is a real and common question. Many people have their own introduction to this question. After reading all the answers from netizens, it is nothing more than culture, pressure, thoughts, education, life, etc. But from all the answers, I found that more and more people are following my heart. This article is my personal thought about this situation. There is no data proof, it is obtained from my personal life.
Preface
I am a standard 95 social animal who has reached the age of marriage. According to my parents, I am already past the age of getting married. But I am not getting married now, but in love. My girlfriend was born in 1997 and has not received any news of her marriage urge to get married yet. Like thousands of people born in the 1995s, I also include many people born in the 1990s. I have a standard 20 years of school and work, ordinary and ordinary. He lived in high school, left his hometown to the provincial capital, and left his job in the province, and later became a drifter in Shanghai. Through contact with all kinds of people, most people of my age have the same experience. No matter what kind of drift, we are the main force in late marriage and late childbirth or even infertility.
I also have friends around me who live in my hometown. They are as old as me. They have never left their hometown before they were 20 years old, dropped out of school halfway, etc. They have basically gotten married and had children, and the woman has the same experience, neighboring counties, townships or villages. When I talk about this, I can actually think about why our current family, grandma and grandma's home are so close. After three generations, I will basically not leave the county.
I have to admit that if I hadn't gone out to study and work, maybe I would be holding my child now. Looking back on my childhood experience at home, I would hear someone getting married on the streets and alleys or at my own home, and my parents would often talk about getting married. My marriage made me feel shy when I heard this. These family matters made me influenced me and formed a subconscious mind, that is, I would get married and have children in the future. Because my living environment was under the care of my parents, I felt that everything was right. And my experience is also the experience of many peers.
From here I found that my parents were actually influenced by their parents, and all their ancestors were like this. So far, it has evolved into marriage to children and is the most important task in life.
There is also an important situation: the seven aunts and aunts, and the more children and children are formed a strong contrast with the current single child. Of course, this is a population issue, although it is also a historical legacy and traditional culture, so I will not discuss it here.
This is how we get to the topic, rational analysis, welcome to discuss.
Late marriage and late childbirth is not just caused by a certain factor. This problem is too complicated and will have some impact on all aspects.
Let me list some points I found below.
● Traditional culture
Search on Baidu Encyclopedia and you can see that there are legal records from the pre-Qin Dynasty to the Ming and Qing Dynasties, basically male 16 and female 14. Moreover, China is an agricultural country and requires a large amount of labor to ensure adequate food, family continuation, and only people have an army. Of course, whether it is economic development or warlords' chaos, the influence of thousands of years and the punitive regulations have deeply rooted the concept of marriage and childbirth. The Republic of China adjusted the eighteenth male and the female 16th female. In the 1990s, it was adjusted to male twenty and female eighteen. In the past few years, it was adjusted to 22 male and 20 female. Although the subsequent adjustments did not have the punishment mechanism like that of ancient times, it was a restriction on early marriage. But no matter what, the point of marriage and childbirth has been deeply engraved in everyone's heart. Of course marriage is a necessity for social development. Every species needs to reproduce. What we are talking about here is the issue of early and late marriage. Now it is said that late marriage is much more because compared with the previous marriage age, the age time is indeed delayed, which is the so-called late marriage phenomenon.
● Geographical factors
In my impression, around 2000, most people still had not left their hometowns, and the area they lived in was very limited compared to today. After all, the transportation and communication were very inconvenient at that time, so a magical phenomenon occurred. Every village had people with the same surname gathered together, and even named villages after surnames. The dialects spoken by townships in the same county would be slightly different, and customs would be different. The time for market trips between adjacent areas is different. Geographic factors limit population mobility and also limit cultural exchanges and collisions. Due to the influence of traditional culture, facing the loess and backs, they need labor to farm and work, so they will choose marriage and childbirth at around 20 years old.
● Population
After the reform and opening up, the popularity of TV and radios made people know that there is a bigger world outside. With the advent of the era of large infrastructure, convenient transportation, and well-connected highways and railways, it has greatly reduced the difficulty of people's travel. There was a person in the village who tried to go out to work, which would drive a large number of people to go out to work the following year. At that time, the coastal areas needed a large amount of cheap labor, so a wave of going south to work occurred. The movement of population has caused fierce collisions in cultures in various places. Of course, it will affect the union of men and women, because everyone's social interaction is no longer limited to a certain place. Although some people choose to return home to get married at the right age. But at this time, the time for marriage and childbirth has been invisibly extended.
● Education
Our generation has been instilled with the importance of education since birth. With the popularity of nine years of compulsory education, we have been stronger than our fathers from the starting line. Many people should have personal experience. Many of our parents have not finished elementary school in their generation. Those who were able to go to college back then are now the mainstay of various industries. Let’s talk about this question, after our generation goes to elementary school, we must go to junior high school, high school, and university. During our school years, we experienced major events such as the popularity of smartphones, the popularization of home computers, and the rapid development of the Internet. He was 21 years old after graduating from college. In addition, some people went to school late, and they were popular to reconcile grades back then, and there was also a factor in the sixth grade of elementary school. The people I went to college with included people from 1991 to 1997. We graduated together and were already 19-25 years old. Even if these 25-year-olds get married and have children just after graduation, they are actually considered late marriages in the eyes of the older generation. If you graduated and worked for a few years and just adapted to this society where strong people survive, you will find that you are almost 30 years old.
● Independent and independent
Of course, relying on education, population mobility, and the rapid development of the Internet. The new generation of young people, due to the attractiveness of first-tier cities such as Beijing, Shanghai, Guangzhou and Shenzhen and various provincial capital cities to young people, most of them stay away from their hometowns and work hard in big cities. A long-term lonely life and an increasingly rich entertainment culture will have a great impact on a person. Everyone's outlook on life and values grow like a strong sapling, growing wildly into a towering tree. Have your own opinions and ideas about a thing, and no longer stick to the orders of parents and the words of the matchmaker. At the same time, the increasingly rich entertainment culture also makes young people feel that time is no longer long. For example, the appearance of a female quan is actually a fruit of the roots and sprouts of people's independent thoughts.
Summary: Late marriage and late childbirth must not only be a problem in one aspect. Many people attribute it to the pressure brought by RV children. There are certain reasons, but not the main ones. It's just because of this reason that we are closest to us, so we just talk about this casually. The root of this is the mutual bond between multiple factors, which leads to the current situation. I think this is an inevitable trend in social development.
