01
For couples, after marriage, parents of both parties should treat each other equally, rather than ignoring the other.
But for the son-in-law, a reasonable parents-in-law seems to be hard to come by. If the parents-in-law are unreasonable or exploit their daughter, it will be difficult for the daughter and son-in-law to continue their lives.
After the mother-in-law borrowed money for her brother-in-law for the third time, Yanbin decisively took out 50,000 yuan and cut off relations with her parents-in-law. It’s not that he is cruel and ruthless, but that his purse and family cannot support his parents-in-law and family.
02
Yanbin and his wife have been married for 5 years, but they also support their parents-in-law's family for 5 years. Before getting married, his wife began to constantly help her parents and brothers. The two were in love at that time, and Yanbin didn't care much. Instead, he thought that his wife was filial and sensible, and was a good wife and mother.
However, as the two got married longer, the more Yanbin felt that he was shooting himself in the foot. The filial piety of his wife has become a major obstacle for them to maintain their family.
After getting married, the wife still subsidized her parents-in-law for 3,000 yuan in living expenses every month. In the rest of the time, when parents-in-law have any money, their wife will respond to their requests, and they will never be said.
Yanbin was very upset and told his wife several times, but his wife still did what she wanted and even shouted, "I can't spend money at my parents' home, but earn money at my in-laws' home. I'm getting married, not selling it to your family, and I have to support my parents."
03
The wife properly supports her parents, Yanbin has no opinion at all. But my wife doesn't care about her family's background at all. My brother-in-law is jealous of her peers around her, so she encourages her parents-in-law to borrow money from them, and she will borrow 100,000 yuan at one time.
Later, he used the excuse that his brother-in-law wanted to start a business with someone and needed capital, and his parents-in-law cried and begged to come to him. In the end, Yanbin was so angry that he had a big fight with his wife. But his wife still wanted to give money, so she would make a divorce if she didn't give it, so Yanbin had to take out 50,000.
There are many such borrowings, and there are countless. My parents-in-law kept saying that they would borrow money, but they never returned the money. Yanbin asked his wife to ask for money, but his wife said, "Why are you embarrassed to ask for money for it to come back to your parents?" So the money that was lent out was left unresolved.
Yanbin was so angry that he had a big fight with his wife, but his wife simply packed her luggage and went back to her parents' home, and had a cold war with him. Finally, because the child was not taken care of, Yanbin had to bow his head and admit his mistake first.
04
I thought that after experiencing so many quarrels and cold wars, my wife would definitely repent and devote herself to managing her small family. But who knew that as soon as the parents-in-law spoke, his wife handed over the gun and gave up the weapon again, and then she softly compromised.
This time the reason why the mother-in-law borrowed money was that her son was about to get married and start a family, so she could not have a wedding house, so she hoped that her daughter and son-in-law could borrow 200,000 yuan to buy a house for her son to get married. When Yanbin heard that he wanted to borrow 200,000 yuan to buy a house to get married, he was even more reluctant.
But his wife has been trying to mess with him, and she is very tempted to make a divorce if she doesn't pay, which still makes Yanbin soft-hearted. He took out 50,000 yuan and told his mother-in-law that this is the one-time pension fee we give you, and we will cut off relations in the future.
When he heard that he wanted to cut off his relationship, his wife was the first to jump out to object. But Yanbin didn't want to say more. He could indulge his wife once, twice, or even three times, but if he continued to subsidize without bottom line, not only would he not be able to withstand their marriage, but also his marriage.
Yanbin directly told his wife that either let your parents leave with 50,000 yuan, or we divorced, and the money we lent to your parents would be compensated for your divorce. Hearing this, his wife collapsed on the ground and dared not plead for mercy.
Today’s topic:
Do you support Yanbin’s direct divorce?
