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Yu Feihong said: "I never want to be single, but I feel like I will get married late. As a woman, I should marry love, not time."
In reality, there are many leftover women who actually long to get married in their hearts, but they always feel that only by marrying love can the perfect marriage look like.
So, they waited again and again, hoping to meet the ideal partner in their hearts. If the man did not meet their requirements, he would not give in.
However, they consumed too much youth, and as they grew older, it became more and more difficult to get out of singleness. When they lost their advantages in marriage and love, they finally realized the reality and felt regretful.
Just like my friend Xiao Ning, she is 36 years old, has a good appearance and figure, has a decent job, a monthly salary of more than 8,000 yuan, and has a relatively high-quality life.
Therefore, she has always been very cautious about choosing a spouse and has not accepted the pursuit of men casually. She has been single for many years and has not yet gotten single.
Xiao Ning said that she only has two requirements for getting married: one is to marry love, and the other is that a man’s monthly salary is about 20,000 yuan.
However, Xiaoning's request seems unreal to others and is too picky.
Family members say she is not pragmatic and embarrasses the family, and relatives say she should not be too serious, marriage is a simple life.
Especially in the blind date field, the matchmaker also reminded her: "You are not as good as finding a partner in this way. You are already a single woman in your old age. What else can you choose? It would be nice to have a man willing to marry him."
Xiao Ning felt particularly wronged about this. She felt that she had high-quality conditions and only had two requirements for marriage. Is there anything wrong?
Facts have proved that she was really wrong. From the age of thirty to thirty-six, she had blind dated hundreds of times and met hundreds of men, but she had never succeeded.
and even in the end, she completely lost confidence and began to reflect on herself. Is the requirements really too high and really unrealistic?
Many times, she would think alone, and gradually recognize the reality, feeling that she was really a little blind and choosing a partner was too unrealistic.
So, Xiao Ning regrets that the so-called marriage requirement is unconvincing when it comes to age. Only then did she clearly see two reality:
1. The leftover woman wants to marry love, but it is not realistic. Every woman longs to meet beautiful love, but there is a premise, that is, you still have enough capital to wait.
However, for older single women, they are no longer little girls and there is no capital to continue to consume.
Time passes by in a hurry. If you keep waiting, you have to meet a beautiful love, which will only delay yourself in the end.
There is a line in " The Leftover is King ": "Love has always been the principle I have adhered to for so long, why should I compromise?"
Maybe, many older single women have this idea, and they cannot be said to be wrong, but blindly sticking to this principle seems too naive.
Because, what is the criterion for judging beautiful love? Are two people feeling love, are they falling in love at first sight? Still have a tacit understanding of thought?
In this world, there is no perfect person. Since there is no, how can there be perfect love?
So, it is probably unrealistic for leftover women to marry into love. They squandered their youth when they were young, and ultimately paid the price for their arrogance.
2. Leftover women want to find high-quality men, so how easy it is to talk about
In reality, many leftover women want to find high-quality men and have great expectations for future marriages.
On the one hand, they themselves are relatively excellent, such as having an economic foundation, having a job, having their own pursuits, having strong abilities, etc.
On the other hand, in their opinion, only by finding a high-quality man to marry can you match yourself and your life is guaranteed, and you don’t have to worry about gains and losses.
But, they ignored one thing, how could a truly high-quality man wait until now to get married?
If a man is successful and rich, they will definitely find younger girls and may have been married long ago.
Therefore, when older leftover women are on blind dates, they basically cannot meet high-quality men , and such men will not appear in the blind date market at all.
This caused the remaining women to go on blind dates and were constantly denied by others. After experiencing repeated failures, they finally found that they could not find a high-quality partner.
So, they gradually regretted and eventually endured great pain in choosing a partner for their blindly.
So, it is not easy for leftover women to find high-quality men. If they cannot recognize the reality and do not correct their attitude towards marriage and love, it will only delay and make it more difficult to get out of singleness.
ye Feifeiyyff emotional message:
Ding Yangguo said: "There is a kind of single person, which is better to be insignificant than to be indiscriminate."
I do not agree with women getting married, but I do not support women in blindly choosing a spouse, but rather have to correct their mentality and recognize their own hearts.
Only when you know what you want can you make more correct choices and avoid delaying yourself.
Although many leftover women are excellent and independent, they follow their hearts and live according to their own wishes, women need to get married after all.
After all, the real greatness of a woman is to become a mother. If you have not gone through this journey, life will inevitably be a regret.
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