This cheating case is an extramarital affair case that the Blue Party has come into contact with for a while.
The original wife Ms. Zhao and her husband are both seventy years old, and her husband actually cheated on him.
The mistress is their nanny and has some relatives with her family.
This year, he lost his husband in his early years, and lived alone with his children, and his children went to school in other places.
came to Ms. Zhao's house through a relative's introduction and has been working on it for more than a year.
Ms. Zhao has a good impression of mistress, and mistress is also a competent type.
Ms. Zhao and her husband are both in public institutions, each with a pension of more than 8,000 yuan per month.
In addition to the elevator house in the community where they live, the two of them also have a school district house.
was rented out and there is more than 20,000 yuan in rent every year. Both children have got married and had children, and they are not short of money.
The salary of a mistress as a nanny is 5,000 yuan per month, and two people are more than enough to pay this money.
Originally, Ms. Zhao felt that her life in her later years was relatively happy. She and her husband were both in good health.
She would go back to help her children take care of them when she had time, and their children were also very filial.
never thought that such a good old age would be ruined by an extramarital affair.
Even under her nose, she didn't notice the trick between her husband and mistress.
It was not until her husband wanted to divorce and marry a mistress, and she directly showed up with her.
Many people may say that Ms. Zhao should have divorced, have money and have children to rely on.
Give the cheating man to the mistress, let the mistress serve this cheating old man.
To be honest, Lan Fang also thinks that Ms. Zhao’s conditions are actually more suitable for divorce stop loss.
But Ms. Zhao herself is unwilling to accept the relationship with the man who cheated on her for nearly fifty years.
At the same time, he didn't want to have a divorce at such an age, which made people he knew feel embarrassed. Although the Blue Party does not agree, it can understand Ms. Zhao's choice and respect her choice.
The environment and the thinking that the older generation and today are in are different.
They will think that men cheating is not unforgivable, and divorce is actually a more difficult thing to accept.
So Ms. Zhao doesn’t want to divorce and wants to separate the mistress.
Based on what Ms. Zhao said and her demands, the Blue Party helped her customize the plan. The focus of the
solution is about what the nanny does? What kind of mistress can a man cheating on?
Because this will be the key contradiction between a cheating man and a mistress, and it is also the best intervention point for solving extramarital affair.
The older generation is not only taboo for divorce, but also for giving their own property to outsiders.
Like Ms. Zhao’s husband, if you divorce and get half of your property and get married to your mistress, who will you give to the property in the future?
is definitely the biggest contradiction between a cheating man and a mistress.
Is the mistress marrying a seventy-year-old man? Is it because he is old and still needs care?
must be the property in the hands of this old man. After ten or eight years of care, the old man has lost his property and his property has become hers.
But a cheating man would be so stupid, give half of his property to the mistress, and then let the mistress give to the mistress’ children?
It is obvious that a cheating man will not be so confused. Ms. Zhao can mention this point to provoke the relationship between a cheating man and a mistress.
In addition to the contradictions caused by long-term interests, mistresses and cheating men also have immediate contradictions.
That is the salary of the mistress. If the mistress is with the cheating man, it is.
Ms. Zhao is unwilling to continue paying the mistress’s salary. A cheating man has a monthly pension of 8,000 yuan.
is willing to give out 5,000 yuan to the mistress? Definitely unwilling to do so.
And the cheating man may also have a mentality that he feels that he doesn’t need to pay his salary if he gets married to his mistress.
A cheating man will definitely find a way to avoid giving money, but the mistress may not be able to get the long-term interests, and the short-term interests will be damaged, so the mistress will naturally not want to.
Ms. Zhao’s case starts from long-term interests and short-term interests.
Ms. Zhao first negotiated with the cheating man and told the cheating man that the cheating man could divorce, but the property could not be given to the mistress.
A cheating man must make a will in advance and keep all his property with two children.
The man who cheated on him naturally agreed, after all, he had no relationship with the mistress's child.
Then Ms. Zhao told the cheating man that he would not give the mistress salary, and said that he would not give the cheating man either.
The man who cheated on him also thought so, so Ms. Zhao moved to her child’s house for a while.
First, I spent a lot of time making a will, notarization, and sorting out how to allocate the property.
Then go to register for divorce, and wait until the divorce cooling-off period, which took about three months.
The mistress couldn't stand it anymore because she didn't get a penny for three months, and she even paid for buying groceries and other things.
After knowing that the cheating man made a will, he became even more reluctant and made a big fuss with the cheating man.
The mistress clearly stated that the house should be added with her name and notarized to her.
also asked the cheating man to change his will and his property would be given to the mistress in the future. The cheating man and the mistress were constantly in conflict with money.
In the end, the relationship collapsed naturally. The mistress insisted on three months of salary before leaving. The man who cheated on him didn't want to give it to him. The mistress had a fight in the community.
The man who cheated on him was so angry that he gave money to calm the matter down, and the mistress took the money and left.
Why can this extramarital affair be resolved smoothly?
Because of the cheating man and the mistress, they both acted on their own and calculated the other party for their own interests.
Many cheating men and mistresses in extramarital affairs are just surface harmony.
In fact, both of them are selfish and are both calculating their own goals.
A cheating man thought he could turn his mistress into a free nanny through marriage.
The mistress thought she could get a lot of money from a cheating man.
As a result, the two of them discovered the other party’s plan and felt that they could not take advantage of it, so they naturally didn’t want to.
Finally, Lan Fang wanted to say that many older men cheated on nannies, but they actually went for free nanny.
And those women who are third parties for old men are also obviously for money.
There was a conflict between the two people, but it was still a contradiction that could not be resolved at all.
As long as the original wives can make good use of these contradictions, they can resolve extramarital affair.
If you encounter an extramarital affair and don’t know what to do, you can follow the Blue Party and send a private message to talk about your situation.
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