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Text: Shili
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"What kind of men in marriage are immature?" Two days ago, I saw such a question on the Internet.
Some people say: "A man without money in a marriage is an immature man. He cannot bear the responsibility because he has no money. A husband and wife are poor and humble. "
Some people also say: "Men who are too young are often immature men, because men's age is often a sign of men's maturity."
Although their answers seem to make sense, the author cannot agree.
In my opinion, whether a man is mature or not has no necessary relationship with his age and wealth.
all say: "Men are teenagers until death."
In fact, no matter how old a man is, he still has a teenager side in his heart, so he cannot use his age to measure whether a man is mature or not.
Maturity has no direct relationship with age. Many people are young, but they can handle things maturely; while some people are still good at dealing with things even at a young age.
In addition, the amount of money a man has cannot measure whether a man is mature or not. This can only show that a man has a very good ability to make money.
Seeing this, someone may ask: "So what kind of man is really immature?"
In fact, immature men in marriage are like this
lazy and shirk responsibility.
marriage has such a kind of men. Although they are already adults, their minds are still in the early childhood stage.
They are extremely immature, most of them are lazy and like to shirk responsibility.
Just like Zhou Meiren in the recently popular TV series "The Big Test".
Zhou Meiren doesn't have any job even though she is old. She doesn't do any housework except playing games and cards all day long.
The food, clothing and expenses of the whole family depend entirely on a breakfast shop run by his wife. Even if his wife gets up early and goes to bed late every day, he will not help at all.
Even if he has a top student son, all this has nothing to do with him, and he has no credit for it.
Because in the past ten years, he has done nothing and has not set a good example for his son.
He is extremely lazy and leaves his responsibilities completely.
He is not independent, he always relies on his wife, expects to rely on his wife to earn money to support his family, and escapes all the possibility of taking responsibility.
When his wife was pregnant with her second child, he strictly refused to have a second child.
why his wife said, "My wife is old and worried that it will hurt her body."
But he didn't know that his wife said to the point: "You are not afraid that my body can't bear it, but that you are afraid that you will not be able to play games in the future."
Because if his wife wants to have a second child, it means that he must go out to work, so he naturally has no time to play games.
so I found a better reason and excuse to maintain my decency.
A man like him is an immature man.
Not only do people outside look down on him, but even his children look down on him. In the composition, they dislike their father in various ways. The same is true for
, and it was only later that he began to slowly change.
Although this change is difficult and there are many problems, he finally went in a good direction.
In marriage, whether a man becomes mature is not about whether he is young or mature, but whether he has taken on the responsibility of a man.
Have you ever been a good husband, a good father and a good son? If he has not done any of these, then no matter how mature he looks, he will be a sign of immaturity.
has no plan for money, and it is a fat man who is swollen and slapped.
says: "Men are all good at face, and some people regard face as even more important than life."
agrees deeply about this.
When I was young, men were very proud of their face. Everyone said that it was because men were too young and were not mature enough.
But when a man is old and still has good face, everyone understands that men are very proud of their face no matter what age they are.
A man can be very proud of his face, but he must judge the situation and cannot blindly slap the swollen face and make him fat.
Because of this kind of behavior, it often harms others and yourself.
Especially in marriage, those men who have no plans for money because of vanity and good face often only make their marriage messy.
They like to slap in the face and pretend to be fat, but they never think about their family and don’t know the key points at all.
Just like Zhou Meiren, in order to buy game equipment to save face, she abused her family’s money.
He can only think of himself, and never thought that it was difficult for his wife to make money.
selfish and has no empathy.
When I was young, I had a first love with my wife. At that time, my wife always said that the author was childish and immature.
In order to make yourself more mature, you start to dress up maturely, start reading and literacy, and make friends of different ages.
At that time, everyone said that my age and mind were immature, and I was already very mature.
But in my wife's place, every time there is a quarrel or conflict, she still says that I am childish and immature. At that time, I didn't understand, just thought she was making trouble.
Later, after many years of marriage, the author truly understood.
Naivety is never a certain behavior, but a lack of understanding of the other party's needs.
The so-called naivety and immaturity in women's eyes have no clear definition. Naivety does not mean the immaturity of a certain behavior, but does not understand the other party's needs.
In a relationship, if a man has no empathy, does not understand women's needs, does not understand women's emotions, and can only see his own efforts, then it is a manifestation of immaturity.
Imma a man is not about how much money he earns or how good his material conditions are.
But how well this man manages his family.
If a man is successful in his career, he looks down on his wife and does not know his wife's needs. Even if he earns more money, he is still immature.
Because such men are prone to emotionality and act regardless of other people's feelings and consequences.
There is a saying that goes: "Children only distinguish right from wrong. There are only pros and cons in the adult world."
In the adult world, many times right or wrong is really not important. To be more precise, winning or losing is not that important at all.
Just like a couple quarreling, there is actually no need to fight for winning or losing, because no matter who wins, there will be problems with the marriage.
The success of any couple actually represents the sacrifice and fulfillment of the other party.
As the saying goes: "Behind every successful man, there is a woman who silently gives."
Behind most successful men, there is a wife who carries the cumbersome family for him. In order to make him work hard for his career, women often take on everything.
For a family, whether it is the male protagonist outside or the female protagonist inside, they are all giving their efforts for the family, and neither party has any reason to dislike the other party.
Because it is not easy for everyone, I have given my most important things for this family.
Therefore, a couple should learn to have empathy and consider the problem from the other party's perspective. If they cannot do all this, the relationship will be destined to be broken in the future.
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