Two days ago, our public account emotional expert accepted consultation from a 26-year-old beauty. This is a very typical extramarital affair story, so I have compiled it into a paper, hoping that more men and women can recognize the essence of extramarital affair.
Beautiful woman tells:
One night half a year ago, I had a party with my colleagues and drank a little more wine. I felt a little dizzy, so my male boss drove me home.
I fell asleep shortly after the car drove. When I woke up, I realized that I was awakened by him in his arms. And I also found that we were still in the car because the surrounding area was dark and I didn’t know where this was.
We are colleagues in superior and subordinate relationships, and the relationship is particularly good, so I have no worries at all. When he unbuttoned my clothes, I not only didn't stop me, but I also felt a little lucky in my heart, because I had fallen in love with him for a long time.
Maybe it was catalysis of alcohol, maybe it was really loving him, so we naturally had a relationship.
About 4 months ago, he started chasing me and cared for me very much. I also have a good impression of him under his care. Maybe I really fell in love with him. However, he wanted to get close to me several times, but I always refused him.
Although I am very grateful for his care and care and really fell in love with him, I cannot accept the fact that he is a married man. So, I only keep being his best friend, but I don’t want to have an inappropriate relationship with him.
I really didn't expect that this time I helped him while drinking.
That night, I got home and had complete insomnia. Maybe it is because the man you love deeply is satisfied afterwards, or maybe it is the love you truly have. However, those who truly have insomnia should be worried about their future marriage, and they are worried that they will not divorce and marry me.
The next day I took the initiative to ask him to go to the hotel. One is to hope to experience the taste of love after sobering up, and on the other hand, I hope to get his promise and the commitment to the responsibility of love.
At noon that day, after the passion, I asked him: "I already love you very much. You have always said that you really love me, so I let you get me. Dear, when will we get married? I am so looking forward to it."
He was very happy, but after hearing what I said, his face was very heavy, and he told me very seriously: "Don't worry, I'll tell you when I think of a way to divorce."
In this way, I originally wanted to be his lover, but he had been his lover for half a year.
And whenever I mention marriage, he immediately becomes embarrassed, always saying, "Being ready, don't worry."
Just a few days ago, when I asked the same question again, he told me seriously: "Aren't we so good? Why do we have to get married? Besides, my wife is very nice to me and everyone in the family, and I really can't abandon her. I won't mention marriage in the future? I beg you!"
After hearing this, I didn't say a word and ran away. After I got home, I was sad for several days, and my heart was bleeding.
Since he can't give up, I especially want to give up, but because I really love him very much, I really can't let him go. However, I am unwilling to be his lover for the rest of my life. What should I do?
Emotional reply:
I believe your love for him is real, but it is actually real that he loves you. However, the love between you is wrong from the beginning, and love without results is a torment for either party.
Most men in extramarital affairs will be like this, loving their lovers and guarding their wives. Because a lover can satisfy his passion, he will truly love his lover; and the wife is even more related to the stability of his entire family and the happiness of the whole family, so he must protect his wife.
The essence of extramarital affair is: no matter how much a man loves his lover, he cannot give up his real family for love!
So, please accept this reality. As for continuing to be his lover, please let go as soon as possible, and you can grasp it yourself!
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