I am 49 years old this year. When I was young, my husband died in a car accident. I raised my son with great difficulty. Now my son has started a family and started a career, but he has a quarrel with me, the lonely old lady. I really regret having a son in this life. After careful consideration, I decisively cut off the relationship between mother and son with him and my life is about to start again.
I have been from a good family since childhood. I am the eldest at home and have a younger brother below, but my parents have never favored boys over girls and treat me and my younger brother equally. Although they are both farmers, they have never let the children suffer. I go out early and come back late every day to maintain this home.
My brother and I are both very sensible and started to help our parents with housework very early on. Until I graduated from junior high school, there was an accident at home and my father's leg accidentally broke. At that time, the medical conditions were poor, and the best treatment was delayed several times, which led to my father becoming disabled for the rest of his life.
At that time, I was already an older child. I knew very well what my father's fall would bring to this family, so I resolutely gave up my studies and went to work in a food processing factory next to the village by someone's introduction.
At that time, I really felt that I had grown up all of a sudden. Although I solved the family’s problems, my parents still had regrets, and my studies ended.
A few years have passed in a flash. I have outstanding work and my salary has increased a lot. My younger brother is also promising and was admitted to a key high school. Later, many people in the village started to introduce me to a partner, but I think it is not the time. If I get married, my younger brothers will have to spend money to go to school, and their parents will have a lot of burden and pressure. So he refused to go on a blind date.
Until my younger brother finished high school and was admitted to college, when I was in college, I shed tears when my younger brother brought back the admission notice of for me to read it. I said my brother finally went to college and would have a future. My younger brother told me that when I went to college, I had to work and study, earn money by myself, and no longer ask for family money. I was very moved. My younger brother grew up and became sensible.
My younger brother left school and rarely came back since then, and never asked for money from his family. I knew he was working part-time while working to earn money.
The younger brother became stable, so my parents began to urge me to have a marriage. When my husband and I met, his family was also an ordinary rural family. We worked in the same factory and were in a free relationship. We got married after a year of love. At that time, I wanted him to be alone, and it was basically the same as a naked marriage when I got married. Our family didn't ask for any dowry, and my parents didn't give me any dowry.
Two husbands and brothers, he is the eldest, and we separated shortly after we got married. When we first split the family, we had nothing, and we had enough food to eat at most for half a year. In addition, my mother-in-law gave us a bicycle and a sewing machine. Fortunately, we still work in the factory and can earn some money.
I gave birth to a son the next year. My mother-in-law was very happy. When my son was young, my mother-in-law moved here to take care of her. Later, the factory had poor economic benefits and went bankrupt, so my husband and I were laid off. After I had no job, I took my son by myself and asked my mother-in-law to go to my uncle's house to take care of his children. My husband went to the long-distance truck.
Although I don’t work and have no income, my husband earns a lot of money from sports cars, and it’s more than enough to maintain our small family. I think I will go out to work when my son goes to school to reduce the burden on my husband. But there was an unexpected situation in the sky. My husband died in a car accident. When the bad news came, I was heartbroken and felt that the sky was about to collapse.
My son is still young and I don’t have a job, so I really don’t know how to go about the future. Life has to continue. Some people advised me to remarry. It would be much better to have a man around me than to take care of the child alone, but I am afraid that my son will have a psychological shadow. After half a year of confusion, I finally figured it out that my husband is gone, I still have a son, I must raise my son.
Later I provided him with his studies in college until he graduated from college. Only I know the hard work. After my son graduated, he worked hard for several years and started a family and a career.
My son works as a manager in a large company. His daughter-in-law is from the city. When my son got married, his daughter-in-law insisted on buying a house in the city. I have not saved much money in the years, so I went to find my younger brother. My younger brother gave my son 200,000 and got married.
The next year, my daughter-in-law became pregnant. My son called me to his house early to take care of their daily life. Until my daughter-in-law gave birth to a granddaughter, I served my daughter-in-law after her confinement. I wanted to go back to my hometown, but she said she was too busy and had no choice but to stay and take care of my granddaughter.
I am more tired than a nanny every day. To be honest, my son and daughter-in-law have hardly ever held a granddaughter. Every day, in addition to taking care of my granddaughter, I also have to buy vegetables, cook, clean and wash clothes for them. I'm busy all day from morning to dark, and I can't be idle for a while. But my daughter-in-law never praised me and could not understand my hard work. I always feel that it is natural for my grandmother to coax my granddaughter.
It’s not enough that I’m so tired. I have to look at my daughter-in-law’s face often. If I don’t do well at all, she will make her look arrogant and show off. Although she won’t scold you, what she says makes you feel uncomfortable than scolding you.
I remember one time when my birthday was on, my son and daughter-in-law came home very late. When they came back, they brought me a cake, then cooked me a bowl of longevity noodles, and said that today was my birthday, so they bought me birthday cake for me to celebrate my birthday. Actually, I was very happy at that time and felt it was worth taking care of them for so long.
But less than a month later, one night, my son and daughter-in-law came back, carrying a lot of gifts in their hands, including clothes, shoes and jewelry. After I came back, my daughter-in-law took out her clothes and gestured on me, then nodded with satisfaction. I thought I bought it for me. I was so excited.
But at night, when I was coaxing my granddaughter to sleep, my granddaughter told me that it was her grandma's birthday and asked if I had invited me? I was stunned for a long time at that time. It turned out that the new clothes my daughter-in-law was gesturing on me were birthday gifts bought for her mother. Thinking of those big and small gifts, and thinking about how I celebrated my birthday, one cake and one bowl of longevity noodles, I was speechless.
The next day, the son and daughter-in-law went out with their granddaughter. The granddaughter asked, "Didn't grandma invite grandma?" A single sentence left the three adults in the family speechless. I could only tell my granddaughter that my grandma couldn't get over if she was uncomfortable, and asked her to say hello to her on behalf of her grandma.
I worked so hard here every day and took care of my granddaughter for more than three years. Their attitude towards me and my in-laws is a world of difference. For this reason, I realized that my old woman's weight in their hearts was not as good as a nanny. I went from busy to dark all day long, and I was so tired that my back was sore and my back was dizzy. I fell asleep in less than a minute after lying on the bed. At night, I had to iron milk powder for my granddaughter, so I was so busy that I didn’t even have a minute of rest during the day. I'm really exhausted.
Taking advantage of the day I could take a day off, I took a bus back to my hometown alone, but that night, my son called and said that since I was back to my hometown, I would rest at home for a few more days. I'll pick me up in a few days. But I had been home for a week, and my daughter-in-law called and said she would not let me go back, saying that they had hired a nanny. I am really better than being a nanny than being a grandma.
I also thought it through thoroughly during that time. My son couldn't count on him anymore. I was not old yet and should have my own life. So I found a job in the cafeteria in the factory near the village.
During this period, I met the chef Lao Liu. Lao Liu is three years older than me. He is a chef who does not have an chef certificate. However, the dishes he cooks are delicious. I am an handyman . I can’t eat when the workers in the factory eat. Every time the workers finish eating, I can only eat some leftovers after I finish cleaning. Later, when Lao Liu saw that I was pitiful, he often gave me some small hospitality. At first I thought this would be bad. But Lao Liu insisted.
We gradually became familiar with each other. I learned that Lao Liu had been divorced for many years. When he was young, he had no ability, so his wife divorced him and a daughter married to the Northeast. Now he is the only one left to live.
After a long time, we all secretly developed subtle feelings for each other. Later, the cafeteria leader saw that we were all interesting, so he made do with us to live together.
I remember that once I got off work in the evening, Lao Liu asked me to get off work later. Later I found out that he had prepared a few special dishes and a bottle of wine. I knew that he was going to confess his love to me.
After three rounds of drinking, he finally expressed his feelings. After more than half a year of getting along, I think Lao Liu is very real and takes good care of me. He is a person who can be entrusted to the rest of his life.
But I have always had some concerns in my heart, just whether my son would agree. Lao Liu saw my concerns, so he asked me to consider it first and not rush to answer him.
Later, when I talked to my son about this, my son and daughter-in-law refused on the spot. There was no way, so I kept dragging Lao Liu and didn't give him a reply.
After a while, my son called and said he wanted to change a big house. If Lao Liu was willing to pay a 300,000 yuan gift, he would agree to us together.
My son was too shameless and I was completely disappointed. I didn't tell Lao Liu about this. Later, my son found Lao Liu and directly threatened Lao Liu. I know that it was not easy for Lao Liu to be alone for so many years, and he didn't have that much money.
Lao Liu found me and handed me 100,000 yuan, saying that this was his entire savings over the years, so I would use it to help my son. I returned the money to him, and I knew he really wanted to be with me. But I can't use myself as the object of the transaction. I made my point and said I would definitely be with him.
Later, Lao Liu secretly gave 100,000 yuan to his son on his back, and his son accepted it happily. But the money was not enough. My son told me that since he wanted to live with Lao Liu, he would sell his house in his hometown and move it to Lao Liu.
I discussed with Lao Liu, and Lao Liu agreed, so my son sold the house in his hometown and replaced it with a large house. I never contacted me again.
Half a year later, I got sick and needed surgery. Lao Liu contacted his son, but his son said he was busy and asked Lao Liu to take care of me. He said that Lao Liu is my wife now and should take care of me. Until I was discharged from the hospital, my son and daughter-in-law didn't even call. No word of greeting.
Think about it again when my daughter-in-law and her father were sick, the couple ran around and stayed in the hospital day and night, and even panicked to give his father money to see a doctor. I felt very sad and heartbroken.
After I was discharged from the hospital, my younger brother came to visit me and said that my son had borrowed 200,000 yuan from him, saying that he wanted to do business. Later, I learned that my son was taking kickbacks at the company. He was discovered by the company and sued him for a compensation of 200,000 yuan, but my younger brother did not give it to him. The son cursed and said he wanted to cut off relations with his younger brother.
After learning about the incident, I felt that after raising my son for more than 20 years, why did I raise an ungrateful wolf? I came to collect debts from me. I worked hard to raise him and finally became like this. My heart was completely cold.
On the third day, my son came to me and asked me for 200,000 yuan. Lao Liu was there at that time. I said we had no money and gave him all the pension money. He didn't believe it and said that if Lao Liu couldn't get 200,000 yuan, he would not let us be together.
I was so angry that I slapped my son and told him that from now on, his life and death have nothing to do with me. If you break away from his mother-son relationship and cut off all contact, you will pretend that you have never given birth to or raised this son.
