Hello, Qianqian, I am a boy. I have a question that has been accumulated in my heart for a long time when I come here to contribute. I want to ask you: A person who has an ordinary family background, looks ordinary and has an ordinary education. I can only rely on his own hard work really doesn’t deserve love?
My hometown is located in a small rural area in Hubei. Because it is premature baby , I was born with congenital nutrition and had a bad health. I got sick every few days, so I was extremely struggling in my studies.
In order to allow me to grow up healthily, my parents kept getting me some tonics and boiling nutritional prescriptions. With their efforts, I was able to grow up safely, get into an ordinary university, and live my life step by step.
After graduation, I lived a working life like most people, starting from nine to six every day, and holding a fixed salary, which is more than the best. I have no parents and relatives to rely on. They are all farmers who deal with land and farmland all their lives. They don’t understand the city’s 996 and 007. They just feel that people who work in the office are more comfortable than those who work in the fields.
In such a huge city, I am isolated and have no help. If I want to gain a foothold, I can only rely on myself. I have no complaints about this. My parents have given me life. I want to rely on myself to make myself live a good life. In order to achieve this small goal, I have been working hard to save money and save money for the future.
Later, I met my current girlfriend. We met because of the epidemic. The community was banned at that time. As a volunteer, I helped deliver supplies to various households. She was one of them. So we added WeChat. Because we both struggled outside alone, we talked more and more topics.
In my opinion, she is a very kind and beautiful person, and she is always shrouded in a vigorous sense of vitality and vitality, which makes people unable to help but want to get close. The epidemic has improved and the community has been lifted, I mustered up the courage to confess to her, and she also agreed to be my girlfriend.
I have had a very happy time with her. My girlfriend's family is from a very good background. Her hometown is a second-tier city. Her father runs a company and her mother is a high school teacher. Because he is the only daughter, his girlfriend has been like stars since she was a child.
But she herself is not spoiled at all. She knows that I live a frugal life and will secretly buy a lot of clothes for me and directly disassemble the tag and hang it in my wardrobe. When she goes out for dinner, she will take the initiative to ask for AA. Even if I say no, this is what I should do, she will return it in other ways. Her efforts made me decide to be kinder and better to her.
My girlfriend doesn’t know how to cook and basically lives on takeaway. In order to make her eat healthy, I cook for her every day, contract her three meals a day, and help her do housework when she has time, and treat her well to the best of my ability.
I thought the two of us would continue to develop smoothly, work hard together for a few years, and take root in this strange city. But I forgot that her original family is much better than me. The person who needs to work hard is me, not her....
Last year, I was dispatched to another place for a long-distance relationship due to work reasons, so we both became long-distance relationships, and could only rely on videos to relieve the pain of lovesickness every day. Occasionally, we will also go to each other to meet in their respective cities.
Last week's girlfriend's birthday, I used my two-month salary to prepare a birthday gift for her, a luxury skirt that she liked at first sight but never willing to place an order. I rushed to my girlfriend's place a day in advance to celebrate her birthday.
That night my girlfriend was very happy and kept saying thank you to me, feeling very happy.But after three rounds of drinking, my girlfriend became a little drunk and began to cry intermittently, crying while saying sorry. The more I comforted her, the more sad I cried. I thought she was bullied, so I flipped through her phone without authorization.
I realized after flipping through her phone that she had been under a lot of pressure alone that I had no idea. We are not in a good match, and no parents are willing to let their baby daughter accompany a man with nothing to fight from 0 to 1, and the same is true for her mother.
My girlfriend mentioned me to her mother, but her mother directly said that we were impossible after knowing my family background. My conditions are completely out of their consideration for choosing a son-in-law. I advise my girlfriend to break up with me as soon as possible and not delay each other. Later, her mother also pushed several blind dates to her girlfriend to let them contact each other.
I also saw my girlfriend and her best friend say that she really doesn’t want to go on a blind date, but her mother said she wouldn’t go on a blind date, so she directly joined his father to take her back, so she didn’t want to work. Due to helplessness, she had to go on a blind date, but the more she got to know her blind date, the more she felt distressed.
blind date partner is a highly educated returnee, knowledgeable, humorous and witty. During the time he was in contact with him, his girlfriend deeply felt the charm of high IQ and unconsciously began to admire the strong. But the deeper I like him, the stronger I feel guilty towards me, and she doesn’t know what to do now.
As a bystander, my girlfriend's best friend also advised her to break up with me earlier. The longer I dragged on, the more harm it would be to each other. Moreover, she is also a witness to our relationship. She also feels that her girlfriend is too tired in this relationship. In order to sympathize with me, her consumption has been downgraded and her quality of life has been downgraded, but there will always be complaints over time.
The next day, I told my girlfriend to leave early on the grounds that there was something wrong with the company. In the past, she would definitely act coquettishly with me and let me stay with her. But that day she just said with a difficult face, okay, be careful on the road.
After leaving home, I secretly asked her best friend to come out to chat. I told her straight to the point that I already knew about my girlfriend’s blind date, but I was not angry, but I just felt powerless. After all, the gap in our family conditions is indeed a fact that I cannot change.
My girlfriend said that my girlfriend actually loves me very much. She has always shared with her all the good things I treat her. It can be seen that she is really happy in this relationship. But we all know it in our hearts. The girlfriend is the only daughter. Her parents have devoted so much effort and energy to each other. Naturally, I hope that their end is the starting point of their daughter and that they will not have to endure hardships in the future. But if I marry me, all this effort seems to be in vain...
Indeed, with my current conditions, I can't afford what their family wants. Although I am just an ordinary person, I have been working hard for my future and for her. No one knows that I have worked several jobs, including those dirty and tiring jobs that require communication with customers who are not easy to talk to. I have to take the initiative to tell the supervisor that the next purpose is to be able to evaluate the award at the end of the year and raise the salary next year. As long as I make more money, I am willing to do anything.
In fact, I can fully understand what her mother said. Who in this world doesn’t want their children to live a good life in the future? , but I was also a little frustrated. Although I don’t have a good birth background, my parents gave me everything they could. I have never complained. I just wanted to rely on my own abilities. But are people like us who work hard on our own step by step worthy of having love? Maybe if I give me a few more years, I will definitely be stronger than I am now, but just because I don’t have a good background, can I not even deserve the past few years?
Her best friend finally said that if I really love her, I shouldn’t stop her from running towards a better person for my own selfish desires.I understand the truth of , but when I think of her being with others, I feel so sad that I feel so sad. I can’t imagine a life without her, and I’m not even sure if I’ll have the motivation to make money if I lose her. Although loving someone means hoping that she will live a good life, I really can't make up my mind to separate from her.
This time I came to submit the article, and I didn’t want to complain about anything, I just wanted to ask everyone, what should I do, what should I do? If you are my girlfriend, would you like me to break up? What do you want me to do?
