Love is beautiful, but marriage is very realistic. There is not so much romance and romantic passion, but only a dull and boring life. If the couple does not manage it carefully after marriage, the relationship between them will only gradually drift away, conflicts will occur frequently, and estrangements will be buried deep in their hearts. When they have enough disappointment, the marriage will come to an end.
So if you want to spend the rest of your life with your lover, you must be based on equal treatment and mutual respect. When getting along, you must also know how to be tolerant and understand. Look at the problem from the other person's perspective and not forget your original intentions to make your relationship more stable. Instead of quarreling endlessly because of trivial matters and pressure, so that your relationship is irreconcilable, and even an AA-based approach to make your life live.
Xu Lin has been a good girl in the eyes of her parents since she was a child. Whether in life, work or interpersonal relationships, she will obey her parents' opinions. Only in love has her own ideas, so she rejected the blind date arranged by her parents. Xu Lin advocated love first and marriage freedom, and was very disgusted with blind dates. She felt that two people who didn't know had to sit together because of the pressure of their parents' urging them to get married. As long as they felt that the other party's conditions were suitable, they could get married. Such a marriage did not have an emotional foundation, but was just living together.
But she had several love stories, but she didn't go to the end each time. She experienced too many emotional failures. Xu Lin no longer prioritized love, but looked at whether it was suitable. Later, under the arrangement of her parents, she no longer insisted on her views on marriage and love. She only felt that her parents liked it, and she was not rejected, so she hurriedly stepped into the palace of marriage.
Because she doesn’t have much emotional foundation with her husband, she attaches more importance to family affection. After getting married, she often runs to her parents’ house and brings some gifts every time she goes back. But as the number of times her husband also has opinions, Xu Lin cannot understand. The premise of returning to her parents’ house is based on handling the matters of the small family. Even if she buys things, she uses her own money and will prepare her in-laws.
Even so, it still aroused dissatisfaction from the husband. In the husband's opinion, women should prioritize their own family after marriage, and the more they pay for their parents' home, the more pressure they will bring to their small home. In order to avoid his wife's excessive support for their parents' home, he had to propose the AA system.
Xu Lin did not refuse this, but as time passed, she found that the two of them became more unfamiliar and communicated less. The only benefit was that there was no conflict. Two years passed in a blink of an eye, and my younger brother was also preparing to get married. As a sister, Xu Lin wanted to use her savings to give her younger brother a bride price, but after her husband learned about this, he immediately accused him of: Your brother is getting married, why should you prepare a bride price for him?
Xu Lin replied: Just two years after the AA system, you don’t treat me as a family member, so naturally you don’t have the right to care about me, and I still use my own money. After hearing this, the husband couldn't speak, but he still disagreed with it. Xu Lin was too lazy to pay attention to him, and the relationship between husband and wife completely fell to freezing point because of this.
Saike Psychologist once said: Communication is the first key to solving marriage problems and one of the most important keys. Communication can solve most marriage problems. Unfortunately, many people do not understand this principle, especially those who regard marriage as a life task, but do not know how to maintain and manage it after getting married, and ignore it if there is a misunderstanding, which ultimately leads to the expansion of conflicts and affects their relationship.
Marriage is not a joke, so if you want to get married, you must be more cautious and need to keep your eyes open, instead of blindly choosing a partner to enter the marriage because of age or the eyes of people around you. If you choose the wrong person, it is just spending decades to verify the misfortune of the marriage, which not only wastes youth, but also makes you suffer all your grievances.
If you really get married, you should discuss with your lover more in everything, worry more about each other's feelings, and look at the problem from the other's perspective to avoid unnecessary friction and maintain stability in the relationship between husband and wife. As for the AA system, it will only make each other lose a sense of trust and intimacy. In the end, it will just live their own lives, and marriage will also lose its meaning.#Emotional Firm##Emotional##Marriage#
