I was born in 1985 and was studying in Europe. I fell in love with my German husband at first sight and asked for a 50,000 yuan bride price. My mother-in-law was surprised.
narration: Xiaoxue
compilation: Mr. Xiao Han
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I am Xiaoxue, from Changde City, Hunan Province. I am 35 years old this year. Currently living in Germany and have a lovely son.
Once upon a time, I was young and ignorant. When I was in college, I married a man 16 years older than me. I thought I would be pampered and happy, but my husband was very suspicious. Without his company, I could not go out shopping, and I would not even allow it to go out for a haircut. What I couldn't accept was that my husband was still domestically violent. Such a marriage lasted for two years and ended up in an unhappy manner.
Back to campus and completed college studies, but I was already married. After dating my boyfriend, I learned that I was disgusted when I was in college. At that time, I felt discouraged and felt that love in this world was fake. In order to calm my life, I worked very hard to get into graduate school, but I couldn't stay on campus all my life. After graduation, I went to Europe by studying abroad. Here, I met a shy German. We fell in love at first sight and got married after more than a year of love.
When I got married, when I asked for a bride price of 50,000 euros, my mother-in-law was surprised, but in the end she respected the traditional Chinese culture and chose to pay my father the money for the bride price.
In 1987, I was born and ranked second in my family. There is also a brother who is one and a half years older than me. Our family is in a small town. The town is not big, and the population of the whole town is only 10,000. Dad is the owner of the largest shop in the town, so the conditions in our family are pretty good in the town.
Usually my father would drive a tricycle to the countryside to sell goods, and my mother would keep the store, but my parents were very stingy and couldn't bear to give us snacks at all. My brother was brave and often secretly ate snacks in the store. In order to cover up, he also pulled me into the water and gave me some to avoid being reported by me.
such good things cannot continue. Once, my careful father found that there were a lot of snacks and he couldn't meet the account. He turned to look at me, but I felt guilty and said that it was my brother who stole it. My brother looked at me viciously, and was beaten by my father while gritting his teeth. Afterwards, my brother did not cause trouble for me, but instead treated me better and better.
I have had good academic performance since I was a child. Compared to my unruly brother, I sometimes wonder if it was born to a mother. My brother dropped out of school after graduating from junior high school and was lazy. He didn't go to Changsha to work until he was 19 years old.
. I made great progress and got admitted to a prestigious university. Unexpectedly, I met my first husband shortly after I entered the school. He was 16 years older than me and was very nice to me at first. The vanity of rural girls was fully demonstrated in me. In the end, I just passed my 20th birthday and got off school and got married.
My father tried his best to stop me from my first marriage, but in the end I couldn't help but I had to agree.
There is no medicine for regret in life, you can only learn from one mistake. Although the marriage failed, I have no regrets. After all, it is also a memory and experience.
took a break from school for two years and returned to campus again. My former classmates became my seniors, but I had a new understanding of life, cherished the opportunity to study more, and completed my college courses easily. But seeing that many people find it difficult to find a job after graduation, I still returned home with shamelessness. Although my father was unhappy, he was his own daughter after all, so I still let me study at home and prepare for the postgraduate entrance examination.
reviewed for 7 months and finally got admitted to graduate school. At this time, I was already 25 years old. At the age of normal graduate school, I should be a graduate, not a student who is taking the postgraduate entrance examination. At that time, I yearned for countries like , Switzerland, and I didn’t want to see acquaintances, because many of my classmates did not say disgusted, and I could tell from my face what I thought.
After graduating from graduate school, I successfully joined the work and had two boyfriends at work. I don’t like to lie. I honestly said that I had a short marriage. At first, they had nothing. When they learned that when my ex-husband was 16 years older than me, problems finally occurred in their relationship.
people will be discouraged, and I am no exception. At the age of 30, I am still single, and many opposite sexes have prejudice against women who have been married, which makes me think about developing abroad.
2017, as the Chinese New Year approached, I went to Europe because I received an offer from a French university where I could study there for a year.
The first time I went abroad, to be honest, I still feel like I can’t find the North, but after all, I’m a person who has lived in a big city for many years, so I gradually got used to it. When I was in France for the first time, Peter and I met each other because we looked at each other affectionately and we had an indissoluble bond since then.
Peter has a good personality and is very shy. He is always shy when speaking. Maybe it's because his personality is like this. He is a doctor and an engineer. We have been dating for more than a year and finally chose to get married.
According to traditional culture, Chinese women will definitely propose bride gifts when they get married. Many domestic women forget this when they marry foreigners, but I still chose to offer bride gifts of 50,000 euros. My mother-in-law was surprised at the time and asked me: "What is a bride gift?"
I introduced China's bride gift culture to my mother-in-law in detail, saying that this is a tradition for thousands of years and no one will respect it.
My mother-in-law learned the details and gave my father a bride gift without saying a word. This is also the first time my father went abroad and was very reserved.
Not long after marriage, I encountered the epidemic. My husband and I have been living in France. We have been back to Germany every two months to visit our elderly parents-in-law. They are very satisfied with me, my Chinese daughter-in-law. I can also cook Hunan cuisine, which makes them feel the Chinese food culture.
However, Peter and I don’t plan to have children and want to have more private space. This is common abroad, and my parents-in-law have no problems and respect our lives very much.
