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Some people get married and their thoughts are always on their relatives.
Their views and measurement standards for family are different from ordinary people. "helping your relatives but not helping you" is their code of conduct. They can easily become "helping your brother" and "helping your sister" and and will do strange things for your family.
The fundamental reason is their own personality.
Xiaoyue (pseudonym) is a typical "名名名拉比拉比", and her ideas reflect the character flaws of people like them.
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Xiaoyue's family has 4 people. She and her younger brother have been very close since childhood, but their parents treat them very badly.
They live in a small 4th-tier city with average development level and not much urban population. My parents worked hard in a private factory, but they didn’t make much money. The boss of
is quite good at squeezing employees and often comes up with rules and regulations to deduct workers' money.
So parents usually have a lot of negative emotions and quarrel at home. After all, they are angry outside and have no courage to quit and find another job. has two children, so the expenses are high, and the pressure is high.
Xiao Yue and her younger brother grew up in such a family, and beating and scolding from their parents is commonplace.
Although both of the two children are alive, they live a very hard life. It is not an exaggeration to say that they depend on each other. The parents have no extra energy to listen to their hearts and they can't breathe every day.
So, Xiaoyue has a very deep relationship with her younger brother, and she regards her younger brother as her closest relative.
The younger brother is also very dependent on Xiaoyue. He was very introverted when he was a child. He was inferior because his family’s financial conditions were not good. He was often bullied by some naughty classmates at school. Among the few people who treat him well, my sister is the best one.
Later, Xiao Yue and his younger brother grew up, and their parents grew older, and gradually became less irritable.
The family saved some money, and the two children also finished college and found a job, and no longer lived with their parents.
It is said that Xiao Yue and his younger brother have finally been free, so they should live their own lives in the future. They should cherish the freedom and ease they finally got, but this is not the case.
Xiao Yue has a boyfriend and always tries every means to get money from the man, and then gives it to his brother.
Xiaoyue feels that only men who are good to their younger brother are those who can be entrusted to their lives. Her thoughts are very traditional and her personality is slow. She always makes various demands for her suitors to prove the other person's feelings for her.
Otherwise she would feel insecure and could not believe that the boy who likes her was serious.
So, Xiao Yue became the famous "female" in the company.
Some boys who have pursued Xiaoyue couldn't help but complain to their friends, talking about Xiaoyue's weird requests, such as ordering takeaway for her brother, buying her brand-name bags, etc. When the boys learned about Xiaoyue’s approach, they all avoided the girl.
Xiao Yue's younger brother is even more bizarre. He seems to have been suppressed for a long time before, so when he became free, he began to consume revenge.
At the beginning, my younger brother just spent all his monthly salary and bought a lot of food and play. Later, he recharged money in the game every day. After spending his salary, he borrowed money and owed a lot of money online.
The younger brother filled Xiaoyue in the column of the guarantor when he borrowed money, so many people asked Xiaoyue for the account.
Xiaoyue's phone number was blown up, and someone came to her for money.
Xiao Yue was not only not angry with her younger brother, but was afraid that her younger brother would be scolded by her parents, so she took out all her savings to help her younger brother pay back the money. Afterwards, Xiaoyue asked her younger brother not to do such things anymore because she had no penny to save.
Xiaoyue is worried about her younger brother's future life. She no longer pursues her love. just wants to find a man to marry.
She even imagined that if her younger brother owes money again in the future, she would not be able to pay it back at all.
Xiao Yue went on a blind date crazy, selecting wealthy partners to meet, and using all her skills to please those blind date men.
However, after many capable men came into contact with Xiaoyue, they found that she did not have any deep thinking ability, and men who had high requirements for their partners looked down on Xiaoyue at all.
Finally, Xiao Yue could only make do with a man who was willing to develop with him.
She was almost obedient and gentle and considerate to this man, and just hoped to marry him quickly.
Xiao Yue and her "boyfriend" have a very stable relationship development and they soon got married according to her wishes. Xiaoyue saves as much as possible in marriage. She doesn't want her husband to spend too much money, after all, this is the common property of the couple!
The husband didn't know what Xiaoyue was thinking, and he thought he had married such a virtuous wife, who knew how to save money.
After marriage, Xiao Yue also successfully obtained the financial power of her family.
At the same time, she also learned that her younger brother really owed money again, and this time it was even more headache. My younger brother used to spend money big, but this time he actually started gambling!
Xiao Yue secretly took 50,000 yuan from the couple's deposits and asked her brother to pay back the gambling debts and stop gambling in the future.
my younger brother agreed.
But soon, my brother owed another gambling debt, and this time he asked for 80,000 yuan, and he asked his sister for money again. Xiao Yue took the risk and secretly took 80,000 yuan to her brother.
Xiaoyue felt very painful and lived a frightened life every day, fearing that her husband would find that the money in the account was less. has already been more than 100,000! Xiao Yue scolded her brother so bloody, and her brother didn't say a word.
When my younger brother came to him again because of gambling debts, Xiaoyue didn't dare to take the money anymore. As a result, my younger brother actually told his brother-in-law about this in order to take revenge on his sister.
The husband was very angry when he learned about this, but he could not get back the hundreds of thousands. He was very rational and did not quarrel with his wife.
Xiaoyue was persuaded by her husband to stop caring about her brother's gambling debts.
Xiaoyue is not only unhappy with her husband's kindness, but instead thinks that her husband is reluctant to leave her if he doesn't quarrel with her. She said: "Let's help my brother this time!" Xiaoyue seems to have lost her mind. She doesn't care about her marriage, she just wants to help her brother pay back the money.
The husband was speechless. He didn't want to talk nonsense anymore and drove Xiaoyue out of the house.
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There are too many people who are married but still can’t tell the importance of it, but in their eyes, they are very clear about the closeness and distant relationship.
They really regard their blood relatives as the closest people.
spouses are really not important to them, they are just "great injustice" they use to make money to their relatives.
1: Don’t help relatives who owe gambling debts
For normal people, if someone owes gambling debts, you must stay away as soon as possible.
People who can gamble money can't control their emotions at all. They are already trapped in the stimulation and "happiness" brought by gambling, and they still gamble even though they know they have spent all their money.
Moreover, even if they get help from their families to pay off their gambling debts, they will continue to bet in the future.
can't quit the addiction, they have lost their ability to control themselves.
So, don’t pay back the money for your relatives who owe gambling debts, and don’t meet him, so as not to put yourself in danger. After all, gamblers are all desperate people and can do anything for money.
In addition, many people borrow money after owing gambling debts, resulting in the profits being rolled out of astronomical figures. There is no money like
, so I just need to call the police.
2: It is more important to manage your own marriage
Normal people get married to give birth to children and to protect themselves in their old age, not to squeeze each other out.
After all, husband and wife become family members, money is common property, and raising children is so expensive. No normal person will seek money from his spouse. because it is the joint property of the couple and his own property.
money is of great use for raising children and buying school district housing in the future.
is even more impossible to spend this money on relatives and friends, and no matter how close the relationship is, it is impossible to be able to kiss your own children.
Even if you spend money on supporting your parents, it is better than giving your relatives.
manage your married life well and focus on your own career and physical health, which is better than anything else.
Raising children and supporting the elderly are the main sources of economic pressure after marriage. Live and enjoy life well. In your later years, you will not force yourself to the end of your life.
text/Wiwen
