We have real and ideal identities.
The real identity has been emphasized countless times, that is, the identity that is always unchanging, the identity that is invisible and intangible, but everywhere, and the identity that is working everywhere, is also the unchanging place that responds to changes with the unchanging.
Ideal identity is the embodiment of the real identity, it has hundreds of billions of aspects, such as social identity, husband, wife, father, mother, son, daughter, etc., all of them are incarnations. Then, as each ideal identity, there must be corresponding thinking, speech, and behavior in the corresponding relationship of this identity, thereby demonstrating this ideal identity.
So as fathers and mothers, we have interpreted the identity of our cognitive scope with unique thinking, words and behaviors. This role, such as strong, thin, powerful, weak, erudite, ignorant, strong, inferior, fear, fraud, etc., within the cognitive scope of this identity. But the key is that we must remember that this definition does not represent the true identity of ourselves. It is just a definition of a certain aspect of display. After all, it has countless aspects, so what should we do next?
We need to clearly and firmly know which type of father or mother you want to be, or which type you usually appreciate, and you can write it down, starting from the easy-to-do and simple type. For example, if you appreciate a mother with such characteristics, get along with your children, be generous, and speak appropriately, then when you look at your usual self, where is the closest to your goal, you can start from that place, and when there are changes, like yourself, encourage yourself, and praise yourself.
We must know that every type of ideal identity is in the real identity, that is, no matter what kind of person we want to be, it has existed in the real identity for a long time, but we lack a desire, and we don’t know our ideal identity and don’t know how to do it.
In the conversion of ideal identity, it is not immediately from A to B, and there is a state containing AB in the middle, that is the time and space where your true identity is. First of all, we must realize that our current social identity is not what we want, so we can let it go happily and thank ourselves for creating such a self. This awareness and this refreshing letting go will allow us to enter the AB state, thus entering the time and space of infinite choices. So before entering, we must set the ideal identity we want, which type of parents we want to be, and enter this field of creation with clear and firm goals, which will inevitably present our ideal identity state.
