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In this era when late marriage and late childbirth have become the norm, leftover men and women seem to be commonplace for everyone.
Can't find a suitable partner and has not entered the marriage hall for a long time, so he lives a life where the whole family is not hungry if they are alone.
Life was pleasant at the beginning, but as you get older, the disadvantages of being single will slowly appear, and the free and easy mood in the past will gradually change.
I have conducted relevant online interviews specifically for older single women. Among the hundreds of leftover women interviewed, I found that after women are single until they are 40 years old, one thing is most afraid of - loneliness.
40 before the age of 540
I met a 36-year-old older single woman. Her life was much more casual than everyone imagined. Except for the occasional urging her parents and relatives to get married, she had almost no worries in her life.
. Emotional unrestrained
She had talked about seven or eight boyfriends, because they were not bound by marriage, so their lives were relatively unrestrained.
When the relationship is strongest, I get tired of being together. When the relationship is not good, I simply separate myself, without any concerns or concerns.
Don’t have to be as restricted as after marriage. Even if you have no feelings, you will settle down because of various responsibilities and practical problems.
She can deal with emotional life freely, be together when she is happy, and be separated when she is unhappy.
2. Free and free life in life
No marriage, live alone freely and freely; without children, you don’t have to bear corresponding responsibilities.
She only has herself in her life, and she just needs to take care of herself.
The parents are still young and have labor force, and if necessary, they may be able to supplement her.
Because she has no wife or mother, she can live the way she wants, do whatever she wants, without any worries.
Such a life should be envied by most married people.
3. Relaxation and freedom at work
Eat a full person, and the whole family is not hungry. This kind of life is very relaxing for most young people.
Without the pressure of family, she would not have to work hard to work hard, and even work part-time jobs at the same time to make a little more money.
For single people, it is enough to support themselves.
And this requirement is actually very simple for young people. She can be a moonlight clan, can live a stress-free life, and does not have to pay too much attention to work.
40 after the age of loneliness
html before the age of 140, and how panicked you are after the age of 40. Everything seems to be as destined, and you can't escape or avoid it.
. The circle is getting narrower and narrower
In the past, she lived a free and free life, and was always surrounded by a large group of friends, doing whatever she wanted. She never knew what loneliness was, but after the age of 40, the situation was completely different.
Friends have begun to focus on their own families, and whenever they have time, they will also spend it with their family. Her circle without a family will become smaller and smaller.
Although you can still reunite with friends occasionally, that is only a very small time.
For most of the time, she lives alone, and sometimes she can’t find a companion if she wants to eat hot pot.
2. Parents get older and older
Parents don’t need their children to worry about when they are young and strong. They can help their children to a large extent, but as they grow older, they will become unable to do so.
No one can escape the law of birth, old age, sickness and death. Parents are getting older and their health is getting worse and worse, and many realistic problems will come quietly.
Taking care of elderly parents is not the most terrible thing. The most terrible thing is that she suddenly realizes that one day her parents will leave her, and that day is not far away.
A person suddenly feels lonely, probably when he realizes that his parents are old, his parents are at home, so how can he be lonely if he has a home? But just because his parents leave, she will be left alone in the huge world.
3. The days are getting lonely
I don’t know when she started, but her days are getting lonely. Her friends are getting farther and farther away, and various activities are getting fewer and fewer. As her parents are getting older, she cannot live without them.
But because of work, she cannot be with her parents all the time.
In many cases, she eats alone, goes shopping alone, and goes to the hospital alone when she gets sick.
If one day her parents leave, she is likely to face the festival alone or even celebrate the New Year alone.
Now she began to regret not getting married and having children when she was young, but it was too late.
The freedom of the first half of life is destined to repay the loneliness of the second half of life
Buddhist says: "All things are empty, cause and effect are not empty. Those who sow the cause must eat the result."
All things in the world can never escape the cycle of cause and effect.
There are always people who think that most of the troubles in life are brought by marriage. As long as you avoid marriage, it is equivalent to avoiding most of the troubles. In fact, this is not the case.
There is nothing that is not bitter when people live, but life is not just bitter, but happiness and happiness.
The so-called meaning of life is probably the coexistence of bitterness and joy, and the ups and downs and sorrows are intertwined.
These are the parts that a person must experience in his life, and no one can escape.
In this life, people are just bitter first and then sweet, or sweet first and then bitter.
Since you have abandoned your responsibilities and chose the elegance of the first half of your life, you are destined to face the loneliness and helplessness of the second half of your life.
No one can really be free and easy for a lifetime, this is a movie that cannot be escaped from in life.
I am Ying'er, an original creator who focuses on the field of emotions.
