When I was young, I always fantasized about a happy life in the future. At that time, my understanding of happiness should be just a good emotional destination, a warm home, and I think it is the greatest happiness in life.
Time flies, I’m 35 years old unknowingly. I think about problems no longer have traces of my youth, and my thoughts have changed a lot. I didn’t know much about in the first half of my life, but I didn’t want to understand too much in the second half of my life.
When I was young, I always look forward to some brilliant moments, believing that as long as I have brilliant, I am happy, but for now, all brilliant moments will be submerged in the long river of time and gradually blurred.
In fact, what is truly happy in may not be the brilliant times in life, but ourselves who are still living in ordinary years.
When people reach middle age, please put your good attitude towards yourself. If you do it, congratulations, you will be a very happy person.
01. Simplify your mood
See a sentence:
"Life is actually very simple. If you like, fight for what you get, cherish what you get, and forget what you lose. Life requires some moments, slow down, calm down, listen to the sound of flowers blooming, and watch the gracefulness of leaves blooming. Tell yourself that it is great to be alive."
We often choose to compete with ourselves for many reasons, but lose what we have because of competition.
Many people say that the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law is the most difficult relationship. It is not easy to get along with when it is light or heavy. No matter how you do it, others will say that it is wrong for your daughter-in-law, and some say that no matter how good your mother-in-law is, she can't stand the daughter-in-law's dislike.
I just watched a video about family trivia yesterday. Both husband and wife remarried, the woman had no children, and the man had a boy of twelve or thirteen years old.
The woman is very enthusiastic about the boy and hopes to have a good relationship with him. However, what the child needs is a complete original family, and he does not understand the emotional issues between adults very much.
helplessly, the woman was kind to her stepson, but she was in return for unfriendly resistance from all the relatives of the in-laws' family, thinking that the woman had some intentions to treat the child. But if you keep a normal attitude towards this child, you will be told by everyone in the in-laws, so no matter what the woman does, it is wrong in the eyes of the in-laws.
After more than half a year of being scolded and ignored by the in-laws, the woman finally figured it out that no matter how she did it, she would not do it, she would save her worries and effort, and her emotions would be stable. She would not have to think that she had lived in complexity every day before.
In fact, looking back, everyone's experience may not be bad. It's just that seeking but not getting is the norm in life, and there is no need to think clearly about what you want but not getting.
0 people, all kinds of people, it is impossible to understand everyone thoroughly, and it is impossible to take everything into your own hands. Therefore, if you are simple, the world will be difficult to be complicated.
Only by being simpler can you have the intention to live a good life; only by being simpler can you have time to enjoy life.
02. It’s rare to be confused
It’s rare to be confused. It’s not that you really live in a confused life every day, making yourself stupid and ignorant. It means a kind of demeanor and wisdom in our own way.
Some things in the world must be true, right and wrong, and clear black and white, but some things do not need to be too serious. Confused makes people popular and opportunities for doing things. They look stupid, but they can always laugh to the end.
There are always some people around us who like to be arrogant in front of people who are inferior to ourselves, and in the end it is ourselves who are embarrassed.
There are three supermarkets in our community, all of which are express delivery points that can store express delivery. Every time a supermarket owner comes back, he asks the courier to deliver it to the store in person, otherwise he will complain. After a long time, the courier will pay attention to his remarks and asks him in turn why he cannot let the other party ship the goods as a courier company that can be received by his express delivery point. After hearing this, the supermarket owner had no reason to ask for trouble for the courier.
You should not be too extreme in life and do things. You should learn to leave room for others and leave a way out for yourself. In life, you should be more confused, let go and be more casual, because if you can’t get along with others, you can’t get along with yourself.
When you live too hard, it is still the one who suffers.
In the second half of the life, people do not look up or bow their heads, do what they should do, live the life they should have, but seek joy, it is rare to be confused.
03. Be happy
Be happy as a person, just be happy.
Not everyone can make a name for themselves in their lives, and their family is rich and their people are so angry that they are so angry that they compare themselves to others. After comparing them, I am afraid that they will be more depressed and will not get the results they want.
As Mr. Yang Jiang said:
"We once looked forward to the recognition of the outside world, but in the end we realized that the world belongs to our own and has nothing to do with others."
A very important thing for people in this life is not to over-emphasize their eyes and energy, but just need to have a clear conscience on yourself.
If you want to be happier, pay less attention to other people's affairs, pay more attention to what you want, and what you can do. Pleasing yourself is more effective than pleasing others.
When you learn to please yourself, life will favor you; when you try to make yourself happy, happiness will come close to you, and will good luck still be far away from you?
Don’t expect others to give away the sunshine, learn to be your own sun.
more than a lifetime, a simple state of mind, a pure and easy to satisfy life; it is rare to be confused, a worry-free and free; it is also a blessing to be happy, eating and drinking.
"In life, you don't have to care about things that were once too persistent. In this life, it's like a flash of time passing by. We must face it calmly, don't hold life too tightly, be calm and express yourself, and be calm and calm in your heart."
