the right person, you feel that life has a new meaning
"There was no light in my world, but your appearance is like the sun, illuminating my life; I found the meaning of life and found the destination of life. "
Such love is enviable, desires, and pursues.
This reminds me of a girl friend around me.
When she was with her ex-husband, her eyes were dull and withered, and her whole temperament seemed depressed and depressed.
She had been living " widowed marriage " in her first marriage.
ml0 After getting married, her husband had no sense of family responsibility at all.
She went to the hospital to give birth to a child alone and took care of the child alone. Her husband could only provide her with monthly living expenses, and nothing else.
Later, she decisively ended the bad marriage that lasted for 5 years.
And now, after she met the right person, her whole body changed drastically.
11 There is light in her eyes. When she mentions her lover, she becomes a "little girl".
Looking at her expression, you can feel that she is really happy and really enjoying the current marriage status.
Love itself has no meaning. Only when you meet the right person and the two people combine, love is given different meanings.
Someone gives love loyalty and responsibility;
Someone gives love courage and acceptance;
Someone gives love truth and responsibility.
True love will definitely meet your "psychological needs".
Today's topic:
Did you love someone who suits you?
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Did you love someone who suits you?
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