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The victor is king" sentence: "She shouldn't marry her parents, she shouldn't hear any rumors outside. She wants to get married after hearing too much, and should marry with the person she likes together."
It's a pity that many women in life cannot do this. When parents and people around them put some pressure on them, they can only compromise.
However, everything after marriage will make you fall into a worse state, which is the price you have to bear for blind marriage.
Chen Shan (pseudonym) and her husband met on blind dates. They got their marriage certificate after only three months of dating. Both parents were very anxious.
Chen Shan was under great pressure at that time. Even though she didn't like her husband so much, she could only obey her family's arrangements.
After getting married, the pressure will disappear, and she no longer has to be urged to get married.
Chen Shan has a stable job and has a considerable income. In the short few months of falling in love with her husband, she will take the initiative to pay and will not spend too much money on men.
Still this is true after marriage. Chen Shan has always been very independent and she is willing to give more in her marriage. Her salary is higher than her husband. Although she doesn't need help paying the mortgage, Chen Shan is responsible for her monthly living expenses.
During the holidays, she will buy clothes for her mother-in-law or give her some money. For Chen Shan, marriage is her most precious wealth and she will manage it with her heart.
The second year after marriage, she became pregnant. However, her company was very busy and she encountered the problem of transformation at that time, so regular overtime was a must.
suddenly had a child, and all the plans were disrupted. Eventually, she lost her job.
After losing income, Chen Shan was very sad for a while, but when she thought of having children, she tried her best to adjust her mentality and try to keep herself happy.
In addition, she also trusts her husband and will definitely take good care of herself. However, the attitude of mother-in-law and partner disappointed Chen Shan.
Mother-in-law is a very smart old man. Her daughter-in-law had a high income before and could give more to her family. Of course, she is good at everything and her attitude towards Chen Shan is not bad.
But now she has no income and usually spends her son's money on buying things. Her mother-in-law feels at a loss.
As a result, she told her son that she would AA with Chen Shan in the future.
The husband looks quite honest, which is also the reason why Chen Shan would get married to him in the first time. He thinks he is a woman who loves his wife. But what Chen Shan didn't expect was that her husband was too stupid and filial.
When Chen Shan was pregnant, her husband actually said to her: "You have lost your job now. My mother said that in the future, I have to listen to her and I won't give you living expenses."
When Chen Shan heard her husband say this, she was completely disappointed.
She angrily said, "Yes, you can live with your mother in this life, divorce."
At that time, Chen Shan immediately packed her luggage and left her home without warmth. The next day, she sent the divorce agreement to her husband's company.
Chen Shan has thought about it and with her own abilities and previous savings, she can fully afford to raise her children. Faced with a selfish mother-in-law and a unclear husband, she must stick to the bottom line.
The mother-in-law saw that she was so firm, and she was instantly afraid. Her husband quickly lowered her head and admitted her mistake and begged her not to divorce.
Chen Shan did not forgive them immediately, but made many requests, such as asking her husband to keep the salary card for her, and her mother-in-law could no longer get involved in the matter between husband and wife, otherwise she would not forgive.
In order to protect this home, they had to compromise and do everything according to Chen Shan's requirements.
I have read this sentence: "All feelings in the world are mutual. With hard work and gain, the best maintenance of a relationship."
Couples get along with each other, those women who are valued by their in-laws and loved by their husbands know how to keep the bottom line and fight back when it is time to fight back.
Like Chen Shan, if she is afraid of divorce and wants to take the child alone, she will make concessions. Then, she will only suffer more grievances in her future life.
As the writer Fu Lei said: "Human psychology is often not only not valued, but also considered it as the right to be the right. Not only will it not be grateful, but it is easy to complain."
Boarding a marriage, you can give more to your family, but you must grasp the right.
When your lover and in-laws take your gift as a matter of course, you will wake up.
. You must not give up on this thing in your marriage, that is your self-esteem.
Only with a little sharpness can you win back the love and respect you want.
If you are too afraid and weak at this time, you will be completely swallowed up and will never be nourished from your marriage.
The rest of my life is long. I hope all girls can get married rationally and don’t make impulsive decisions just because they are old.
If you already have a family, remember to endure everything else and be treated unfairly, remember to turn against each other and leave. This is the best way to get happiness.
