The friendship between a gentleman is as light as water, and the friendship between a villain is as sweet as honey. This sentence means that the interactions between gentlemen are as plain as water, but can last; the interactions between villains are as sweet as honey, but they may break off at any time.
Although this sentence is about a gentleman and a villain, the truth also applies to couples. Couples who love each other will often not have good results; those ordinary couples will be more likely to last longer.
As the saying goes, "Eating more refreshing food will cause illness, and eating more quickly will cause disaster." All delicious foods, especially those you like, are temporary and short-term. Once you eat too much, you will get tired of eating and may even hurt people. The better the drink, the less you can drink too much. If you drink too much, it will cause harm to the body. The most common boiled water is the safest and longest.
The same is true for human emotions and love. Love that is too hot often will not last long. Those loves that are so love that they are dying and heroic often end in tragedy. As the saying goes, "Everything will turn back" and "prosperity will decline." It is often difficult for a couple with too good relationships to grow old. As long as all the beautiful things in the world are too far away, disaster will arise.
Confucian " The Doctrine of the Mean " is the magic weapon for dealing with people. All things, including all emotions, should stick to the middle way, not go to extremes, and not waste both sides. Only in order for people's emotions to be in balance forever, in nature, can they remain forever.
Many people think that after getting along for a long time, they will no longer feel it, as if they touch their right hand with their left hand. This is not a reason or excuse for cheating, but a normal husband-wife relationship. The husband and wife must be harmonious for a long time, blending into one another, and being as plain as water, so that they can maintain a long-term relationship.
If a man and a woman get along, she will feel heartbeat and be excited. It is definitely not a husband-wife relationship, but a short-term relationship of lovers. No matter how delicious food is, it is still a time when she is tired of eating it. The relationship between lovers will definitely not last long. There is a line that is well-sung: "The more charming love is, the more hurtful it is." Everything in the world will be constantly reconciled, and it will be balanced. The deeper love between lovers will be, the deeper it will be hurt at that time, and the more love there will be, the more hatred you will be balanced.
It is important to remember that any emotions that make people excited, unrestrained and indulgent are not real love, at most they are just a person's emotional catharsis and interaction. Those excited love at first sight, those love that vows cannot bring a happy marriage life, after excessive sensory enjoyment, what awaits them will be endless pain and hardship.
The ancients said: "It comes from emotion, stop from etiquette." Men and women must be restrained by "etiquette" in order to maintain normal relationships between husband and wife. If you only talk about the joy of lust and do not know how to stop when you are in moderation, you will not last long.
In married life, only when both parties can calm down, get along with each other, rely on each other, and always be in a natural and peaceful state, can the relationship between husband and wife be eternal.
