Someone asked a heart-wrenching question on the Internet:
"How cruel will men be to women they don't love?"
Someone answered this way:
"Men are more heartless than you think, especially when you have no feelings for you, you are like air in his eyes, and every word you say cannot be responded to."
Deeply agree with it. Whether it is a husband and wife or a lover, the most comfortable way to get along is to have something to talk to each other and have the desire to share.
If you don’t even have the desire to talk, you would rather share it with outsiders than talk to your partner if you have anything to do. There is always nothing to say when you sit together. Such a relationship is the most heartbreaking!
So, once a person I once loved deeply starts to be silent to you, it only means that he doesn’t take you in his heart and wants to separate from you.
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Silence is a silent rejection
Whether it is a couple or a lover, the best relationship is always chatted. Even if there is just a chat without any intercourse, the two will understand each other better in the conversation, understand each other's preferences and dislikes, and their lives will be more harmonious.
If you are a person who always ignores you, read WeChat, never contacts you actively, and you actively communicate with him, and he responds to you with silence, then you must consider whether this relationship should continue.
Someone once said:
"Silence is the most hurtful way to refuse. He is telling you with actions that even if you stand in front of him, he will not care about you at all."
Because he is no longer interested in you, he is unwilling to give you a trace of concern, and uses silence to reject your approach.
A person's mind changes start from silence. When each other no longer shares the trivialities of daily life and sits face to face, there is no talk, then the distance between hearts will only get farther and farther.
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Silence is a deliberate neglect of
A relationship, at the beginning, they were all in love with each other and were as passionate as fire.
But I don’t know when it started, one party began to become silent, and the other party was deliberately neglected.
The two people in the past know each other better than each other, but now they can’t even see through each other’s little thoughts, and they don’t understand that their former lover has become tired of themselves and are using silence to force you to leave.
Once read a sentence in your circle of friends:
"In the world of love, silence is the answer, dodging is the answer, and no longer taking the initiative is the most straightforward response. In fact, you should have understood it long ago."
Two people are together, and even if they look at each other's eyes, they can't see a slight love. He is not interested in the topic you talk about. He is more willing to hold his mobile phone to watch videos and play games.
If a person treats you like this often, to put it bluntly, he no longer loves you, he will ignore your joys, sorrows, and happiness. Your existence is also dispensable to him, and your care and greetings are even more disturbing by him.
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Silence is evidence of not loving
Regarding love, Sukhomlinsky has a famous saying:
"Real love not only requires love, but also requires mutual insight into each other's inner world."
Fellowship has always been a matter of two people. One does not ask or the other does not say it will not have a good result.
If a person really cares about you and does not want you to be hurt, he will not use silence instead of answering, nor will he consume his feelings with indifference.
On the contrary, a person doesn’t love you anymore starts by refusing to communicate and not wanting to listen.
Because you have no feelings for you, when you are with you, not only will you not take the initiative to find topics, but you are not even willing to answer words, which makes you talk to yourself in embarrassment, but he is always silent.
In an intimate relationship, when silence replaces laughter, estrangement and contradictions gradually arise, and the two people are increasingly unable to have a good conversation, and the relationship will end sooner or later.
There is a saying that goes very well:
"The farthest distance in the world is that the lover who was once close is relatively speechless now."
Silence is the biggest killer in intimate relationships. When there is less communication and dialogue in a relationship, only endless silence and perfunctoryness are left, then no matter how close the two people are, their hearts will be thousands of miles apart.
In the world of love, you can feel whether you love or not. Don’t lie to yourself.
Instead of trying to keep it, it is better to turn around and leave. Don’t wait until the love is exhausted and there is only resentment left between each other.
Like + follow, I hope you can be a person who knows how to cherish and is willing to let go, and have a plain but sincere relationship.
