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5 years ago, a young mother breast cancer relapses and is about to die soon.
The one she can’t let go of the most is her 4-year-old daughter.
She began to think about what she could leave for her daughter so that she could live well without a mother.
But she has no money, no property, no rights and status, nothing.
Finally, she thought about it and made an unexpected decision:
teaches her daughter to cook.
"I can only teach her to cook and do housework, so that she can live every day seriously, even if she is alone..."
The parents' beloved son is far-reaching.
The story was adapted into the movie "Miso Soup of Little Flowers", which touched millions of people.
Now, 15 years have passed, my daughter has grown up, and this story has a warmer follow-up.
Under the shadow of death, "little flowers" are born in love
First tell the year when the story happened.
000, in Fukuoka Prefecture, Japan, Chie worked as a music teacher in a school and lived a plain and ordinary life.
However, a sudden bad news broke her peaceful life:
During a physical examination, she was diagnosed with breast cancer.
Qianhui immediately wanted to break up with her boyfriend Shinwo at the time, but Shinwo said to her firmly:
"We will go to Canada after being discharged from the hospital. It's so beautiful. After seeing the majesty of Rocky Mountains , these things disappeared. But before that, get married first."
Qianhui's operation was very successful, and her condition was effectively controlled.
Then, the two held a romantic and eternal wedding.
Because of the effects of the drug, Qianhui is almost no longer able to have his own children.
However, a miracle happened, and a little guy unexpectedly came to Qianhui's belly and she was pregnant.
But bad news also came with good news. The doctor told her:
"Pregnancy will cause estrogen activity, and it is likely to cause cancer recurrence during pregnancy."
Xinwu also advised Qianhui to abort the child, but he could lie in his hand. On the operating table, when she looked at the beating little heart of in B ultra-, she decided to give birth to:
"I was born to see my child."
So in 2003, Qianhui gave birth to a soft and glutinous little girl with the determination to die.
She named her daughter "Xiaohua".
I hope she will be loved like a flower in her life.
"Being able to meet Xiaohua proves that I have lived in this world. This child who is more important than myself is the treasure of my life."
Learning to cook is to learn to make a living and love
If the story ends here, it will be a happy ending.
However, when it seems to be the most perfect time, there is always a bolt from the blue.
When Xiaohua was 9 months old, Qianhui's cancer relapsed.
What’s more unfortunate is that despite her active treatment, the cancer cells spread throughout the body in 2006.
Looking at the cute little flower, she felt guilty.
I am destined to be unable to grow up with her. So, what can I leave for my daughter in a limited time?
After thinking about it, she gave Xiaohua an apron:
"Dietness is life-related, so I want to teach my daughter how to cook and housework. After I am not here, as long as Xiaohua is healthy and has the ability to survive, she will definitely live a good life no matter where she goes in the future."
and my father gave Xiaohua a set of small kitchen knives.
That's it, my mother began to teach her daughter, who was only 4 years old, to cook.
Every morning, when children of the same age are still sleeping in bed and acting cute, Xiaohua is called out by her mother, put on an apron, and stand on a small stool and busy on the stove.
"This is a kitchen knife, this is a pot, this is cooking oil, these are the seasonings for miso soup ..."
"Little flowers, this is called dried bonito, put it on top and grind it into delicious bonito flowers."
The first time I saw Xiaohua look like she used a knife, Qianhui's heart was about to jump out, but in the end she still held back and didn't make a sound, nor did she reach out.
When Xiaohua messed up, Qianhui never criticized her, but instead looked for the reasons together and encouraged her daughter to try again.
Just like that, under Qianhui's loving patience, the four-year-old Xiaohua can finally make the delicious Miso soup independently.
Qianhui told Xiaohua:
"If your mother is gone, if you are sick, your parents will be very sad, so you have to have a good meal.
If you want to have a good meal, you must cook with your heart. Whether it is eating or cooking, you cannot fool it.
So you have to make miso soup and then work hard to make other things."
Gradually, Xiaohua is becoming more and more skillful in cooking and can already make some simple dishes.
Not only that, Qianhui also began to let Xiaohua learn something within her ability:
Washing clothes, drying clothes, folding quilts, tidying the room, using vacuum cleaner ...
Teaching a child to cook is to teach him to make a living and love.
Xiaohua, who is only 4 years old, doesn’t understand that, but the simplicity of “eat well and live well” has begun to be rooted in her heart.
Cancer mother died, the girl grew up in love
008, 4 months after Xiaohua's 5th birthday, Qianhui passed away.
The little flower who lost her mother did not have a bad life in the future.
Because, she will not aggrieved her heart and stomach, she already knows how to love herself and others.
Xiaohua kept her promise to her mother, got up at 6 o'clock every morning and made a bowl of miso soup.
The note on the wall records her daily life:
Washing her face, praying, feeding her dogs, walking, making soup, eating breakfast, brushing her teeth, piano, going to school...
During that time, my father Xinwu was very depressed. He not only picked up the cigarette that he had quit for many years, but also drank wine and was depressed all day long.
Xiaohua tried to comfort him.
She secretly threw her father's cigarette into the trash can and advised him to drink less.
Sometimes when my father is busy with work and comes home late, she prepares supper and waits for her father.
"Look at it before eating! This is made by Ah Hua, and I made rice and side dishes for my father."
Under the comfort of my daughter, the father gradually walked out of the shadow, and the father and daughter began to depend on each other.
Usually at home, anyone who has time will go to the kitchen to cook and clean the room together.
After Xiaohua goes to school, her father also has to tutor Xiaohua for homework every day.
On the weekend, my father will take Xiaohua with him, go out for a walk and climb a mountain.
In 2012, my father compiled and edited his mother's blog article into a book, the name is "Little Flower's Miso Soup".
He said that publishing a book just wanted to keep the past few years in his daughter's heart, so that Ahua could remember how her mother worked hard to live and how she faced death with strength.
In 2015, "Little Flower's Miso Soup" was adapted into a movie, which touched countless people as soon as it was released.
Now, it has been 15 years since my mother taught Xiaohua to cook, and Xiaohua is 19 years old.
She was admitted to university and studied food and food majoring, and was preparing to work in diet-related jobs after graduation.
Because she thinks that this will be very close to her mother.
Dad has never remarried and has been taking care of his daughter.
In 2010, the program team asked my father what his wish was. My father replied:
"I hope the family of three will have dinner together."
Now 12 years have passed, and the program team asked about his wish again. My father still said with tears in his eyes:
"I want the family of three to have dinner together."
Although this wish can no longer be realized, at least Xiaohua is still with my father.
Although after getting into college, the father and daughter have fewer opportunities to have dinner together.
But as long as the daughter has time to go home, they will go to the kitchen to cook and make miso soup together, and have a lively meal.
9 years, an dining table closely connects the father and daughter.
Recently, Anwu Xinwu's book was published, and he and his daughter took the book to visit Qianhui.
Although the sadness has not subsided, I believe that the father and daughter will firmly move towards the future and live a good life.
Cherish the present and cherish everything your mother has given for herself. This is the meaning of life.
Living well is a life practice
Zhu Guangqian Mr. Zhu once said:
"The first thing in life is life."
The word "life" is simple, but it is really not easy to live well.
In today's society, we have seen too many such people:
is unwilling to cook, think it's troublesome and waste time, and order a takeaway and deal with it.
hates the smell of smoke and fire, and proudly says that he doesn't touch the spring water of his fingers;
thinks that everything can be bought, no matter how well he is at home, can he still taste delicious in the store outside?
But perhaps, cooking is the best way to express feelings.
Food can not only bring a sense of fullness, but also a sense of satisfaction and healing.
Maintaining devotion to food is not only a gift from nature, but also a twelve-point attitude of one's own efforts.
Three meals a day seem like a trivial matter, but in fact it hides a person's deepest feelings.
I have a friend, Kobayashi, who never went to the kitchen before, either went out to eat or ordered takeout.
However, the epidemic was blocked at home for half a month. He could not go out or order takeout, so he had to cook by himself.
Start with the simplest cooking clear soup noodle , and at most fry an egg.
Then slowly learn to cook some vegetables, fry a piece of steak, and then learn a few home-cooked stir-fry.
I asked him how he felt when cooking by himself. He replied:
"It's quite satisfying. Eating what you cook is particularly fulfilling. I have never felt this way before, and my whole mood suddenly became clear."
To put it bluntly, it's life.
And the days are firewood, rice, oil, salt, sauce, vinegar and tea.
If you want to live a good life, you have to experience the fireworks of the world steadily.
It may not be a great talent to know how to cook, it is nothing more than being obsessed with a spoonful of salt and a handful of fire.
But I believe that people who know how to cook can live well wherever they go.
Because they have at least found a way to get along with themselves and the world, they have mastered a power to escape those dark moments.
Wang Zengqi once said:
"Food food is just a bowl of fireworks in the world."
Life is actually a mirror.
When you treat it with a negative attitude, it will return you to the deserted days.
On the contrary, you treat it with a positive attitude, a steaming heart, and a pair of labor hands. What rewards you is a poetic life.
click "look" and be a person who loves life, eat well, and live well.
*Author: Shi Guangjun-Shuangmu, source: Slow Time (ID: manshiguang3). This is the healing official account that 1 million intellectuals are watching. Only write in depth, not gossip. Every night at 9:15, use words to let the soul rest, a must-read before going to bed! Follow me to help you heal your anxiety and continue to grow.
