There are indeed many marriages that will eventually become cold after the baptism of time, making the couple feel strange.
And at this time, I may feel that such a marriage is a kind of harm to my children, so I wonder whether to divorce for my children.
Although a cold family may indeed be a harm to children, it is just a choice to divorce or not to divorce, which does not mean much to children.
Because children need love, if the family does not have love, then parents will not divorce, which is actually the same for children.
Unless the partner has some principled problems, such as family violence, cheating, etc., it will make most of your energy consumed by your partner, resulting in the inability to give your children good care. If divorce can give you more love to your children, then divorce for the sake of your children can be established.
Otherwise, when parents have problems with their marriage life and then think about whether to divorce for their children, it is usually a way of thinking to avoid their responsibilities.
If you feel that there is no hope in your life, so you put all your hopes on your children, and then divorce for the sake of your children, or maintain your marriage for the sake of your children, then the misfortune in your life will be borne by your children. Such spiritual shackles are undoubtedly a kind of harm for children, and may be a kind of harm that lasts for a lifetime.
After all, there is no right to choose the birth of a child, so whether a family or parents' life is happy should not be borne by the child.
Back to the couple, a marriage is unhappy, except that the other party has some principled issues, such as cheating, domestic violence, etc., otherwise it is usually the responsibility of two people. If you don’t know how to manage your marriage well and make yourself happy, then you can’t actually bring happiness to your children.
Therefore, although my marriage is unfortunate, I also hope that my children can grow up happily and happily. So I need to think about how to make myself happy first?
will recommend that you find a way to repair your marriage first. Running a marriage is a kind of ability. You may not lack this ability, but fortunately, this ability can be learned and improved.
There are many ways to improve your ability to manage your marriage, such as: seeking the help of psychological counselors and marriage and family counselors ; you can read books by yourself, such as " Five abilities of love ", " Five Languages of love ", " Non-violent Communication ", etc.
When you have the ability to manage a good marriage, you may also influence your partner through your own changes, so that your partner can change because of your own changes, and finally two people can manage this marriage well together. After all, it is not realistic for one person to bear the entire responsibility of a marriage.
Of course, it is also possible that no matter how hard you work and manage your partner, your partner is still like a messing stick, making the family uneasy, so you can choose to leave and live alone with your children.
But at least I have worked hard and know more about how to run a good marriage. I believe that after meeting a new person, it will not be easy for me to repeat the same mistakes.
At the same time, in the process of learning and growth, I will also know more about how to give the love my children want.
Happy~
