28 years old and married my local husband. I thought I had to rely on it from now on and lived with my in-laws. I endured all the chaos. I thought as long as I treated them sincerely, they would accept me over time. But they always think I am an outsider and avoid me in important matters, and I can never integrate into this family.
After my daughter was born, my in-laws and I had a bond. I thought the situation would be better, but they accepted my daughter and said that her daughter was from their family, and I was still an outsider.
During the physical examination of the unit, I found abnormal bulges in the intestines. The doctor said that the situation was not good and it should be removed as soon as possible. I had to undergo a minimally invasive surgery and had to be hospitalized for 3 days. Although the problem was not big, it was the surgery. I was still very panicked and asked my husband to accompany me. My husband said he was busy with a project and had no time. I asked him to ask his mother-in-law if he could accompany me. He refused and said that his mother-in-law wanted to take care of the children. How could he have time to accompany me? Seeing his attitude, I cried sadly. He said impatiently that he asked for leave to come to the hospital to accompany me on the day of the operation.
I went to the hospital myself, completed the hospitalization procedures, performed preoperative examinations, and waited for the next day's operation. The nurse notified me to enter the operating room at 10 a.m. I told my husband that he would arrive before 10 a.m. But when the nurse came to call me, I didn’t see my husband yet, so I had to go in first. At that time, I thought that he might have been delayed in traffic jams on the road, and he should be able to see him after the operation.
4 hours later, I came out of the operating room and saw no sign of my husband. When I returned to the ward and saw the message he sent, I really couldn't leave it and couldn't come. I came here again tonight. I burst into tears at that time, and all the sadness of the years emerged. I couldn't stop the tears at all. At that moment, I was completely desperate.
The nurse said that she had just finished the operation and could not be excited, which would affect the wound, so I could only hold it back. There were two patients in the ward, about the same age as me, but they were taken care of by their husbands, which made me even more uncomfortable. I was wondering, what is the meaning of marriage? Isn’t it just that you have a companion in life and can you take care of each other when you have difficulties? If he is always absent when you need him the most, what's the point of this companion?
My husband still didn't come to the evening, which made me decide to leave him and leave this home. I have been married for almost 7 years. Apart from the happiness my daughter brings me, in this family, all I feel is grievance and depression, and I don’t want to continue.
filed for divorce with my husband. He said that I was overestimating my abilities, and said that you were nothing after leaving this family. My mother-in-law even said that I was born in blessings and didn’t know how to be blessed. I felt funny in my heart. How could I be blessed here?
Finally, he said he left and wanted nothing. My daughter stayed and I went out alone. After completing the divorce procedures, I went back to my parents' home, hoping to find my own place to stay there.
My mother's home is in a small city 500 kilometers away, and her parents and younger brother's family live together. When my younger brother got married, my parents sold the old house and bought the current big house with three bedrooms and two living rooms. At that time, the money was not enough, so I gave them all the 200,000 yuan saved after work. My husband still had a lot of opinions on me.
When I returned to my parents' home, I didn't get the warmth and comfort I wanted, but I kept complaining. My mother said that I was too pretentious and had a good life, but the child didn't want it, so she actually got divorced and ran out. In their eyes, the in-laws’ family is good and the ex-husband is good, but I am not good. Thinking about the time I got married, my parents didn’t give me a penny. In the past few years, they have never asked me how I was doing? When they take the initiative to look for me, they must have difficulties and need help.
decided to come back because he wanted to find a job here, stay with his parents, and live a good life in this small city. But two months later, not only did I not find a suitable job, but my parents and younger brother could no longer tolerate me. Originally, there were 3 rooms, one room for parents, one room for younger brother and sister-in-law, and one room for nephew. After I came back, I lived in my nephew's room, where my nephew and my brother lived.
I became a redundant person at home, an unpopular outsider. They looked at me every day and said some innuendo words. I knew they wanted to drive me away as soon as possible. My existence was a burden to them, not a family. They had long forgotten that this house also had the money I paid.
I could only leave tactfully and return to the city I had not long since left. Fortunately, I quickly found a job when I came back, rented a house, and started a wandering life alone.
This time I came back, my goal was to make money. I want to make more money for myself and my daughter. My husband is not reliable, and my parents are not reliable. The only thing I can rely on is myself.
The goals are clear, and the struggle has a direction. My life is extremely simple. I live in a small house with only one bed, a wardrobe and a necessity of life. I never cook, and cooking is too wasteful. Except for socializing at work, I never gather with friends or go out for travel. All my energy is devoted to work.
What I do is sales, with a basic salary plus commission. All income depends on myself. I know that as long as I do it, I will make money, and every income has become my motivation to move forward. I found that I went from a young wife who swallowed her anger to a fighter fighting for money, and I became more confident and happy.
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Profile of the owner: Xiaoxia, a woman born in the summer solstice, is born with a spirit of not giving in. She walked out of marriage, saw the coldness of family affection, and knew what she needed. Focusing on making money, her efforts have also gained a lot. She can live her own life without relying on others.
